Winning when a long term female friendship ends is the subject of my book, released May 5, 2012
Females in long time friendships become as close as sister friends. Women negotiate their friendships differently than males do. They begin them differently, develop them differently and end them differently. When a friendship spanning decades ends for women many grieve as if they had lost a sister. Men who end long term friendships typically tend to just move on.
A male therapist would tell a woman that she is defending herself against her fear of abandonment, that she has become enmeshed in her friend’s life, and that she needs to set boundaries. He might just as well be speaking to a wall. It is too late at that point. Women mesh in long term friendships with other women to a level that may well seem like enmeshment to men. They are each other’s bridesmaids, they share secrets, they parent each other’s children, they accompany each other at their birthing experiences. But nothing is forever, not even friendship.
The ending of female relationships, friendships is a neglected corner of human pain. My new novel explores the issue in a novel way. It begins with a narration of a situation, that is followed by a discussion of the issues, the third segment is the story told by the husbands of the two women involved.
The finale presents a 9 point plan for winning, even when the relationship fails. It will be released on Amazon Kindle May 5th, 2012. Get your copy.
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