Demisexual and Asexual and the stigma of Them (That I know)
hello my sexy readers, I am here with something a close friend of mine unknowingly face there life we will call them Ray (not their real name) Ray always thought they were genderfluid bisexual (okay not always but for the length I known them) Ray asks me questions as someone told her this is not how your sexuality works. So I spend three hours going over sexuality with them. More or less.
We came to a conslussion that they are Demisexual and Bisexual.
They only had a couple of sexual partners in real life that felt right. like where they could actually not be grossed out and actaully get aroused. These are with people they had a connection with.
Though in rps and fantasy they could think all smutty scenarios where they can get off and orgasm
so they always thought they were broken and something was wrong with them.
I AM HERE TO SAY THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT
Just because you are Demi Or Ace does not mean you are “Picky” “A Prude” “Stuck up” and so on.
They always thought that because they could have that orgasm that there lack of interest in real life sex meant there was something wrong with them. That when they had had sex with someone they connected with them that they were “Fixed”
They are not broken no demisexual or ace person is broken.
I have said this before and I will say it again.
There is a wide range of asexuals and demisexuals
some aseuxal have no sexual desire at all some can rp it some sometimes get hit by a mood and can self pleasure or have sex rare but yes
and just because your asexual does not mean you cannot have sex you can it just depends on what you are okay with and what your comfortable with
same with demi me and ray rp and they can write the smutty scenes from their oc and get off slowly but surely but when they are writing anyone else sexual scenes it is almost impossible for them to enjoy it.
Again making them feel like something is wrong with them.
NOTHING IS WRONG WITH THEM or any Demi or Ace
So please stop saying things like
“Oh you can get aroused? That means your not ace”
“Oh You rp smut or write smut? That means you cannot be demi or ace.”
“Why don’t you want to kiss/have sex with me, your just being a prude”
“Why dont you have a boyfriend/girlfriend/SO your just being picky.”
“You cannot be bi/pan if your demi/ace”
these are some of the stigma all the demisexual and asexuals have had to face and more
Same with the gender identity of genderfluid
We have to stop saying just because new things like nonbinary genderfluid demi and ace are not real because that is what they said about gays, trans, lesbians, bisexuals
not to long ago. Just because these are new words does not make them any less real and this why we need to have gay pride because more people are finding out who they are and need a voice.
(I am looking at you the people who come at my friends saying they are not demi, ace, gender fluid, non binary just because you dont accept those terms in the LGBTQ+ community. The communtiy is forever growing and changing)
Hell before people thought bisexual you could only like guys and girls and pansexual was when you like trans men and woman (I was wrong about this for a while too but I am now more educated and understanding.)
One day there may people andriods and people who have a sexuality for them in real life. I know that is way off like hundreds of years. Just the commuinty is always growing and changing and we need to accept them
(except if your sexuality causes harm to anyone or spreads hate)
