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[i-suggest-getting-plural]

forcing splits is unhealthy and this blog is absolutely disgusting for advocating for harm like that. i hope you choke on shit and die

Narrow-minded beliefs like these will always cause more harm than good for all sides of the plural community. I am aware that you aren't looking for genuine conversation, you're just looking to be vitriolic and hateful for the sake of sating your fragile ego that cannot handle the idea of others being happy where you yourself are not, but saying things like this causes harm for medically recognized and traumagenic systems as well.

Healthy multiplicity is a deeply important and healthy end-goal for lots of systems, and we have always advocated for harmless ways to expand on one's plural experience, whether it be further separation, having a higher member count, the exact opposite of these things, etc.

That being said, thank you for being our first hate anon. We rate your ask a solid.... 2/5. You used an uncreative talking point and did not exercise critical thought on the actual purpose of this blog or intent behind it. Good day.

This ask was answered by Ivory (He/Hymn/Zem/Aer).

[dear-systems]

i need young disordered systems to know this

We have always been ostracized and gawked at. We have always been seen as fake and trendy. Yes, always. We have never been taken seriously, no matter how we protrayed ourselves.

Just in media:

Psycho was released in 1960.

The Three Faces Of Eve was released in 1957.

Sibyl was published in 1973 (and at the time the system it was based off was fakeclaimed so hard they are still internationally mocked).

Me, Myself & Irene was released in 2000.

If you remember nothing else, remember this: Our strength has always been in unity, both as individuals and as a community.

And you are not alone. You are not the first. We’re here with you, and we always have been.

[mondstadt-kincare]

confession from frisk again (CW: Medical Abuse) - I am so angry at Chara's therapists/psychiatrists. we were plural in the Underground, because we share a single SOUL... plus the spirits who took care of us. but after our separation, we both are still plural via possession by spirits who we consider our chosen family (because they took care of us for the longest, longer than the monsters). But then the psych doctors battered Chara, invalidated him, and convinced him (he uses he/him in my timeline don't @ me) to STOP BEING PLURAL. to denounce our ghostly caretakers! To deny their existence and just focus on being a Normal Person and Toriel's son (the latter of which he already considered himself as).

Those doctors broke my close friendship & partnership with Chara for years. That's so messed up and I hate those doctors for stealing those years and relationship from him. I had to snap at him to make him realize that our spirit companions were real and loving and have always been! Even when he denied them, they still watched over him and cared for him, told me how much they missed him. I'm so tired of doctors thinking that singlethood should be the only way to exist!

<3

[dear-systems]

We told our best friend today and she said were just taking roleplaying too far and to just stop and be ourself because we dont have to be anyone else and we now keep questioning if everything we now do is a lie, if were lying to ourselves if irs bad for our health or therapist diagnosed us the other year but did we trick her too, we tried to stop and just be one person but we just naturally think in pluralitality its hard and tiring to try acting as one person all the time

That sounds like a really bad friend.

You know your reality better than anyone else.

-Star

[dear-systems]

hi recently diagnosed and discovered, to start with it was like everything was super clear and I could easily switch with alters and we could all interact and talk fine- there’s 3 of us, but recently it’s been a few months, therapist took a year to diagnose, it’s like it’s gone so foggy again they feel distant, one can’t front at all and when the other tries me and him get so blurry we can’t tell each other apart and we don’t want to get stuck together because we’re both involved with different people and we made great progress with the therapist to function separately but it’s like we’ve gone 30 steps backwards. Therapist suggested it’s because we’re not in an abusive relationship or situation now so my did might just be going away? Which sounded really odd and scary and I don’t want the others to go away. I don’t know what I should be doing or what I’ve done wrong.

Your DID nor plurality isn't "going away", that's for sure- that's definitely not how it works.

It's normal for recovery not to be linear. Often, you make a lot of progress, and then seem to go backwards because it's finally safe to go backwards, and you're subconsciously preparing to process things that have been under the surface for a while.

It's also possible- though less likely- that something happened that was bad and that you don't remember, and your system structure changed to accommodate it.

You haven't done anything wrong. Healing is just hard sometimes.

[december-rains]

Hi hi!! There's this girl I live with that causes a lot of drama in my life and she tells me she has this "other side" of her that comes out sometimes. At first I thought, "Oh! That sounds like DID, you should talk to a therapist/psychologist." But... then she went on about how this other person in her can be scary and violent and uncontrollable... which made me rethink... because I've never known someone with DID to have an uncontrollable violent side, but then again I don't know as much about it as I should. Can this happen with DID?

Simply asking to understand, not to attack you are anything. I myself have psychosis, so her explanation sort of made me feel a little off because it feeds towards the "violent" stereotype, which is a behavior I've never experienced or known anyone else to. She's also been known to lie (I'm thinking she's a compulsive liar?), so I do have cause to question what she's saying since it's directly affecting my safety.

Hope this doesn't come off as mean! I just want to understand my situation better and I don't trust the internet!

It is possible to happen, that's true, but it's unlikely. Everyone has sides to themselves, and it's very common, especially in toxic people, to project and dissociate from parts of yourself you don't like, especially things like anger and jealousy. It seems far more likely that what's going on is an alter ego, rather than an alter. Especially with the way you describe her, it seems like she's projecting and trying to justify and separate herself from her own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. There's nothing here that would indicate plurality, at least to us. Even a median system would be a stretch.