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I'm a virgin and I have bacterial vaginosis. The thing is,I can't go to the doctor. I'm asexual to boot and can't have anyone looking at my junk. Does the treatment require only taking a swab?Or does the vagina has to be looked at?

Usually doctors will want to take a swab to be sure it's BV and not another kind of infection. They may do a visual exam to check for thrush, but you could probably refuse the exam and still get treatment. - Kit

nitrosplicer

So I just heard about “Primed: The Back Pocket Guide for Trans Men and the Men Who Dig Them.” It’s the first sexual health resource written by and for gay, bi and queer trans men/ transmasculine people, put out by Rainbow Health Ontario, and it’s a very frank guide that answers basically any questions you might have about safer sex. They’ve released it for free download here.

loveisrespect

Identifying abuse/types of abuse :

Is this abuse? Physical Abuse Emotional/Verbal Abuse Sexual Abuse Financial Abuse Digital Abuse Stalking What is Gaslighting?

Currently in unhealthy/abusive relationship:

Building support systems while in an unhealthy relationship Tips for safely reaching out for support How to tell someone about an abusive relationship I live with my abuser Safe Pregnancy while in an abusive relationship I have Children with my abuser Documenting abuse Help, my partner is blackmailing me When your partner threatens suicide Should we Break up?

Safety Planning:

Interactive Guide Safety Planning Emotional Safety Planning Safety planning around Sexual Abuse Social Networking Safety Safety Planning for the Holidays After Breakup: Tech Safety Checklist Breaking up Safely

Getting help:

Help a friend Help a parent Help a co-worker Help a stranger Help my child Someone I know is being abused: should I call the police? Calling the police Restraining order LGBT and the law Help for undocumented immigrants Referrals

Self Care:

What is self care? Coping tips (via Yourlifeyourvoice) Self care tips (via Scarlateen) Self care for abuse and trauma survivors

Questions about abuse:

Why do people abuse? Why do people stay? Drugs/Alcohol and Abuse Abusive LGBT Relationships Does mental illness cause abuse? Why am I struggling to move on after abuse? Am I abusive too? The myth of mutual abuse

latenightcornerstore

DEAR TEENAGERS AND YOUNG ADULTS BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE FOR THE FIRST TIME:

1. DEMAND condom use 2. Hold your partners accountable for what happens in the bedroom. None of this “baby I can’t control myself around you” or “I just wanted you so bad” bullshit. 3. Coercion is real and it’s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue with your partner. Be clear on what you both want. Be clear on what you don’t want. Your boundaries should ALWAYS be respected. 4. Sex can be really emotionally and physically over-stimulating the first few times; don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask your partner to slow down, take a break, or even stop. 5. Focus less on pleasing your partner and more on exploring your partner. Everyone’s body is different and there are no “tricks” to better sex. Chances are, if you psych yourself out worrying over how well you’re “performing” then nobody’s going to have a good time. 6. Ask questions, offer suggestions. Despite what porn has probably taught you, talking during sex isn’t weird or taboo. Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They don’t know what feels good to you. [Pro-tip, a looot of people without clitorises aren’t fully aware of just HOW sensitive a clitoris is. They can be a little rough with them. Tell them to chill!!!!] 7. Your sex life is YOUR business. Don’t ever feel ashamed of how many or how few sexual partners/experiences you’re having. Do what you want, touch the people who want to touch you back, forget the rest. 8. DON’T FAKE YOUR ORGASMS!! Don’t fake your orgasms!! DON’TFAKEYOURORGAMS!! If your partner isn’t getting you there, let them know! Tell them how!! 9. There is more to sex than orgasms. Sex is a really cool way to establish intimacy and trust, to have a fun time, to relieve stress, to explore a person’s body and bring them pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, orgasms are really cool and good, but your sex life is going to be a lot better if it doesn’t revolve around them. 10. LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY!! This goes for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you are a person in possession of a vulva, you have been discouraged and even actively kept from vital knowledge about your anatomy! Do some google searches, buy a human sexuality textbook, masturbate. 11. Virginity is a useless concept. It’s completely okay if your virginity is something important to you and I’m not trying to belittle that idea. Just, for the record, in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal. Literally nothing about you changes just because you bumped uglies with someone else.

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly internet poet.

flameysaur

Talking about sex when not being sexy is the best first step to having sex. Don’t talk about it to turn on your partner, just discuss it casual. Talk about your thoughts and feelings, what you think you want, what scares you, what interests you, etc. Like anything you can think of. It makes the act easier and can help you establish boundaries before the act starts. Try doing it on a phone or over text so you know sex won’t start. Sometimes the distance helps you be honest.

psychonaut-lisa-frankenstein

i like how positive this post is and how it isn’t gender specific <3 <3 <3

Hey ladies! So I have never had sex, but I have been fingered a fair amount of times and usually when I get fingered it's pleasureful and sometimes but not often a little uncomfortable. However, last night my boyfriend tried to and IT STUNG SO BAD! We had to stop! I'm so confused. It was only one finger and I was definitely turned on enough. What could this be? And how can I make next time enjoyable again?

He may have had something on his hands that didn't get completely washed off, or he could have scraped the inside of your vag with a fingernail or something. Give your vagina a couple of days to rest/heal and it should be fine. - Kit

I had sex for the first time (woo hoo!!!) a few days ago and he didnt wear a condom as per my request. I gave him head first so no precum was near my vagina, but then after it was actually in me it was super uncomfortable and we ended up stopping after probably a half an hour. He never came but im still scared I could be pregnant! I know that there is always a risk of pregnancy with sex but should I really be constantly worried? Im not currently taking birth control. Thank you!! ❤️

Your risk of pregnancy is pretty low. Take a test if your next period is late. - Kit

Help! I need to see a doctor but I am so self-concious about somebody investigating my ass or just the general area down there. When I think about it I get really really nervous and even anxious. Maybe just because I don't want it to be sth very bad, but still it's kinda keeping me from going to a doctor. Any tips?

Just remember that doctors have seen anything and everything. They have had to get up close and personal with all kinds of infections, abscesses, decomposition, bodily fluids, the list goes on. Whatever you've got going on probably won't even rank on their top 10 list. Besides, this is what they went into medicine for, and they're here for a job: to treat you. So no need to feel ashamed!- Kit

Is sex in a hot tub save? Recently did it and he finished in the hot tub and I was wondering if it kills the sperm? Not really a woman question but I'm also concerned about the risks for myself as well.

This myth never seems to die. Having sex in a hot tub absolutely will not prevent pregnancy or transmission of STDs. It's like having sex anywhere else. - Kit

Hello! Im having some discomfort in my lower areas. It doesn't hurt, it's just uncomfortable. Basically, I feel like I have to pee but when I try only a little bit comes out or none. No burning, no period, the pee is more clear and idk about the smell. I'm going to start drinking more water as well. What do you think this is?

Sounds like a mild UTI. Lots of water!- Kit

Hi! I'm never told anything about my body and recently I discovered that I have a yeast infection. I'm confused about proper hygiene with the vaginal organ and I was wondering if anyone could help me with the basic important facts. (and how can I convince my dad that I have a yeast infection? He never takes me seriously and the burning and itching has gotten painful)

Yeast infections seem to happen at the drop of a hat. Sometimes something as simple as wearing tight jeans or leggings that don't breathe well for ONE DAY can trigger one. Generally speaking, they're best prevented by rinsing with warm water, staying hydrated, and eating a balanced diet. As for your dad, I'm not sure how to convince him if he already doesn't believe you. However, you can go to a Planned Parenthood near you and they will help you with diagnosis and treatment. - Kit

Could you find pictures of what a healthy vagina should look like inside?And maybe some of what an unhealthy one would look like (yeast infection, etc.) Thanks!

Vaginas literally all look so different I would have to post like 500 pics. Generally a healthy vagina will be in the pink to light purple range of color (not angry red or white), with only clear or white discharge, it will smell musky but not foul, and it should be sensitive but not painful or tender. - Kit

Can I use aloe to relieve itching in my vagina??

I don't know, but I wouldn't be the brave one to try. Maybe get a topical from the drug store instead?- Kit

Is it possible to get pregnant without having sex?

Unless fresh semen has somehow come in contact with your vagina, no. - Kit

I've never had sex but I'm sexually active with my bf (if blowjobs and fingering counts as sexually active lol) but I'm three days late from my period. The thing is I feel bloated, it hurts, I feel the cramps and my breasts hurt a little. There's any blood coming out. There's anything I can do to rush my menstruation? And what the fuck is going on?

Just sounds like some crappy pre-menstrual symptoms. Sorry boo- Kit

daughters toilet training so she wears a pullup often. Sometimes she'll have peed and kept it on a while ex: overnight. Her private area ends up smelling bad and ive been told youre not supposed to use soap down there but water isnt cutting it. help

Baby wipes? They're pretty much made for that so- Kit

I've realized I'm an absolutely horrible texter, I'm extremely boring and also not the best at replying because I usually have no idea what to say. Any advice on how to improve?

Practice practice practice. Just gotta inch yourself outside of that comfort zone by texting more. - Kit

so recently ive been noticing it smells alittle sour down there. I have a little discharge but no itching or burnin I've been taking a new birth control(been taking it for almost 3 weeks) I've never gotten it before my period or before ovulation

Probably the birth control. Maybe do a mirror check just to make sure there's no weird inflammation down there, otherwise, wash with warm water and it will probably solve itself with time!- Kit

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