I read someone talking once about how the ending to supernatural was happy because it showed Sam and dean would spend eternity together, and that yeah it was sad Sam grew up and old without Dean but that between hell both ways Sam and dean had already spent more of their lives apart rather than together so at least now they finally get to spend it together and it took me forever to realize why that felt so, wrong, to me.
And it's because there's a difference between an eternity in hell and a life lived. Hell is terrible, would be terrible, and would age you, but at the end of the day it's not living.
It's one pain day after day after day until it feels like it's been merely hours and that nothing was ever real before the pain. It's such a large frame of time that it becomes meaningless no matter how many different ways you get tortured. It doesn't have ups and downs it's just hitting one bottom of the floor after another for eternity.
And like yeah, I think both Sam and Dean when they both remembered hell, probably did go through a period of knowing their brother in their soul and having no clue who he was either because it'd been decades before they were seen last.
But again, thats not living an entire lifetime without them.
Sam grew old, in a way Dean is never gonna see and know. Dean is never gonna know what his nephew was like as a baby. Dean is never gonna know what his nephew was like as a toddler, the teenager he would've helped sneak out the window, the young adult he would've taken on impromptu road trips in baby. Because Sam has to live an entire life without Dean, and by the time younger Dean gets to heaven with them, he's gonna be an adult, and that's all Dean's gonna get.
Sam didn't get to watch Dean grow old. Sam will never get to watch Dean grow into the old man who's always cracking jokes no one but him gets. He'll never get to see Dean finally goddamn rest for once in his life. He'll never know what it was to share an entire life with someone who knew him from birth and who knew him in and out all the way until final death. Because Dean died young.
Its tragic is what it is and was. It's tragic that they gave us the suggestion that the brothers were finally gonna settle down, and decided that it's just not in character for Dean to be at rest. That Dean's character arc was always going to end tragically. That the brothers were always going to have to live apart despite them spending an entire 15 seasons doing everything within and beyond their power to do the exact opposite.
Supernatural ended at best bittersweet. It ended by telling us that happiness was never in the world for these two brothers. It ended by telling us that the end of the day, someone is always gonna die young, and someone is always gonna live till they're older than them.
And that has some truth to it, and it's fine to write stories like that, but you have to call it what it is. When it's inevitable, when it's horrible, and when no one and nothing the characters can do can truly fight it,