I have a friend who is constantly racked with guilt about being attracted to women since he started transitioning because posts like this have taught him that menās attention to women is always predatory. I have friends who are cis dudes who feel the same way. I have a transfemme friend who constantly questions whether they are actually just fetishizing women because being āsocialized maleā means they can never unlearn the predatory nature of their AGAB.
This sort of thinking also trains straight and bi women to expect to get treated like shit by their partners instead of believing that men are compassionate, kind, generous people who should be expected to treat their partners well.
And, not to get all āwhat about cis peopleā on this but there are young teen boys on this blogging platform who are learning that they are ātrashā simply for looking at or being attracted to women and there are adult men on this platform who areĀ trying to turn themselves inside out to try to āmake upā for their maleness and framing men as terrible, unsafe, selfish, bad people is the exact kind of gender essentialist bullshit that says all women are compassionate and good communicators and naturally maternal caregivers.
Itās crap! Itās garbage!
You can write off all cops as bad because they all looked at an abusive, corrupt system and went āI want to be a part of that.ā
If you write off āmen,ā the type category, fifty fucking percentish of the goddamned species, as trash youāre looking at a little boy or a black father or an autistic teen or a gay pensioner or even just a totally run of the mill cis straight white dude and saying āyou were born wrong.ā
And you know what, for fucking YEARS Iāve been saying āfeminism benefits men tooā and āfeminism helps everyoneā and there has been this loud minority of utter fucking assholes saying that men are trash and thereās no such thing as misandry and Iāve been trying to say āyeah, okay, those people are assholes but theyāre not really a huge part of the movementā and but now it seems like their shitty ideas about purity culture have crossed over to the mainstream and their shitty sex negativity has crossed over to the mainstream, and radical feminism in general and TERFs in particular are brimming with misandry that is an exact fucking mirror to the misogyny of blackpilled incels and we are very calmly letting it infect our discourse and discredit our philosophy.
ALSO all of this bullshit broadcasts and spreads the idea that women must always be protected from men (which is exactly how JK Rowling justifies her transmisogyny) which does NOTHING to accomplish the equality that feminism is nominally about.
āMen are trashā and ākill all men lolā is a memeified, gender-swapped version of Mike Fucking Pence refusing to meet with women unsupervised because they might contaminate or tempt him.Ā
And it *also* paves over the shitty, rapey, abusive, power imbalanced, oppressive things that women do. āIf men are trash and women arenāt then clearly the abuse or sexual assault Iām suffering from my female partner must be *different* in some way because sheās not harming me through patriarchy or oppression.ā
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