I have a question about grave yard ediquette, I am the only caretaker of a rual family graveyard that had been abandoned for some time. I've been trusting my intuition up to this point and I want to leave an alcohol offering, but it feels wrong to just pour it out at the entrance? I don't want to litter or use glass that could break, do you have any suggestions for biodegradable containers or a more eco friendly way to offer a drink? I know almost nothing about traditional graveyard work, I just do what feels right and respectful, so if you have any tips or know any more experienced people please let me know <3. Thanks!
So my first thought is if dumping an entire drink or bottle at the entrance feels wrong, you could walk the perimeter or offer a little at each grave, pouring only if the alcohol is accepted. That way everyone gets some if they want it and you're not dousing one section of grass/soil*.
As for biodegradable containers most manmade items still take a while to break down, so I struggle to recommend anything like that as I pickup paper cups and napkins quite often in my own cemetery. However you could get creative with flower heads that mimic cups.
Alternatively, you could do a "leave no trace offering" by pouring the alcohol into a glass or simply opening the bottle, announcing to the spirits that they may come take a drink if desired, and when you feel as if they've had their fill, you can pack it back up to dispose of at home (bringing a funnel may be helpful).
*Alcohol can dehydrate and kill plants, as well as harm the microbes in the soil. So if you're using a large amount, I'd suggest a water chaser to dilute it.