💜 you are valid 💜

call me mags! she/her, noncis, 22, demisexual/heteroromantic/panplatonic. i'm here, i'm queer, and i support ace and aro people!

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Well, that’s on them and their shitty reading comprehension/wilfull mischaracterisation of everything that questions their beliefs, because to say that this is an unfavourable reading of what I’m saying is an understatement: it’s the wildest, stupidest, most nonsensical thing one could possibly take away and I refuse to take responsibility for it.

[aceinyaface]

….So you’re not going to clarify, then, just blame everyone else. Okay.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Yep. I’m not gonna explain myself over and over in the face of such blatant mischaracterisation. I’m just gonna leave this as a clue that no, I’m not saying that, read everything again.

[aceinyaface]

Well, I feel that’s pretty clarifying, just not in the way you intended. Thanks anyways. Oh, and good job telling an autistic person that she’s just being dumb on purpose and deliberately misunderstanding things!

[shadowgaysplainer]

Don’t play these games with me girl, I’m autistic too and if you take part in this discussion you can’t operate in it under the assumption that no one can ever say you’re misunderstanding things, misreading them, or being wilfully ignorant.

[aceinyaface]

You know, you've spent way more time on telling me how I'm being stupid on purpose than it ever would have taken you to just clarify.

[galpalaven]

do aphobes on this hellsite literally have Ace Discourse whitelisted so they can attack every single person who mentions it or am i just lucky like that

[aceinyaface]

Pretty sure they just troll through ace tags looking to harass people.

[nnilkyway]

everytime i see “ace discourse” i start crying because it’s so goddamn backwards. and that post about ace kids “invading” lgbt spaces always makes me so upset when i see it. imagine being that kid, you go to the gsa because you’ve learned the term “asexual” and it fits! it makes you feel good! and you’re asexual! cool! but then, you’re accused of not being part of lgbt+ and told you are invading spaces. but the straight people don’t accept you either cause you’re different. cause you don’t want to have sex. you feel lost. and that leaves scars. finding a place you can be yourself- and finding out that place doesn’t accept you. that hurts kids. stop hurting kids and stop gatekeeping people on “not being lgbt+” enough. for gods sake especially because not everyone goes through the same struggle. and wishing that struggle on someone else is so selfish and shows a lot.

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Well, that’s on them and their shitty reading comprehension/wilfull mischaracterisation of everything that questions their beliefs, because to say that this is an unfavourable reading of what I’m saying is an understatement: it’s the wildest, stupidest, most nonsensical thing one could possibly take away and I refuse to take responsibility for it.

[aceinyaface]

….So you’re not going to clarify, then, just blame everyone else. Okay.

[fuzzbig-deactivated20190325]

Wow, this is literally the worst way you could have replied, if anything, this strengthens the belief with you dancing around and flinging unnecessary insults. Your irrational hatred and violent desires to hurt deeply shame me on your behalf. I hope you can look back on this “asexy”, and your blog one day and be deeply ashamed.

You have a lot of growing up to do.

[aceinyaface]

You launched right into calling me an asshole for asking for clarification and you’ve been nothing but vitriolic this entire conversation, and I’M flinging insults? The reach here. I try very hard to give people the benefit of the doubt, but you’ve made it pretty clear you just want to hurt ace people.

[fuzzbig-deactivated20190325]

No my friend, I mean asexy is flinging insults, not you, I’m sorry for not clarifying better. I meant to direct what I was saying to asexy and I am deeply disappointed in them, but I was not very clear

[aceinyaface]

Oh, my mistake, tumblr made an error and switched your icons! I thought this was asexy responding to me!

[fuzzbig-deactivated20190325]

Ahh, is ok! Tumblr does the same thing to me too 👍❤

[aceinyaface]

Ok, I'm so sorry for any stress I caused you! 💜

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Well, that’s on them and their shitty reading comprehension/wilfull mischaracterisation of everything that questions their beliefs, because to say that this is an unfavourable reading of what I’m saying is an understatement: it’s the wildest, stupidest, most nonsensical thing one could possibly take away and I refuse to take responsibility for it.

[aceinyaface]

….So you’re not going to clarify, then, just blame everyone else. Okay.

[fuzzbig-deactivated20190325]

Wow, this is literally the worst way you could have replied, if anything, this strengthens the belief with you dancing around and flinging unnecessary insults. Your irrational hatred and violent desires to hurt deeply shame me on your behalf. I hope you can look back on this “asexy”, and your blog one day and be deeply ashamed.

You have a lot of growing up to do.

[aceinyaface]

You launched right into calling me an asshole for asking for clarification and you’ve been nothing but vitriolic this entire conversation, and I’M flinging insults? The reach here. I try very hard to give people the benefit of the doubt, but you’ve made it pretty clear you just want to hurt ace people.

[fuzzbig-deactivated20190325]

No my friend, I mean asexy is flinging insults, not you, I’m sorry for not clarifying better. I meant to direct what I was saying to asexy and I am deeply disappointed in them, but I was not very clear

[aceinyaface]

Oh, my mistake, tumblr made an error and switched your icons! I thought this was asexy responding to me!

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Well, that’s on them and their shitty reading comprehension/wilfull mischaracterisation of everything that questions their beliefs, because to say that this is an unfavourable reading of what I’m saying is an understatement: it’s the wildest, stupidest, most nonsensical thing one could possibly take away and I refuse to take responsibility for it.

[aceinyaface]

….So you’re not going to clarify, then, just blame everyone else. Okay.

[fuzzbig-deactivated20190325]

Wow, this is literally the worst way you could have replied, if anything, this strengthens the belief with you dancing around and flinging unnecessary insults. Your irrational hatred and violent desires to hurt deeply shame me on your behalf. I hope you can look back on this “asexy”, and your blog one day and be deeply ashamed.

You have a lot of growing up to do.

[aceinyaface]

You launched right into calling me an asshole for asking for clarification and you've been nothing but vitriolic this entire conversation, and I'M flinging insults? The reach here. I try very hard to give people the benefit of the doubt, but you've made it pretty clear you just want to hurt ace people.

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Well, that’s on them and their shitty reading comprehension/wilfull mischaracterisation of everything that questions their beliefs, because to say that this is an unfavourable reading of what I’m saying is an understatement: it’s the wildest, stupidest, most nonsensical thing one could possibly take away and I refuse to take responsibility for it.

[aceinyaface]

….So you’re not going to clarify, then, just blame everyone else. Okay.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Yep. I’m not gonna explain myself over and over in the face of such blatant mischaracterisation. I’m just gonna leave this as a clue that no, I’m not saying that, read everything again.

[aceinyaface]

Well, I feel that's pretty clarifying, just not in the way you intended. Thanks anyways. Oh, and good job telling an autistic person that she's just being dumb on purpose and deliberately misunderstanding things!

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[shadowgaysplainer]

Well, that’s on them and their shitty reading comprehension/wilfull mischaracterisation of everything that questions their beliefs, because to say that this is an unfavourable reading of what I’m saying is an understatement: it’s the wildest, stupidest, most nonsensical thing one could possibly take away and I refuse to take responsibility for it.

[aceinyaface]

....So you're not going to clarify, then, just blame everyone else. Okay.

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[shadowgaysplainer]

No, you asshole! In fact I’m kind of horrified that lots of inclusionists subtly agree with the latter!

[aceinyaface]

What exactly are you advocating for, then? Because I know this is the impression people are walking away with.

[fallenangels1995mademecry]

ace person: i am ace and happy some tumblr geek: ekscjsosk why are aceys so embarrassing we get it u hate sex and are a homophobic cishet™

[popnkinnie]

REGs are always saying ace people are ugly but please remember nothing is uglier than being hateful and salty about a sexuality and romantic preference you don’t(read: refuse) to understand. Nothing is more ugly than that 💖

[aphobehatingcharacteroftheday-d]

Hey newsflash but stop implying that ace/aro relationships are inherently abusive

The next person I see that tries to allude to that in any way, shape, or form, gets a punch in the teeth from me

–Mod Mercy

[aceinyaface]

@justasexythings Do you believe that sexless/nonromantic relationships are abusive, or that ace/aro people owe sex or romance to their partners?

[bullgod1997]

So, I’ve noticed this trend in the ace discourse, particularly among exclusionists.

One point states something along the lines of not having sex with your partner is a bad thing because it’s an abuse tactic (which is a shit point in itself).

The other point states that if an asexual has sex to make their partner happy, that is a toxic relationship.

Let me make something clear.

If an asexual consents to sex, it is good. If an asexual wants a romantic relationship without sex, this is also good.

If an asexual wants to have sex this does not make them any less asexual. It also doesn’t necessarily mean they’re doing it to make their partner happy.

Other reasons why an asexual may want sex include:

Enjoying the act,

Enjoying the intimacy,

Because they want to.

Don’t fucking tell me asexuals can’t have sex. Just don’t.

[shadowgaysplainer]

it’s bad enough you idiots get positive “representation” even in canons we know would never portray a gay or bi and/or trans character as anything but a joke or a harmful trope (do you not see this. like are you not seeing that homophobes don’t see anything wrong with you and find you preferable to LGBT people), but of course you also have to stick characters that were never confirmed as anything (but are popularly headcanoned as gay) on lists of “canon” asexy characters

[aceinyaface]

Well..... duh? Queer people are mostly drawn to queer characters. Shuffling exactly where they fall on the queer spectrum is harmless and very affirming for many people. (And practically everyone just headcanons straight characters as queer anyways, lol)

[librius]

im queer im queer im queer im queer im queer im queer im queer im queer im queer im queer

[aphobic-truscum-terf-cat]

Hey if you're a REG

I hate you. I don’t care about your orientation I hate you :)