Another Hopeless Blog About Love

Everyone experiences love in different ways at different times. This is just a collection of posts and some of my thoughts on the absurd concept of love.

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and patience

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and compromise. and learning.

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Giving up pride

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^^^

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And communicating.

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forgiving what exactly?

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Forgiving the fact that they’re people who are working through their past, like you, and will occasionally project their past traumas on you the way you might with them. Forgiving yourself, because growth takes time, and learning to be a pair is more work than just being on your own. Having partners you trust to forgive those moments where you might fall, help you back up and move forward, in my opinion, builds up the trust and love you need for a thriving relationship.

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That last comment was beautiful.

[101reasonswhyilovehim]

So I've never been in a relationship before but I finally decided to ask out this guy at my school. I haven't really talked to him much and since I'm new to the whole relationship/dating thing I was wondering if you had any tips for like a first date with a "stranger" or something. P.s. I love your blog!

I’m so sorry that I’ve been MIA but if it’s not too late here are my tips!

1. Make sure your first date is somewhere low- pressure where you can talk. Movies are okay if you see one and then grab a bite because it’ll give you something to talk about while your eating. But if you just see a movie then you won’t really get a feel of how well you guys clicked because you were both just staring at a screen the whole time. My suggestion is grabbing coffee. If you or they don’t like coffee most cafes have other options, too. Cafes are laid back so it’s low pressure and gives you guys a chance to talk for whatever amount of time feels right. Cafes are also nice because you can’t really over or underdress.

2. Be yourself. Yes you want to put your best foot forward but don’t do it to the point where you’re agreeing with something you don’t actually agree with or being excited over something you don’t give a shit about. If you’re not compatible, it’s best to find out early.

3. Ask your date questions about themself. Do you have a job? How long have you lived in this city? Do you have a lot of siblings? Have any pets? It may be a little awk at first but it will help you learn more about them and get conversations flowing.

4.DO NOT INTERNET CREEP BEFOREHAND. I know you want to see what they’re like and look at all the cute pictures of them and see what you guys have in common but I promise you it is best to wait to go through their instagram until the 3rd or 4th date. Get to know them for them, not for what they want the world to see them as through your own perspective. Plus this will make sure you don’t accidentally say, “Oh yeah, I saw that picture.” When they’re telling you about a camping trip with their family from 3 years ago.

5. Don’t over think it. Especially if this is your first first date, chances are you two will not end up getting married. And that’s okay! Dating is about learning what you like, what matters to you and what makes you happy. As long as your honest with this person, honest with yourself, respect this person and respect yourself then it’ll be an over all good experience.

Best of luck on this and all future dates XO

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Daddy gave me love marks on my shoulder so I can keep thinking about him while he’s at work.

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Hi y'all. So my bf and I are giving dd/lg a shot and made tumblrs for it. They're gonna most likely be NSFW and I have no idea what kind of stuff will be put up but I thought I'd share the URL incase any of you were interested in looking for a different type of relationship blog to follow. So feel free to follow if ya'd like! Babyybearr.tumblr.com

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when I say I wanna have sex I don’t mean I wanna get fucked and cum I mean I wanna makeout with someone for half an hour on my couch with grabby hands all over my body and our teeth clashing because we get so into it that we can’t stop kissing, I mean slow desperate, needy grinding on each other before we take it to the bed, bumping our heads, giggling as we take our clothes off, trying to adjust and get into the right position, I mean having someone on top of me and looking up at them to see that blissful little grin on their face before they scrunch it up a lil and moan because it feels sooooo good and I mean making each other cum so good we end up all out of breath, a sweaty, happy mess, fingers still intertwined, my legs still around their waist, making out again, that’s what I want and it would be kinda cool if I could have it now

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This is gonna sound really weird but I was laying in bed and had to go to the bathroom but didn't want to get up because I'm lazy. But then I remembered that my boyfriend asked me to make sure I always go when I have to because he took care of me during my very severe and painful UTI and never wanted me to go through that again. I want to take care of myself for him. Being with him just makes me think that all my previous relationships were so wrong.

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How cliche is it for me to say I’m done with dating guys?

I just can’t help but feel like this guy and I won’t work out. But is that enough of a reason to break things off? I still like him and want to be with him. And he treats me right. I just assume he doesn’t actually like me that much so it makes sense that I should cut my loses now.

I’m completely against ghosting to break up with people but I almost want to just stop responding to him in order to make things easier on me. I know that’s awful I just handle this half relationship thing. I need to know it’s okay for me to express my feelings, that it’s okay for those feelings to develop into love. But I feel like that’s just stupid. I honestly don’t know if I believe that people falling in love is a real thing. I don’t believe that I’ll ever find a guy that I won’t annoy. I won’t find a guy who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with him. And if a guy ever does, I doubt I’ll believe him.

I try my hardest to be low maintenance but I should stop kidding myself and admit that I’m a needy, whiney little girl.

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I’m super confused by the kid I’m talking to. He wants to be exclusive but said the term girlfriend freaks him out. I understand that some people don’t want to rush things due to their past and we are seniors, but it leaves me unclear on how much he likes me/ how much affection I can show without freaking him out.

His cat got out the other day and hasn’t been seen since. I didn’t know what level of comfort was acceptable so I gave him space at first but offered to help in any way he needed because I understood how much a pet means to someone. I ended up helping him search for the cat that night. I spent the night at his house and woke up to find him asleep on the couch from waking up early to look for the cat more. I didn’t know what comforting would be accepted but eventually I rubbed his back a little and just sat with him. The next night I printed some extra posters for him and helped him hang them up. I spent the night again and his mood seemed to be a little lighter. Tonight I didn’t see him but told him about a website to post on about the cat and was helping him figure out places to mass print posters. 

After all of this he said, “You’ve been a huge help.” And later said, “Yeah I’m really said but you definitely brightened the past two nights up.” And this whole time I figured I was annoying him. I still offered to give him more space whenever he wants it but he said it wasn’t necessary. I just wish I knew how he was feeling/ what he wanted but I’ve already brought it up a couple times and worry about getting annoying. UUGGHHH. I’m lazy and just want to skip to the point where I can show up at his house and watch TV in sweats.