speaking as a lesbian, i like the concept of “mlm / wlw solidarity”. the jokes are funny and it’s nice to think that there’s an actual understanding between mlm and wlw but let’s not pretend that it’s not entirely surface level.
let’s not pretend that the fetishization mlm face and the fetishization wlw face is the same, or even that comparable. wlw face violence from men who fetishize us and yes, the women who fetishize mlm are gross but mlm are not at risk for rape and sexual assault to the degree that wlw are. and yet i’ve seen few to no mlm acknowledge that in their “solidarity” posts
instead of just making jokes, mlm should be using their privilege as men to defend and call out the other men who fetishize us. instead of pretending that what we face is equal, offer us support. instead of putting up a front of solidarity, offer us ACTUAL solidarity instead of being complicit in our oppression
idk if I’ve rbed this yet but come on guys it’s our job to defend our lbt sisters from other men, call out your guy friends who think lesbians are “hot”, don’t let them get away with fetishizing and possibly assaulting wlw
