What is dominance and submission?
Today in a BDsM Kik group the topic of the day seemed simple enough. What is submission? What is dominance? I have spent most of the afternoon and early evening editing, adding and expanding on my original thoughts.
Submission is what we do, not who we are.
Submission means following.
Submission is letting go.
Submission allows one to let go of all of their troubles and know the dominant will take the reins and guide them.
Submission is ever growing and blooming. In our submission we should never be stagnant. We should keep learning, growing and blooming.
Submission means releasing. Releasing our fears. Releasing our insecurities.
Submission means communication. Open, transparent honest communication.
Submission is loving, grateful and thankful.
Submission is focus, and mindfulness.
Submission means something different to each and everyone of us. But one thing we all agree on is that submission is beautiful.
Dominance is quiet. Like a whisper or the touch of the hand on the lower back.
Dominance is guiding, teaching.
Dominance is understanding.
Dominance is communication. Open, honest, transparent communication. Dominance means putting someone else first.
Dominance means care giving.
Dominance means taking on someone else’s burdens.
Dominance means being there, being available.
Dominance means acceptance.
Dominance means loving, grateful and thankful
Dominance is grateful and thankful.
Part 2: Dominance and submission mean many things to everyone. But what are they not?
Submission is not a doormat.
Submission cannot be forced.
Submission cannot be TAKEN.
Submission is not blind or deaf.
Submission is not a game.
Submission is not given easily.
Submission is not about sex.
Dominance is not controlling.
Dominance is not abusive.
Dominance is not domineering.
Dominance is not loud, cruel, unyielding.
Dominance is not narcissistic.
Dominance is not about sex.
Someone in the group compared D/s with a dance. I have to agree. Dancing with your partner can be graceful, beautiful and intimate. But the dance does not start out that way. We have to learn from one another. Learn how we each move and sway. And there is one lead. Dominance means leading. Submission means we follow. But one thing I truly believe in. We are equal on both sides of the slash. Because without the other, we cannot dance.
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