#tw broken object

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Anti-objectum is when you vent about missing an object that got destroyed/lost people default to replacing the object. like okay thanks for the thought but i want my friend back.

This is anti-objectum.

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When a plate and bowl broke that I was extremely attached to, that were my friends, my mom put them aside and said we'll fix them.. And then threw them away without telling me :(

I was so devastated and she said I'm overreacting and she'll replace it, but not only can you not replace a friend but also those aren't even sold anymore!! She knew that so she just lied to me

This is anti-objectum and general shitty behavior.

The fact that she promised you’d fix them and then tossed them anyways is what really angers me, and she knew they aren’t sold anymore either as well.

You aren’t overreacting 🫂

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anti objectum is most people not providing any kinda warning when media (specifically videos and movies in my experience) show people destroying objects/broken objects :(

i see a lot of media where people get angry or something and smash their laptops or just belongings in general, and it feels like watching gore almost, especially with one of my more severe triggers being angry tantrums or meltdowns of the like (though thats really besides the point i suppose). its sad because a lot of the time you dont even really expect it at all, and all of a sudden youre forced to see something like that. i get why people dont typically provide warnings for this kind of thing but its still sad/disappointing to see

This is anti-objectum and I think can fall under ableism.

I think the bare minimum they could have is a loud sound warning, next best being a destruction of property one. Even outside of objectum experiences, seeing others destroying things can be very triggering to those with trauma, sensitivity to loud noises, etc. so I think they're necessary no matter what in the case of objects being smashed out of nowhere.

Also with the general topic of trigger warnings, a lot of people get the misconception when one asks for a trigger warning, that they are actively seeking out (often clearly) triggering content in order to ask for warnings, when often the opposite is the case (not directed at anyone, just a general statement). - of course, I understand there are millions of potential triggers that one can forget to warn about, so sometimes make sure you get the big idea first (ex: video that may have jumpscares having a loud sound warning).

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our(&) dad seems to think I'm crazy for wanting to protect the tech in the house. called it overreacting when I cried for an hour after he (to his credit, accidentally) dropped a big CRT TV out of the attic (still works fyi!! those guys are strong)

by the way he talks both to and about me I can tell he thinks I'm stupid for hugging one of our phones to calm it out of its glitching episodes even though IT LITERALLY WORKS-

he's trying to convince me to sell some of the tech we have to be able to afford repairs for the other ones (which I GUESS makes sense in theory if you don't understand I love themb,,)

but he's a boomer both literally and spiritually so what am I to expect, right? at least he's not against any of the """"normal"""" things I identify as like aroace or nonbinary 🙄🙄🙄

but noooo he just can't grasp that I feel the same way about technology the way one would about close friends.

- ♟💭, if that's not taken

This is anti-objectum.

You aren't "stupid" for being close to tech, it sounds like he doesn't understand. Plus if you're fine with the current state of your tech, even if some are broken or glitching, I don't see a need for him to push selling them to get repairs for others.

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🍝 Do you have any object partners that are consumable/extremely finite or limited (food, candle, etc)?

🛒 Has being OS influenced a purchase before?

💔 Has an object ever broken your heart? (such as losing them in some way, breaking up with them, etc)

📦 What is the "weirdest" object you are into?

💛 If you could have time alone with a public object, what would you do?

🍝 I believe snowballs would count, and maybe orbeez? (Since they dry out)

🛒 I bought a lovely red magic 8 ball (she’s very sassy)

💔 I’ve lost a few of my marbles, sadly

📦 The sound of wind chimes and the library of babel are fairly odd lol

💛 I’m fairly romance oriented with most public objects, it’d probably be a lot of holding and cuddling.

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I..do want them all to be repaired eventually, I don't like seeing them hurt :(

but selling isn't the way to go about that. saving is. I've told him this. Repeatedly. like. I know CRTs are worth hundreds of dollars to collectors. I also know that we need money.

but the most important thing to me is if we sold our CRTs we wouldn't be able to see them anymore :(

this Mission of ours is already going to take years, I'm aware. why would we willingly give up something important to us just to make it take a couple less months?

- ♟💭

Okay, in that case, set aside a small amount of earnings for just repairs, what you set aside shouldn’t eat into normal expenses (rent, food, utilities) and it should also leave enough for you to enjoy simple pleasures (small outings, games, etc.)

I’m not the best with financial tips, so any extras will be appreciated

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Hello! This is mostly in reference to Applesolutelymac: I completely understand how you feel. The reason of why my boyfriend had broken was because I do not know how to handle stuff carefully. It doesn't make you a bad person. And I'm sure Mushikui would appreciate the worry. For me, even if he's broken, i still know my boyfriend will always love me. I hope the grief isn't unbearable, and i hope you manage to live with it. Grief is never easy, but trust me, it will get better.

With maybe luv- that one guy over there with the laptop boyfriend!

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