#trans info

[earlgraytay]

Hey, PSA for younger/newer transmascs:

Tumblr has been showing targeted ads for "FTM binders" off Amazon. They look like this:

Do not buy these.

A binder is a piece of medical equipment. If you use one incorrectly, or use a poorly made one, you can really fuck up your ribs. This article from the Cleveland Clinic talks about how to bind safely.

A $14 binder is guaranteed not to be safe. There's a reason reputable companies charge more- sometimes a lot more. They have to carefully design binders so they don't crush your ribs or make you sick.

You know how everyone says Don't Bind With Duct Tape? Don't bind with Amazon binders.

[the-transgenda-agenda]

ATTENTION TRANSGENDER MEN (AND NONBINARY PEOPLE) WHO ARE ON T OR WANT TO GO ON T.

After spending roughly the past week editing and updating the testosterone page of The Transgender Dictionary, I can confidently say that its pretty comprehensive at this point. Check it out!

please

[cptapathy]

potentially really dumb question, but what's the difference between a gender recognition certificate and a gender marker on your ID? i've got my gender marker changed and there's no visible trace of it having my agab on it, but i know that this could be backtracked in the system since my birth certificate didn't get destroyed/changed.

So, a GRC is a document that allows you to change the gender on birth, marriage, and death certificates.

It also use to mean that no organisation could legally exclude you for being a different AGAB as the sex for a same-sex area (women/men only stuff).

That additional protection is now gone, so it's just birth, marriage, and death now. And as no one is out here requesting birth cert instead of passports, it's functionally useless.

Especially if your one of us queers who is like "eww marriage"

Gender markers are just that, markers to denote what your gender is on ID docs like passports.

There isn't some database for everyone who's changed their gender on any ID (to my knowledge) in part because many of those changes are due to clerical error in the original document. So no real way of finding trans people without going through each passport account and checking for changes.

I have always been against GRCs due to the potential for misuse, we should be allowed to request a change to the doc and that be it

Or even better, don't record gender on birth, marriage, and death certs. It would be really helpful for intersex people, too, if we didn't diagnose them with a Gender at birth

[space-bunny-chai]

hey! i recently had top surgery (woohoo!), and i thought I'd write down what the whole process was like for me, from start to finish (aka 6 weeks later). i hope this helps anybody looking into top surgery or just looking for someone else's experience!

quick info:

i got ftm top surgery as a transmasc person on October 23rd, 2024. i got the double incision type, without nipple grafts, plus liposuction. my surgeon was Dr. Rukmini Rednam in Houston, Texas, USA.

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this link is to a Dropbox PDF. if for whatever reason you can't access it, I'll reblog this post soon with just the plain text from the file! there are no photos or anything in this file, and no graphic descriptions, just quick summaries and a general timeline.

[spongebobsquarepiss]

posting for the first time in so long. hello

here are some things people don't tell you about top surgery before you get it.

•constipation is a bitch, there will be a poop belly baby. it will not be fun or cute. it will be hideous.

•sleeping is horrendous for stomach and side sleepers.

•sunburn????

•skin will peel around the incision

•someone might have to help wipe while using the bathroom

•shame and embarrassment don't exist here. literally none.

•no shower after surgery for a week. baby wipes, dry shampoo, and hand sanitizer.

•ive seen many people say that after surgery you won't want to cuddle or feel anyone, this, personally, was misleading. I needed constant affection or physical touch from my partner. sad I couldn't cuddle them before we left :(

•looking in the mirror, who's that guy? that's you. you guy. flat chest guy. that's u, guy

•the information they give will be enough and yet not nearly enough. read the packet over and over again, then do it again before asking the poor nurse on the patient portal the same goddamn question she's heard a million times

•acne breakout?

•hair will start to grow, mine happened to be my chest and face. it could be the booty or feet for others. always count your blessings.

•pain meds are your friend. use wisely but listen to your body. use the big prescribed med when needed but it might make you sleepy

•cbd gummies were my savior for sleep and pain, use mindfully, like anything else, duh

•i had large tits and after they were gone my back muscles had to readjust. it felt weird and hurt a bit. stretch. always stretch.

•seriously, doing shoulder/neck stretches every day will help recovery and gain back mobility. the skin is stiff, hard, and taught after surgery. it will need some love in all forms

•use what lotion/gel the doc suggests for the scars and surrounding areas. that shit will be so dry and desperate for love

•healing time is the perfect time to do some new or old hobbies, watch a few shows, and have time to do lots of introspective personal work. choose your time wisely.

•it is okay to do nothing. it is okay to sleep. it is okay to do nothing. It is okay to do nothing. did you hear that??? it is okay to do nothing. the body is healing and needs the rest. doing nothing is the best thing anyone can do. it is ok to do nothing.

•^remember to take your meds and practice whatever coping mechanisms you have to help with depression, anxiety, guilt, etc

•all this weirdness and pain was worth it. every single part. living a life without a chest is worth all of the waiting and the pain and the worry.

I hope this helps anyone. someone thinking about maybe getting top surgery and wondering what it's like. this is not the full picture, this is my own experience, please do more digging if you're on the search for information on top surgery.

much love to all

[uncleghostt]

Hi to anyone looking into top surgery!!

I had heard that losing pigment in your nipples (if doing free nipple grafts) was a possibility, but I had never actually seen pictures of what that could look like.

When it happened to me, I was terrified that the color change meant that my nipples were dying and/or not taking-- but they were healthy and doing fine :))

I'll include some healing pictures under the cut for anyone who wants to see how the color of my nipples has changed overtime. I'm a little over 3 months post op now and they still aren't all one color (but I don't mind all too much haha)

[cliban]

Hello hi hi hi! Here are some sources for debunking 'you need dysphoria to be trans'

Hello all! Are you sick and tired of being invalidated for not being dysphoric? Your friends? Transmeds just annoy you in general? Get into arguments with transmeds online a lot?

I have just the post for you! Sources from a dysphoric trans man that has four years in psychology with a speciality in abnormal psychology and gender + sexuality

Now keep in mind that this stuff is in a Discord server, and it's open for anyone to join! Just DM me (I don't bite I prommy) or send me an ask that I can answer privately, and I'll get you right in there. It has additional arguments and We Want You! To help probably!

Alright, here we go

List of sources with an acknowledgement or implication of trans people not experiencing dysphoria:

In today's medical world, being transgender is defined as:

a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex [Google] [Note lack of 'distress']

a general term that describes people whose gender identity, or their internal sense of being male, female, or something else, does not match the sex they were assigned at birth [https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/what-is-transgender] [Again, lack of distress]

a gender identity or gender expression that differs from the sex that they were assigned at birth. [Wikipedia]

a non-medical term that has been used increasingly since the 1990s as an umbrella term describing individuals whose gender identity (inner sense of gender) or gender expression (outward performance of gender) differs from the sex or gender to which they were assigned at birth [https://psychiatry.org/patients-families/gender-dysphoria] [Not all transgender people suffer from gender dysphoria and that distinction is important to keep in mind.]

people feel that the sex they were assigned at birth doesn’t match their gender identity, or the gender that they feel they are inside [https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/gender-identity/transgender]

an umbrella term for persons whose gender identity or expression (masculine, feminine, other) is different from their sex (male, female) at birth [https://www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/transgender.htm]

Note that none of these sites require discomfort or dysphoria as a primary symptom of being transgender. In fact, some outwardly state that dysphoria is NOT a requirement of being trans. All of this states that dysphoria is not a requirement, but a symptom of being trans.

The reverse: Definitions of dysphoria that imply/acknowledge that not all trans people experience it

In the reverse, the concept of gender dysphoria is defined as

Some people who are transgender will experience “gender dysphoria,” which refers to psychological distress that results from an incongruence between one’s sex assigned at birth and one’s gender identity [https://psychiatry.org/patients-families/gender-dysphoria/what-is-gender-dysphoria]

Gender dysphoria (GD) is the distress a person feels due to a mismatch between their gender identity—their personal sense of their own gender—and their sex assigned at birth. [Wikipedia]

Gender dysphoria (previously gender identity disorder), according to Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental disorders are defined as a "marked incongruence between their experienced or expressed gender and the one they were assigned at birth." [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK532313/]

Gender dysphoria is a condition that causes distress and discomfort when the gender you identify with conflicts with the sex that you were assigned at birth. [https://www.webmd.com/sex/gender-dysphoria]

However, I think https://www.healthnavigator.org.nz/health-a-z/g/gender-dysphoria/ from my home country, New Zealand, defines it best, as:

You (transgender) may feel that the sex you were assigned is incorrect. This is called being 'transgender'. This incongruence can be distressing, and the experience of distress is known as ’gender dysphoria'.

Alright, think that's it! I'll reblog with more sources whenever needed! Don't forget, we could all use a helping hand in the Discord!

[shinetroll]

Here's something nobody ever mentions about testosterone:

Voice changing can be painful. You might think you just mysteriously got sick for like 3 weeks and start to worry abut why you're not feeling better. All my friends were worried about me.

Until one day I was chatting with one of my cis male friends who is closer to the trans community than all the others, and when I complained about the sore throat he just casually said "oh yeah, well your voice is changing. It's not surprising your throat would be sore."

and I was like "Really? That's a thing that happens?"

And yeah, apparently when dudes' voices are changing it hurts for a little while, but cis guys just don't talk about it for some reason? and then when they grow up they forget what it felt like going through puberty as a teen.

So, if you're on T and get a sore throat in the first or second month, don't panic. I've been informed that this is normal.