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[monokingrps]

https://monokingrps.tumblr.com/nemo

linked above is the second draft of a callout post for nemo (@ blackstardiopside / @nemekii / @littleaquaa / @lcftcult / @hellhogged)

i’ve never actually dealt with nemo much, this is mostly several anons voluntarily giving their testimonies about how she treated them plus my documenting various things that she did + comments on things her biggest supporters (baddeleyite + others) have done. nemo has repeatedly guilttripped, vagueblogged, and used people in addition to randomly defending the sexual art of her child OCs from several years back, stalking one user’s blogs, and a myriad of other random things.

content warnings: pedophilia / CSA, forced sex work, suicide, self harm, guiltripping, ableism, stalking, incest/rape mentions, and possibly more things i’ve forgotten about - please read with caution.

you, the reader, are your own person and can form your own opinions on who you want to follow, but please take a moment to read over the entire document before taking a “side.” stay informed and aware. this is free to reblog.

[monokingrps]

a tdlr, since this doc has gotten many updates: here’s all of the things talked about it in the doc as of right now.

1. nemo has been seen stalking the online presence of one user since 2015 after they didn’t want to ship with her + a different person in their system they cannot control the actions of said in private, on a blog that nemo was never linked to and would have had to search through that user’s friend’s blogs for, that they didn’t like nemo.

2. nemo accused a minor of copying her oc with no evidence and talked about them behind their back, ostracizing them from the rpc and encouraging others to block them.

3. nemo saw no issue in following someone called out for pedophilia excusing who told a csa survior they needed therapy because they saw issue with pedophilic fanart.

4. nemo has repeatedly made vagueposts about anyone who criticizes her or unfollows her. she has gone as far as to roleplay a plot clearly inspired by people choosing to unfollow her, where her character self harmed because one of her friends broke off a friendship, and multiple users who had recently broken off a friendship with nemo due to her behavior said they felt vagued about.

5. nemo lied and said that she was falsely accused of being a pedophile in 2016, when she had drawn, written and roleplayed pedophilia and rape at the time.

6. nemo threatened suicide when people unfollowed her for liking hazbin hotel after repeatedly saying it was okay to unfollow her if they didn’t like it.

7. nemo thinks “sjws” are a legitimate concept/hurting people.

8. either nemo or someone who defends her broke the law by filing a false dmca report on my original callout.

again, please take a look at this document in full before forming your opinions, especially since it’s been updated so much. it is also worth keeping in mind that she is over 24 years old.

[monokingrps]

a psa:

in september 2019, i called out six-sided-sinner/jirachi-mun (who is now at @one-little-wish and @live-from-hotland) for her history of reblogging and excusing pedophilic ships and covering this up instead of actually changing. 

her friend gigi (@roleplayobssession, @rnarblesocla) proceeded to post a counter callout kind of thing, calling me a terrible person for both blocking gigi after she made me uncomfortable and for having an issue with jirachi’s behavior. it’s feb, nearly march 2020, and not only have neither of them changed, but one is still actively lying about me, the other is retweeting borderline pedophilic art on twitter and writing rape fics on ao3, in addition to repeatedly misgendering me. 

this is a more complete version of a callout post for them both. i’m going to tag this with the fandom rp tags that they are both active in for awareness. these two are still on tumblr and still have people who defend them.

 content warnings: pedophilia / sexually charged art of children, incest mentions, rape and dubcon, suicide, misgendering.

link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1P58Uu6n4irTrsW2qJjvhYQiBfwnDGOkXdVN4ALDThYM/edit?usp=drivesdk

not sure if this will actually appear in tags, so reblogs are appreciated. my tumblr ims are open for messages related to this.

[alreadyfcund-deactivated2022021]

                 Let’s play another game,

                          this time I get to win!

                   private + selective spinel. crossover friendly. twisted by ez.

[damndirtyrat]

Symptoms Of A Toxic Roleplay Partner

I’ve seen a few of these PSA’s going around, but very few of them cover some of the stuff I’m come across in my seven years in the RPC, so here’s a couple more: 

Tries to force their headcanons about your character onto you. Gets mad when you don’t use them. 

Threatening to kill their character as punishment for something you “did.” This could be anything, from disagreeing with something they’ve said ooc, to declining to ship with their character. 

In the same vein–attempting to maim/kill your character in some way because they are mad at you for some offense or another. 

Taking their ooc feelings out on you in character in any way, which refers to bullet above this one. 

Bad-mouthing your ships with other muns, or trying to talk you into abandoning ships with other muns. 

Stalks your other roleplay partners, doesn’t like you roleplaying with other muns. 

[zirsio-deactivated20230224]

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[alreadyfcund-archived]

[wcrdogs]

manipulation and bullshit apologies.

alright tumblr,   your local therapist is here to talk about manipulative behaviours,  and what you need to look out for.  i wanna say that this is specifically aimed at all you who get called out for legitimate reasons and make terrible apologies / posts about it,  hopefully so you can see why people won’t accept them. here’s some traits manipulative people display:

1.    a lack of understanding of how they create situations.   those who are manipulative often will try to blame outside factors for what they have done to land themselves in this situation ( i.e. i couldn’t help using that problematic faceclaim,  it’s because no one told me )   this shifts the blame away from themselves and makes it look as if it is another person job to educate them / stop them doing the problematic thing.

2.    a lack of understanding of boundaries.   manipulative people will often fail to see where a line is drawn between them and another,  they feel entitled to keep a conversation going,  even when it is abundantly clear that another person doesn’t want to speak.  ( i.e. logging onto another account / switching to anonymous to reach someone who has blocked you. )   this makes the person they are speaking to look bad for not wishing to respond,  therefore shifting the gaze to another being uncommunicative.

3.   avoidance of responsibility for their own actions.  a manipulative person may understand responsibility,  but they will often fail to see that it is on their shoulders.  ( i.e.  claiming that another should have educated them,  that they couldn’t possibly have looked it up alone. )  this makes another person look like it is their role,  and their fault the problematic behaviour has happened.

4.  playing on the emotions of another.  a manipulative person may play on the emotional sensibilities of another person.  ( i.e. i know i did this,  but you talking to me about it has spiked my depression / anxiety.  /  claiming that a situation has upset your mental health as a way to get out of it )   this shifts the feeling to one that they are being attacked by the “nasty” person doing the calling out,  or having the conversation with them.  this is, in part,  playing the victim in the situation.

5.   acting two-faced.  they might be acting as if they are the ‘saintly’ one on the dash,  when their words away from it are different.  ( i.e. “i don’t understand why they’re coming for me” vs. angry ims being sent between people. )  this is another way in which they will play the victim card when it suits.

6.  minimising the effect that their actions have had.  they may pretend that they have upset a few “SJWs” rather than accepting that they have done / said something wrong towards an entire race / religion / sexuality e.t.c.   ( i.e. acting as if it’s just a small bunch of people being upset rather than admitting that they actually did something wrong )  this is meant to make it a bit of a joke and make it seem like it’s an overreaction.

of course,  these aren’t all the traits i’ve seen,  but they are a good portion of the way in which people aren’t actually apologising and are instead trying to worm their way out of a situation and i wanted to look at them and why they are manipulative so hopefully people can understand.

[wombshaker]

Friendly reminder: Someone holding you accountable is not the same as someone “attacking” you

[creamynut]

*inserts hard pill to swallow meme*

[dissociadid]

Every action has consequences, be prepared to deal with them if you’re putting yourself out there!

[theybby-deactivated20231001]

If you are in privilege and want those who are oppressed to make activism centered around your feelings and comfort zone. You’re not an ally. You don’t support us. You’re nothing but a hashtag jumper who doesn’t see their own bigotry. Stay hurt.

[vampirejuice-deactivated2019112]

If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

[grookeyleaf]

Can someone translate this?

[vampirejuice-deactivated2019112]

Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.

[ororomunroedontpullout]

“They apologized!”

Alright so? That doesn’t mean we are obligated to like, support, or even accept that apology. Apologies don’t make every bad thing you did go away people are still allowed to dislike you for your behavior in the past and not trust you. If you only give apologies to be forgiven (not because you did something wrong), you aren’t giving a sincere apology.

[sillyprompts]

meh, here’s another thing: literate rp circles are painfully inaccessible.

minuscule text, over-editing, spaced out letters, “fancy” lettering and all the rest might look nice to some people, but consider for a moment literally anyone who has trouble with their eyes or their processing. i try to generally leave people alone for how they want to format their posts, but there’s a level it can get to where it just seems like a giant middle finger to anyone who has any trouble reading.

general rule? try to keep your themes easy to use. it doesn’t matter how they look, but if people can’t get to your pages without jumping through a series of circus hoops, it sucks ass. if they can’t read your posts, it sucks ass.

and in terms of text formatting, just make it legible. some people use screen readers and imagine having to listen to someone spelling out their posts l i k e t h i s (like this) instead of just hearing the actual words. that sucks ass too.

photos and editing don’t matter as much but if you over-saturate them, at least include a warning for eye strain because that shit can hurt some people and that, you guessed it, sucks ass.

[sillyprompts]

other tips:

split your posts and pages into paragraphs. it’s much easier to read and makes it so people with dyslexia and adhd won’t get “lost” in your writing. keeping your rules brief and to the point is also a good idea but, y’know, whatever.

don’t use more than one <small> tag. like, i get that you have an aesthetic, but why would that be the priority over accessibility for your writing partners? 

if you have a music player, turn off autoplay. sudden noises can be real alarming to a lot of people and annoying for everyone else.

try to use clear lettering for your promos, or at least the important parts of them. script fonts can be downright unreadable to some people.

[sillyprompts]

imagine you’re sitting in a circle with about twenty other people, and one of them is a pedophile. they draw and write horrible things, are generally nasty and take advantage of others. would you prefer to not know, so everyone “gets along”, or would you want to spread the news to ensure safety and kick the fucker out?

if you were passed a note that said “person 12 is a pedophile”, would you pass it along or would you find it annoying that the note was written at all? 

“callout/cancel culture” is sometimes absolutely necessary. being against all of it means you’re against public safety because you prioritise your own comfort over the literal health and sanity of others. you’re putting people in danger.

[publicservicememes]

PSA: RULES & GUIDELINES ARE NOT OPTIONAL READING

If someone has written up their rules and guidelines for their roleplay blog, do them the courtesy of repaying the time they spent providing you with the info about how best to interact with them by taking a few minutes out of your dash scrolling and blog browsing to actually read the rules.

These rules are there for a reason and often include things such as triggers the mun may have, trigger and content warnings for other muns regarding the things that you may find on their blog, things that they will and will not roleplay, and anything else they felt is relevant for their followers to be aware of.

And don’t say ‘but I can’t access it because I’m using the mobile app’. 

There is a way! 

Go up to the little person in the top corner of the app and click “SHARE”. From there, your device should give you an option to ‘copy to clipboard’. Paste that into your mobile browser.

Sure, not every blog is going to be mobile browser friendly in their desktop view, particularly those with heavily scripted container themes, but tumblr defaults to a mobile friendly version, and most people with custom themes don’t ever change that setting (and shouldn’t, unless they are certain their theme codes are fully navigable on mobile).

A NOTE TO BLOG OWNERS: For that very reason, please be certain to toggle the ‘Show a link to this page’ into the ON position on any and all custom pages. This will help mobile device users in being able to view your rules and other pages.

[britshits]

REMINDER THAT NO ONE IS OBLIGATED TO EDUCATE YOU OR TEACH YOU HOW TO BE A BETTER HUMAN BEING AND STOP MISTREATING MARGINALISED GROUPS.

also a reminder that:

oppression and discrimination are serious issues, with real-world consequences, so minorities have a right to be angry when seeing people perpetuate this online.

all policing tone achieves is prioritising the way someone expresses themselves over the content of what they’re saying.

implying that the reason discrimination is still rife is because minorities haven’t been “nice enough” in addressing it puts the responsibility on the people who are being oppressed. those causing the harm are the problem, not those being harmed.

when you’ve done something harmful, the onus is now on YOU to sort your shit out and educate yourself. you being willing to do that shouldn’t be conditional on the way you’ve been addressed; it should stem from your respect for the community you’ve harmed.

demanding people from said marginalised group educate you, at the expense of their own time and often mental health, is the height of entitlement. seek out information for yourselves. do your damn homework. 

if people in this community can put hours of work into building roleplays and muses, they sure as shit can take some of that initiative, get on google, and educate themselves, rather than running their mouths when marginalised people try to defend themselves and their communities. 

[alreadyfcund-archived]

[chrispineofficial]

not to be fake deep but admitting you fucked up and saying you’re sorry is 100000000x more rewarding than defending flawed views or thoughtless if unintentionally so actions, 10/10 would recommend, it’s not losing face it’s earning respect