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a pink haired cutie

#hello it’s me #pink hair #isthisthingon

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saedii

I want a “I made a playlist for you” typa love

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witchbum

i’d like to formally call myself out on being such a needy and emotionally confusing person

arabwife

pro tip: if u feel like u have to be a watered down or ‘less intense’ version of urself when interacting w/ someone - they do not deserve u.

clarknokent

Sorry grandma, you gotta go.

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If you ever feel like you’ve fucked up just remember that Ireland accidentally legalized crystal meth

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If you ever feel like you’ve fucked up just remember America knowingly voted in a fascist to lead them

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h0odrich

me @ my own wedding

haimtheblog

haimtheband: jetlaggin

meladoodle

[reads ur palm] hey… this line here means you think people who read your palms are really hot…….

captain on a sinking ship: women and children only

other girls: aw no! i will have to leave my husband behind :,(

me, a lesbian: *grabs wife* YEET

totalspiffage

My therapist suggested replacing “is there anything I can do” with “what do you need” when comforting someone as the first kind of assumes you as part of the equation in helping someone which isn’t always helpful. It also kind of pressures the person suffering to kind of come up with something FOR you to do. Like I get so frustrated with that first question as a person who gets it a lot.

The second not only takes the pressure off but also might help the person really consider what their actual needs are like hey I haven’t eaten, maybe that’s a reason I feel crappy. It kinda takes the asker out of the immediate picture so the person struggling can focus on what they actually need, and then if you CAN help, you can offer it.

We’ll see if this works better!

jumpingjacktrash

if the person’s having trouble with decisions or with thinking of what they need, offer basics: have you had water lately? something to eat? you’re kind of sitting hunched, are you cold, want me to go get your hoodie? i know you’re not upset just because you’re hungry, your upset feelings are valid, but there’s no reason we can’t make you more comfortable while you deal with the main problem.

you can also offer distractions, and reminders the world is full of good things – you want to watch cartoons? let’s go to the zoo and look at the pandas. let’s sit on the garage roof and watch the sunset.

a lot of times, your friends will have problems you can’t fix. you can’t fix grief, or depression, or a breakup, or chronic illness. but you can offer positive things to counterbalance the bad.