My Pastor tells me to talk about Autism
God is Gracious - Inspiring Generations
I attend a growing family based church in the South West London Area lead by Pastor Jonathan Swaby attended by his beautiful family and the God Is Gracious Family. From the time my son was diagnosed with autism, I would constantly hear and also read articles about parents being told to remove their noisy and disruptive child from the service the child was autistic.
http://www.abpnews.com/content/view/6627/9/ - Article as mentioned above
I did grow up in church in my early years, but left when I left home. I returned in my later years, I left my previous church as my son was becoming difficult traveling back and thru and his behaviour became unbearable and I felt that it was stressful for me and his sisters to see this child act out of control (he was not diagnosed as yet and once diagnosed, still problems did not go away).
I missed church greatly and a church family friends told me that I should try God Is Gracious as it was near to where I lived at the time. I was not sure as I did not want to go through the long haul of explaining, debating and trying to keep my son still. But how different it was for me and my family.
The first time I stepped into God Is Gracious with my children, the girls probably missed the previous church and for Nathaniel he was just Nathaniel, he showed his true colours, (he was being himself) he could not sit still for one minute, he would run up and down, lie on the floor to attacking the Pastor and the Pastor's brother "Jason", I wanted run away, but Pastor's Wife "Sister Deborah" would take him away and talk to him or Mother Swaby encouraged me to not give up and that they were there to help me.
Little did I know later that Sister Deborah worked at an Autistic School. How cool was that? Life in church has never been the same. Nathaniel loves sitting near to praise and worship, but funny though, he hates loud places, but how Nathaniel got around the noise issue, (still may bother him at times), he would go to the speaker and listen to the vibration, then say loud and walk away.
The good thing at God is Gracious, they accommodate for all, so if the levels are loud, they will turn down. For many Autistic's individual, sensory is a issue, but for my son he has learnt to cope, if he can't handle it. We will know and is dealt with immediately.
If you see my son now, the drastic changes in him coming to church on Sunday and sitting still, sometimes or should I say the majority of the time he is on his PSP or Nintendo, which Pastor has agreed to, but has told Nathaniel at times he should try and listen, which he may do at times, rarely? He may have the occasional outbursts, but the sisters and brothers are at hand to assist if he becomes challenging, if he had a bad day at home, he would bring it to church or anywhere as a matter of fact!!
God is Gracious has given me hope for my son's future, not just naturally, but spiritually too. They are giving him the tools to allowing him to grow in his way within firm boundaries and still remain in a church, without being told to go home.
With so much negative articles and bad experiences that I would hear and read. God has truly opened my eyes to things that I would never of believed to have experienced in my Christian walk. You do have to have faith, believe and learn to let go.
Nathaniel knows now what to do (it's routine), he sits down, plugs in his equipment or sits in his regular spot near the drums, or when he sees the children he may sit from chair to chair, if he does not keep still.
You may hear or notice that Pastor will stop the service to request for someone to sit with him. But that goes saying, any child that is misbehaving, he will tell the child to behave in a nice way, (even to the youngest babes).
One thing that I had to do so that others could understand more about Autism was to testify and give updates as I knew the only way others could understand and show what God has done for me. My testimony will help others to know that there are places of fellowship that have open arms, that is my church.
My prayers were truly answered! Many of the churches need to understand that we can't stay in the church and give thanks and ignore what is outside of the walls. We need to go outside and help those who feel they are not welcomed, whether they are autistic or not or have all other type of additional special needs!
http://www.skyejethani.com/special-needs-boy-removed-from-church/762/ - Special needs
I have to continue thanking Pastor Swaby and his Family for all they have done as I know now, that my ministry is in helping others with disabilities and be A 2nd Voice, if need be.
On the 30th March 2012, I set up my first Autistic Support Group to raise awareness about the condition - All are welcome, because one thing I have learnt I was isolated, not because I wanted to be, but because of other people who can't understand Autism and the complications that came with it for everyday life.
http://a2ndvoice.tumblr.com/#21375863041 - Next one in preparation
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