OTP questions for ben & mer!
What was their first impression of each other? They were 10 so it was like Ben: Haha she has a weird accent Mer: Why is this boy talking to me?
What is their ship name? I dunno. I think itâs BenMer but they have the most uncombinable names ever.
Describe their relationship dynamic. To everyone else, theyâre friends that kiss sometimes lol. They donât outwardly show affection in front of other people, but rather they tease each other and laugh together. The first time anyone other than Kenny sees them kiss is at their wedding. Everyone is a little stunned when Meredith gets pregnant because some of their extended family didnât even know they were dating. Smith had to ask Charlie when that happened and sheâs like âidkâ.
What was their relationship like before they got together? Basically, the same as it is when theyâre together, except they didnât kiss or any of that other stuff. Theyâre best friends.
How would they describe each other?
Ben: Sheâs so short I lose her every time we go somewhere crowded, but sheâs cute so I donât mind. She knows my favorite color is blue and makes the lights change when Iâm sad. She watched me play lacrosse for 4 years and refused to learn anything about it. She treats my baby sister like sheâs her own, even when she interrupts us. She has so much hair. Itâs like a lionâa pretty one! But it gets in my mouth every time we lay together and itâs all over my shower. She looks like Tinkerbell in that one Peter Pan scene when she gets mad, but donât tell her I said that. She doesnât know the reason my favorite color is blue is because thatâs the color her eyes are. I love her. I love her so much I swear I see the rest of my life when I look at her. What did you ask me again?
Meredith: I donât really like talking about my feelings. Ben does. He talks a lot, in a good way. I like to listen to him. I donât understand that game he likes to play, but I know I love the way his face lights up when something good happens. I feel safer next to him than I have in my entire life. Heâs so warm. He let me into his family and Iâll always be grateful for that. If they were mine I wouldnât want to share. Heâs nice to me even when Iâm mean. Iâm not even sure he knows how to be mean. He has the cutest dimple, only one of them. He lets Lucy hang out with us, even when I know he intended for us to have alone time. I donât care where I am or what I do, I just want it to be with him. Thatâs how I know I love him, because I have hope for tomorrow finally. Life isnât about surviving anymore, itâs about living. Heâs also not bad to look at. Donât tell anyone I was this sappy, okay? Iâll deny it.
What do they love about each other? He loves that she is mean when she has to be and hates it when people point out that she did something nice. She loves that he is just so god damn nice to everyone. In high school, they never ate lunch with the same people two days in a row. She knows he understands the loneliness, but itâs still very sweet of him.
What do they have in common? They both like science fiction and strawberry ice cream.
What are some differences between them? Other than those two things they have vastly different interests lmao
What made them realize they were in love? Meredith realized it when Ben missed another girl at a party, except she had to be told that she realized it by Kenny. All she knew was she was fuming about it. She did something not very nice to the girl. It wasnât bad! She just zapped her butt and burnt a hole in her jeans. Ben canât tell you when he realized it. He always knew it, in some way.
What are their love languages? Quality time and acts of service.
Do they get married? Who proposes and how? They do! Ben proposes with the help of his fourth graders. Itâs adorable.
What would happen if they never met? They would both be very sad, and then I would be sad. No actually I donât know. They wouldnât be as happy. I donât even know if Meredith would be alive.
Who dies first? How does the other one react? Iâm skipping this one because no thank you.
Are there any love rivals? No not at all.
Describe your favorite moment of that ship! AJ's three-ish and still sleeps in what's basically a big crib in their room. He's also nonverbal as far as they know. He wakes Ben up in the middle of the night to let him know he had an accident. Ben tries not to wake Meredith up and takes him downstairs to clean off and put some more clothes on. He throws the bedsheets in the washing machine and tells AJ he can sleep in their bed the rest of the night. And then they eat ice cream. Meredith wakes up anyway and goes to find them and sits and eats with them too. She makes some joke like "Did Daddy wake you up just to come eat with him?" and AJ just casually tells her "No Mama" and goes back to eating. They're both too stunned to say anything about it. Turns out he knew how to talk this whole time, he just didn't want to until now.
What do other characters think about this relationship? Their friends say it was about time. Kenny calls them my parents randomly in conversations and people will be confused. Hailey very sweetly says sheâs happy for them but she saw it coming six years ago. Rory pretty much says the same. Charlie laughs. Lucy does not care. Levi is the only one caught off guard by the news, but he is very bad at picking up on things anyway.
Talk about a headcanon youâve never talked about before. Theyâre both teachers at the same elementary school and the school year after they get married Benâs fourth-graders point out that their art teacher has the same last name as him. He says he doesnât know what theyâre talking about. Then he walks them down to her room and she gives him a little kiss and then theyâre like âare you married or something?â and Meredith seamlessly goes with Benâs story and says she doesnât even know him. This goes on for a whole year. Many of the kids' parents think theyâre having an affair or something.
What does a typical date look like for them? Them, sitting on the living room couch with a pint of strawberry ice cream, trying to watch a movie but they canât because either Lucy, Charlie, or Kenny come in to annoy them, or Hailey decides to vacuum, or something else happens thatâs distracting.
Whatâs a really significant moment in their relationship? Um, I would say when AJ is born, for many reasons both happy and sad.