my skies are falling

Greetings! I'm alex. 18, queer, white, and confused about many things. I'm here to listen and reblog intersectional feminism. I try to watch myself, but if at any time I am out of line, please feel free to let me know. also, they/them pronouns please.

[theprinceisgone]

okay heads up

i am moving blogs

this one is going to stay up, i have learned so much about myself and i don't want to forget what has sparked that

but if you don't know me in real life you can ask me for my new blog (i love all you please come find me), but my new blog is going to be blank for now until i refollow everyone

[somecompany-blog]

if you’re sad i suggest you allowing yourself to be that and when you’re ready to pick yourself up, that’s when you should. no matter how long it takes between the two, sad is not who you are it’s just how you’re feeling.

[racismschool-deactivated2016032]

Activist, Andrea Smith

Andrea Smith (Cherokee) is a longtime anti-violence and Native American activist and scholar. She is co-founder of the Boarding School Healing Project and INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence, a national grassroots organization that utilizes direct action and critical dialogue. Smith has published widely on issues of violence against women of color and is one of the nation’s leading experts on the topic, as well as a highly-sought after speaker.

Smith currently teaches in media and cultural studies at the University of California, Riverside. In addition to Conquest: Sexual Violence and American Indian Genocide, Smith authored Native Americans and The Christian Right: The Gendered Politics of Unlikely Alliances and helped edit INCITE!’s two anthologies, The Revolution Will Not Be Funded: Beyond the Non-Profit Industrial Complex and Color Of Violence. She has also contributed to South End Press’s two forthcoming anthologies, The Revolution Starts at Home, and Sovereign Acts.

[universemess]

[razorshapes]

Geert Goiris

Giants (2012)

[fantasia]

[tranqualizer]

[photo: a digital image of a black cat peeking out over a book in front of its face. the book cover reads, “world domination for cats.”]

[her0inchic]

[thatswhenyouseesparks-deactivat]

Still my favorite story from the Lord of the Rings set: Viggo Mortensen bonded so much with the horse he rode in the movies that after filming was over he bought it from its owner. If that doesn’t warm your heart I don’t know what could.

[terecita-deactivated20201128]

don’t forget that he also bought arwen’s horse for her stunt rider when she couldn’t afford it awww

[1nksplotched-deactivated2014020]

#also don’t forget that for the rohirrim they put a call out for locals #bring a horse show us you can ride it and get a part in the battle scenes #and one women went out roped a wild horse and rode for a few days to set #and got to be a rider of rohan

[retaliatesfirst]

also sort of relevant viggo also bought the horse that costarred with him in the movie hidalgo and subsequently took the horse (tj) with him to the red carpet premier. 

[thefeathercloak]

Also most of the Riders of Rohan are actually women because when they put out that call mostly women showed up with their horses and the costume team just stuck beards on them.

[cremblr]

if this isn’t the best post i don’t know what is

[cineraria]

[nominates]

don’t mock people when they stutter (◕‿◕✿)

even in an argument because maybe they just can’t sort things out in their mind fast enough to say out loud (◕‿◕✿)

it doesn’t make you seem like you’re winning the argument (◕‿◕✿)

it just makes you an asshole (◡‿◡✿)

[illegallybrown-deactivated20140]

At NYC pride [x] 

[sophieasweetheart]

This needs more notes

[oliveseraphim-deactivated201309]

what the fuck?

1) haha lol no i think we have plenty of gay cis male icons

2) i’m pretty sure Lady Gaga has said many times that she is somewhere on the bi spectrum and also possibly genderqueer (She does have a male persona). I’m not defending all the shitty stuff she’s done which is a fuckload but i’m also rly sick of people dismissing her (possible?) queerness

3) this whole clusterfuck of straight white woman/gay man/black man/ etc. like ???? i think the point is that it should be queers presenting queers. Obviously queers with other marginalized identities would be even better but i am a bit as to why he says a gay man OR a black man, cos y’know no one can ever be both.

4) “a random ass lesbian with a penis growing out of her forehead” are you fucking kidding me? I don’t even know where to begin with that shit. Like he could have said idk that having a trans woman singing those songs would be great but no, he had to jump to a queer woman with a penis growing out of her face?

*pukes all over everything*

[galagaghost-deactivated20150810]

The Problem With Memes

This just really needs to be shared.

[letsallgotothelobby]

Pretty much sums it up.

(Also hey one of my comics appear near the end!)

[pettypanda-deactivated20150504]

I gather that the guy took a lot of either inspiration or just ideas from Le Reddit Video, so it wasn’t surprising to see you pop up after others like Kate Beaton and my LE picture.

It’s a good listen and Vaati is a pretty well educated fellow when it comes to these matters. I’m glad I left this sort of thing in good hands to others who were much more skilled than I was.

[yuzupool]

a good video that definitely hits all of the points on why most meme usage drives me up the fucking wall

[drtanner]

This video explains my loathing of memes more accurately and concisely than I ever could. 

Seriously, watch it, and understand instantly why spouting memes is guaranteed to make me want to make you eat your teeth.

[eclipsebykimlipmp3-deactivated2]

this is such a good video

[niknak79]

[beroberos-deactivated20191101]

I.. I don’t even know.

[asiaphiles]

Godfrey Gao for GQ Taiwan April 2013

[fujinroku-blog]

before you reblog that picture of a cute asian girl or someone’s legs or anything like that

you might wanna take a second and ask yourself

“does it look like they would’ve known their picture was being taken?”

think real good about this

if the answer is anything but a plain and simple yes, don’t reblog the picture because that’s creepy as shit

[punkcub-deactivated20160721]

and like, the queer people who love to use “heteronormativity” as an insult against other queer people tend to be the same who frequently - and rightfully! - criticise certain aspect of LGBT mainstream narratives such as the Coming Out narrative

but apparently somehow can’t put two and two together that some ~evil assimilationists~ might not want to perform 100% radicality 24/7 for those very same reasons, i.e. self-protection and such?

I don’t get these people? at all?

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I think it’s a reaction to “assimilationists” frequently positioning themselves as ~normal queers~, i.e. “we want marriage and babies just like heteros we’re not all scary sexual deviants like SOME people”, at the expense of the glitter-and-sodomy set. It’s not a demand that all queers everywhere be radical 24/7, just that they stop othering fellow queers for the sake of getting brownie points. I can’t count the number of times “assimilationists” have basically told me that ~we’ll never get equal rights~ if queers don’t stop being so in-your-face/throwing pride parades, etc. And I’m ridiculously vanilla (in public).

So like, I don’t think it’s cool to malign queers who just want to live life quietly with 2.5 kids and a white picket fence or whatever; I personally don’t go around “queering it up”, and for all intents and purposes present as a ~normal queer~ all the time. BUT I’ve definitely witnessed and had friends experience bullshit from queers who have internalized a lot of heteronormative shit, so I can understand why they’re angry.

[punkcub-deactivated20160721]

THIS IS ALSO VERY IMPORTANT; I mean I will shit all over ~respectable faggot~ bullshit as well; at the end of the day, there are awful people on both sides.

It’s basically that due to certain goings-on in the past couple days I’ve seen a lot of very awful rhetoric applied specifically against the people who, well, want to do the couple-and-kids thing (instead of attacking the specific ~normal queer~ attitude or certain orgs or the LGBT mainstream or, you know, ~heteronormativity~ as enforced by heteros) so those rants are a reaction to that.

[godzilla-wednesday-deactivated2]

Precisely what Bernie and dreadful said.  I have and will side-eye the shit out of gay couples who say “Oh, we’re so normal we forget we’re gay!!”  (Yeah, that’s an actual quote that has been said to my face before.) 

But a lot of this “fuck marriage because ASSIMILATION” rhetoric is forgetting a few key things, specifically, that “marriage” is not just about a party.  It’s not just about buying a dress or tux or dresses or tuxes or cakes or whatever.  It’s not even about what heteros define “marriage” as, and it’s not even about what society considers a “marriage,” for the most part— a lot of us simply want the opportunity to protect ourselves in the case of our partner getting sick, being hospitalized, and want the opportunity of sharing our health-care benefits, and in the event of one of our deaths, wanting the surviving spouse to be able to receive inheritance without ridiculously high tax rates because we’re not considered next-of-kin.  Also, how the US defines “marriage” is, in my mind, just one simple title that fixes (or helps alleviate) a LOT of problems— just look at binational couples.  Consider adoption rights.  Marriage-per-the-state is a fucked up system, but guess what?  That’s the system we have, and it’s not gonna change, ESPECIALLY just because we gays want it to change.

Also, let’s not forget about the religiously devout LGBT folk who DO want to have the so-called “normal life, white picket fence, kids, a dog” etc.  If they’re not othering more radical LGBT folk, why shit all over them for something you perceive to not be “radical” enough?  Mind your business.

I can’t speak for everyone (and I don’t want to), but there won’t be anything societally normative about my girlfriend’s and my life together.  (But hey— I don’t feel the need to earn a “badge of radicalism” by some nameless group of glitter-shitting gays, either.)  We just want the same protection that my brother and sister will get if they decide to get married, too.

I’ve seen a lot of bullshit, also, about how these so-called “assimilationists” only care about marriage, as if people are so dense that they can’t care about more than one thing at a time.  There are those who think marriage is the endcap to a century of fighting for equality, and fuck those simple people.  Seriously.  Marriage equality is sooo not the most important thing out there— passing ENDA and equalizing trans* issues to catch up with the popularity and “successes” of LGB advances are way more important.  Meaningful outreach for our younger community members is incomparably important, and NOT just the white, cis, monogamous-leaning “so cute they could be on Glee” gays, either.  When are people going to make a big show about the number of trans* WOC put behind bars for protecting themselves, or the ridiculously high suicide rate among the trans* community?  (Spoiler alert: HRC is not going to be the one leading THAT crusade.)  It’s a shitty hand to be dealt, that marriage is becoming the #1 issue, but it’s one part of the puzzle.  Also, let’s not forget how marriage will affect a ton of people under the LGBTQ umbrella— not just cis gays.

Last point on this disjointed rant is the fact that being able to be out, loud, proud, and demonstrably gay is a fucking PRIVILEGE.  If I were out, I’d be fired.  Who would that help?  I’ll tell you who it WOULDN’T help: it wouldn’t help my wife and our financial stability.  It wouldn’t help the gay and trans* kids who attend my school and see me and their other (closeted, yet they-know-that-I-know-that-they-know) teachers/staff members/counselors as an example of well-established, successful LGBT adults.  Some people can’t be out not only because they’d be shit-canned IMMEDIATELY, but also because they could be hurt or KILLED because of it.  Let’s not sit here and demonize them for not “furthering the cause,” just because you think them putting their livelihood and LIVES on the line is somehow worth it, especially when they’re helping people within these sheltered communities.

tl;dr there are serious issues here, but let’s not be ignorant and lazy by focusing on demonizing so-called “assimilationists” just because you (collective, non-specific “you” posed to whomever) want to pat yourself on the back for earning your “Most Radical Queer in the Commune” award.  Fuck straight-laced (pun intended) gays who think the more radical set will “ruin the chance of ‘equality,’” but also fuck self-proclaimed radical-gays for demonizing those who aren’t radical enough for their liking.

[punkcub-deactivated20160721]

I don’t really have much to add, so again, reblogging for the additional commentary