There are no hard and fast rules on how to evoke the true essence of elegance. It’s not about breton striped shirts, ballet flats and classic trench coats. Chignons, nude lipstick and pearls don't come into play. Elegance is an essence, a feeling, a way of life. Chanel once said, ‘elegance is refusal’ and who are we to disagree with arguably the most elegant women of all time? Elegance is refusing to wear a dress that you feel less than spectacular in, it’s calmly taking off those pants because they’re a little bit too tight and it’s passing on this season’s body-con mini-dress trend because it just doesn’t flatter your figure. Here’s how to be truly elegant without adhering to the outdated notion of pearl stud earrings and ballet pink nail polish. Posture and Poise Why do you think supermodels always look so enigmatic? Aside from the fact that most of them are six feet tall, they’re trained to walk as if they’re royalty. Shoulders down; back straight; head up and look the world right in the eye. There is nothing more elegant than confidence. Please and Thank you Say please, send thank you notes, be gracious and kind. Elegance and politeness are synonymous, so if the aim of your game is be an elegant lady, be sure to mind your modern manners. Think before you speak and leave an impression where ever you go. #investinyourself #yourstyle #elegance #poise #posture #manners #politeness #trueessence #7 #manners #stylebloggers #beauty #leaveanimpression #lady #mylife #modernmanners #nycposture #happiness #confidence #personalinvestment (at ANTOINETTE CHAMPAGNE FINISHING SCHOOL)