You can call me House, im not giving out a name or all my pronouns except they/them, if you want to figure out which slur to call me you gotta investigate my clues… No DNI I just block you if ur a transphobe or something.
Welcome to my page, lovely to have you!
I made this blog because i find the current state of the trans community very disheartening. Generally bloggers that try to have conversations about bigotry either care only about their own side of the community, or those that claim to be broadly supportive will still fail to live up to those expectations. We claim to hold in community transphobes accountable, but it is barely ever transphobes we agree with on other issues. What sucks is many bloggers will make Good Posts and then make Horrible Posts in the same breath so I lost faith in this website’s ability to be trans affirming and antiracist. As a result it doesn’t feel good or safe to engage with any other trans bloggers — im tired of following someone only for them to blatantly misgender someone, doxx someone, participate in lolcow culture, and so on.
Me speaking is under #house rambles
I do not claim to be a theorist nor should you take everything i say at face value. I do not get a lot of things and may be wrong about them, if you think i said something bad please reach out and maybe i learn something new. Anything that looks like bigotry is definitely unintentional, at the very least even if i don’t understand or agree i do not wish harm on you.
Things i believe in — sexgender minorities all experience oppression, each demographic has unique issues, but broadly we all overlap as targets of cissexism, misogyny, and so on. None of us will be free from this until all of us are, we are connected. We do not all get treated identically, but we are all harmed, and the way we are harmed is not just an intersection of our sexgender identities, but our race, culture, economic status, and so on. For too long issues of non European and USAmerican trans people have been sidelined as largely irrelevant, and racialized members of the community are only used as argument points when convenient. Harassment, suicide baiting, and so on are not acceptable behaviours to other vulnerable minorities even if someone was a bigot to you. If you have reliable evidence someone is a genuine predator you should be contacting authorities not tumblr users.
As a result, i will mostly make my own posts which will happen infrequently or interact in comments. I am only going to reblog things i feel to be Good, but it doesn’t mean i know the bloggers full politics. Anything negative i will talk about will not reblog users because once again, this community has a drama problem and I want to have a productive conversation about things that bother me. I believe our oppression terminology should not be an identifier but a way to signal a real material issue. Broad statements therefore are unhelpful as contexts for trans people’s treatment change a lot. If you think im wrong, id love to discuss. If you are racialized or not from the anglosphere (especially if you are from the global south) im especially interested in talking to you as my perspectives are limited to my personal experiences, which Are non western and immigrant but Are still white.
I freaking hate seeing queer creators that I enjoy and look up to (especially TRANSMASC/TRANS MEN creators!!) be so awful about trans men and mascs trying to talk about how we’re oppressed. Like it’s most definitely not “only trans women” who are being attacked right now.
T has /been/ a controlled substance. “ROGD” was aimed at “mutilated girls”. Do none of you remember the Irreversible Damage book. That Joanne Rowling specifically got mad at gender-neutral language regarding menstruation and periods and said that people transition because of “the allure of escaping womanhood”.
Do all of you think erasure = safety? And that we only are “accidentally” and “less importantly” hurt?
We are all shot at by the same gun, but you still turn the knife on the rest of your kin.
look I know some of you (see: the white they/thems in my notes who clearly agree with the foundation of my thoughts but think criticism of the TME/TMA dichotomy is too far and transmisogyny) are eager in your keenness to show that you are a good ally to trans women, but until you can explain to me why
using discrimination-first language for this specific group is useful or beneficial,
the usefulness or benefits of said language somehow do not apply to using discrimination-first language for literally any other group (e.g. antiblackness-exempt, racism-exempt, misogynoir-exempt),
you aren't describing yourself and your personal identity in this way in any other way (e.g. putting your antiblackness-exempt status in your bio rather than saying you are white), and
why "TME" is meant to include cis men but is just used as a shorthand to scream about AFABs (because they just want to complain about anyone they see as a cis woman)
I will not take any of it, or you, very seriously. go ahead and put misogynoir-exempt or misogynoir-affected in your bio if you find this framework useful. by the logic followed for the TME/TMA dichotomy it is indicative of both your racism and misogyny to not directly communicate where you lie here while sharing posts from me, a black woman, about these issues.
if that sounds a ridiculous to you: you are close to getting it!
as a person w vaginal hypoplasia i have so much love for ppl w micropenises. there's less open hostility towards "microvaginas," but you end up in the situation of either being fetishized for being "tight" or treated as broken / frigid because you can't "have sex right," and it adds a lot of stress to intimacy (esp fearing that a partner might ignore your bodily autonomy either way)... i feel very intersex4intersex love towards ppl w micropenises. maybe to other people our genitals are "less than" but with each other we are perfect and whole and can find pleasure and joy in our bodies as they are 💛💜
And the bit is, you were NOT down so bad, nor felt your life so threatened, that you felt safe enough to hunt a Black child down and shoot him in the back over a BOTTLE OF WATER. Something that's worth a buck fifty. Something that shit, maybe he needed. He didn't steal anything, but even if he HAD stolen that water, it's WATER. It's not something of mass expense. If I saw someone stealing one singular bottle of water, I'm probably not stopping them, because damn it is hot and you might be in need at that point. That's how I know that shit was racially motivated. They felt like hunting a Negro due to other unaddressed rage and antiblack bias, I will not be convinced otherwise. And I hope it comes around full circle.
anyone else notice how when "digital assistants" were just supposed to do specific tasks when you asked for them we had Alexa and Siri and Cortana, but now that they're being marketed as smart enough to take actions and make decisions on their own they've got names like Claude and Devin
whats real funny is i have had a post on here talking about how sexual violence against boys & men goes horribly underdiscussed get an actual MRA to yell at me because he didn't like that I attributed that to patriarchy and not Evil Feminist Bitches who control society.
honestly if you aren't getting called an MRA by radfems and a radical feminist by MRAs, are you even doing transfeminism
Kinda sick and tired of people treating racism like it’s no big deal, and specifically especially sick and tired of people blindly crying “transmisogynistic harassment” whenever someone criticizes their favorite white trans woman for her racism.
More people are talking about TADC’s leaks in sympathy for Gooseworx than they are about her being silent on how she participated in racist jokes other than implying it was not “genuine” racism. Nobody seems to bring up Patricia “I am also limited in my ability to racially oppress due to being trans and disabled” Taxxon’s consistent racism, despite her becoming relevant again due to the latest incident with Hbomberguy. A lot of popular transfem bloggers on Tumblr have a history of racism too, but God forbid you bring it up.
I feel fucking crazy. What happened to “you are white before you are anything else”? So many popular trans women on here are specifically white trans women who you’re not allowed to point out have said racist shit that they still stand by, or you’re the bad person. You’re overreacting. You’re harassing a poor innocent white woman over nothing that actually matters, and you need to touch grass and learn what a real problem is. These women are allowed to wield their white woman tears by crying about how oppressed they are and how hard their lives are and how everybody is out to get them when criticized for racism, and people just BUY IT?? Not just buy it, but ENFORCE IT, harass others who DON’T buy it, accuse the ones who don’t buy it of, and I quote, LYNCHING her.
White trans women are not less likely to be racist than any other type of white person, but they’re treated like they are, and the notion they could be racist is treated as inherently ridiculous, defamatory, and transmisogynistic.
I think that some people need to come to grips with the fact that some of these women are blatantly, openly racist, and hide behind their disabilities/mental illnesses and their transness. We cannot be positioning white trans women as an authority on all systems of oppression, because white trans women are not the modern martyr for the oppressed voice. Black trans women have felt everything they have, 100 times worse. White trans women’s suffering is real, but suffering as a white woman is just so much different. And if we want the trans community to be safe for POC, we need to start actually calling racism from trans people out, instead of being the girl who cried transmisogynistic harassment campaign.
But this is the website that says a term coined by a Black trans woman to call out racism from white members of the transfem community is inherently transmisogynistic (even a transmisogynistic slur) and should never be used. So maybe I’m just talking to a (very racist) brick wall here.
"Are trans men privileged" is one of those things that you need to look and say "no". Individual trans men can have male privileges but systemic privileges are not about individuals. Systemic privileges are about everyone. You could say trans men are privileged because they're men but that would ignore that they're trans which makes them mostly to not be seem as the gender they choose. "But Quas" you might say "Why don't trans women are privileged if they're not seem as women but rather men? Why don't they receive male privilege then?" Fellas it's the trans part. Transgender suggests that you're performing your expected gender wrong. The same way a bigot can treat a trans woman with mysogyny because he likes to have a woman he can ounch without consequence, he will still treat a trans man with mysogyny. Because he doesn't sees him as a man.
"All trans men have male privilege" is one of those takes you have if the only trans men you've ever met are post-op, on hormones trans men who happen to be white and thin, that live in a progressive area and are respect as a man everywhere they go.
"Individual trans men might have male privilege in certain places and situations"
"All trans men have male privilege" (Incorrect buzzer sound)
its really baffling to me how much some ppl online seem to just. openly hate and despise women while simultaneously wanting to exist in progressive spaces
like. the guy who cant even be normal about woman would like to tell you about his socioeconomic positions and share his socialist manifesto. um no! I'm ok actually!
It’s so embarrassing how racist white lgbts are on here and then they genuinely throw tantrums too when you ask them who the fuck they’re feeling like Like how do I know cisgender white gay men irl who r more politically conscious than u people do you understand how humiliating that is on your part
this is the core of why some women defend beauty standards - if they’re deconstructed even a little they have to face how much money/time they’ve sunk into them. it also exposes how untrue “i did it for myself” really is - if that was true, you wouldn’t be upset that other bodies are being uplifted
You want me to be repeatedly raped, tortured, humiliated, and eventually set on fire until burned to death? All because of my gender? Yeah, you and every other transphobic asswad in politics, get in line.
