Shipping and Handling /// vestir
start off by asking yourself if you’re ready to invest 5+ years to get him to sort of get on first base if first base is him finally admitting that he has feelings for you. note: the admission is only made internally. it may take another 30 years for him to say it out loud.
guarded doesn’t even begin to cover vestir’s personality. this started even prior to his kidnapping. his parents used to him his “friends” were using him to play with his toys and visit their big house. after he joined the pirate crew, his only way of surviving and enduring what he did was to prevent ppl from getting close to him. it became natural to look at relationships around him and see them as a detriment. it takes time to gain his trust and for him to unlearn this survival tactic.
challenge him. he’s so stuck in what works for him that he needs someone to get him out of his emotionally-stunted comfort zone. though it’s best to not make him feel inadequate bc he circles back to pushing ppl away
his temper will start many fights but then he acts like he’s over it after his anger subsides. if the thing is still bothering you, you should probably bring it back up or else vestir’s never going to revisit it. but that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t be able to eventually pick up the fact that you’re upset. he’ll try to get on your good side but he won’t actually address the issue again
while he does have a libido he doesn’t experience sexual attraction. it’s easy to think he’s not interested in general. but if you’re someone who likes or needs that type of physical attention, some system of communication needs to be established. if he likes you, he’ll do literally anything for you but there are times where he genuinely can’t read a situation
it helps to read between the lines. what he says or doesn’t say is not entirely indicative of what he feels. he gravitate towards acts of service more when showing how much he cares. you could die waiting for him to say “i love you” but he will take a bullet for you several times over in the time between. he’s a risk taker but he’s not self-destructive. it means smth for him to trade his life for yours
honestly the best romantic advice i can give to be in a “successful” relationship with vestir is that you have to be aerith lylin. whatever he’s doing is working
