Some Women Would Not Date Men Who Consider Themselves a Male Feminist
“…But these men are in a disappointing minority compared to the rest of the male feminists I, and many other women, have encountered: men who use the term “feminist” as either bait or an alter-ego, assuming that their opt-in respect for women will entitle them to legions of adoring lovers – really the most anti-feminist act of all” (Iselin, Why I Won’t Date Another ‘Male Feminist’) Nowadays to be considered a feminist is a good thing in the female eye; however, when it comes to understand the true meaning of the subject, that’s where it gets sketchy. After reading the article multiple times, it is true what she is saying. Often some men may believe that by calling themselves as a feminist they are able to do whatever they can in order to get a woman’s attention. The fact is that there has been cases where I too have experienced a moment where men who try use the term Feminism as a way to come closer with a girl, but sometimes, I do not think it is their fault for acting that way to an extent. First of all, it is important to educate the man, instead of blowing him off and quickly believe he is just trying to get love for the night. In one of the class discussions, we talked about how it is better to talk about the problem rather than ignoring it and letting the person become more ignorant. So with this, if a man messages you a picture of his chest and wants you to show him a part of “free the nipple”, I feel that is it is best that you in fact due show him an article of free the nipple. I believe this is a problem with why the author refuses to go on a date with a man who calls himself a feminist. She clearly says in the last paragraph to say no to any male feminist rather than using the term #NotAllMaleFeminist. With this, she is contradicting in her whole article where she does say that she approves of the male feminist who want to take part of the action, but ends it with disapproving of all the male feminist. A person who is aware of this bias against men can ask why she would say she would not date a man who is considered a feminist. Also, it is important to say the word SOME as if not all men want to use the term feminist to get to you, some men actually mean it. I do understand that she probably has a bad experiences with men who use the term feminist wrong, but what it is important is to stay open minded in all cases.
Iselin, Kate. "Why I Won't Date Another 'male Feminist' | Kate Iselin." The Guardian. Guardian News and Media, 19 Oct. 2015. Web. 22 Apr. 2016.