#tbt #ShoutOutToMyEx #BravoToYou #LessonsLearned #VdayReMixwitNeycha "I had my big girl panties on for the ride.” TAKE 1. Let's go. the truth is this - i highly doubt anyone has come out on the other side of an unwanted ending or break-up without being scarred in some way, however great or small. if my skin were in fact transparent, you’d see all the marks left where cunning, emotional withholding, cowardice and outright lying stabbed me many times over. but this is nothing special. we all have our stories. what is important however is that we choose consciously which ones we will tell ourselves, over and over. keeping that mix on replay in your head about how horrible your ex was - YOU KNOW THE ONE where the rotation doesn’t include YOU taking any responsibility for the dissolution of the relationship - is not only in-freakin-accurate, it’s disempowering. CHECK THIS: if everything is your exes fault, you are at the mercy of your past and all the heartbreak that lives there. THE REMIX: if you own the part you played in the break-up, you are no longer imprisoned by the past and the debilitating wounds that hang out there. instead you turn around and recline into love where you can reflect on the lessons you were suppose to learn and anoint them. in the vibration of love, everything is made holy.