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Hello hello and welcome to Alternian Relationship Advice.

Six Things First.

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1. Ages and Castes are Encouraged 2. If You want Us to judge which Quadrant You Think your Situation falls into, PLEASE Prefix It With "QUAD:" Or Quirked Equivalent :) 3. NSFW Allowed Only If Funny 4. I will TRY to remain unbiased but I Promise Nothing. 5. Clarification is permitted In Asks, Replies, Or Reblogs. 6. No, I Do Not have anything Better to do With My Time. Call Me Sordie. Gos/Gossi, She/Her, They/Them. Jade.

OOC -- Hiiii. This was inspired by @aita-alternia.

Here's the Grumblr rundown. Last updated oct. 3. 2023.

Here's the Google Doc I made about it. More indepth. Comment on it, or ask me for direct edit permission.

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Okay... II want to say that thiis iis QUAD, but II'm not quiite sure. IIt's compliicated. II'd liike your thoughts on the matter.

So, iintroductiions. My (9M Gold, dead) kiismesiis (9M Rust. II wiill refer to hiim as R) and II are physiically iinseparable. II diied, and through some hoofbeastshiit hauntghoul nonsense, II got stuck iin hiis eyes. He iis bliind as a result. We've been piitch for each other for quiite a whiile now (siince we were 6.5-7?), so thiis iis a relatiively recent development, granted iit diid strengthen our hatred for each other substantiially. IIt's been about a sweep siince that iinciident, and II thiink II'm startiing to piity hiim somewhat. II've also started seeiing hiis iinfuriiatiing stubborn diisposiitiion as charmiing. IIt's rather alarmiing, all thiings consiidered. We've always been strongly piitch, no vaciillatiion at all. II don't know what to do.

He can't see me typiing thiis, and he hasn't been on Grumblr recently, so II thiink II'm safe iin confessiing thiis iinformatiion.

(Unrelated addiitiion: Grumblr removed the optiion for HTML iin asks. II refuse to use orange over my lovely #A1A100, so iit looks liike II'll be refraiiniing from hemotypiing iin asks goiing forward. [sign.trollmp3])

you’re in a [Fascinating Jam]! [I Would Recommend] feeling out his thoughts and opinions on vacillation. [And If You Can’t Do That]! i think focusing on what made you [Hate Him] first could ameliorate the issue [:)]

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Just wanted to check before I go reminding myself how to color text in HTML, but are you still taking in-character asks?

// Yeah, though it may be some time before I get to them!

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WHY DO I FEEL LIKE SOMETHING JUST H^PPENED

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they’ve Done Something.

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OOC: I am disappointed in how Grumblr treated Mindhoney and her arc.

Hello there. I don't like making these kinds of posts (quite frankly, I tend to shy away from making ooc posts, I don't like breaking immersion if I don't have to), but after the anons that I've recently gotten because of Mindhoney and her story.

For context, substance abuse is extremely common in my family. My father smoked when he was younger, both of my grandfathers had their own vices when it comes to addiction, and I have uncles and aunts who struggled with it in the past. When I was younger, I nearly became dependent on my own drug, of which is a story I'm not going to share over my Grumblr Roleplay account.

I am extremely upset and disappointed in some the anons that I got implying that Mindhoney/Buzzit "deserved" to be arrested and punished for being a drug user and dealer. I should not be getting anons saying that my character deserved this punishment for an addiction that she can not control. I do not care if it is "in character" or "fits the world of Alternia", in fact I shouldn't even have to bring up my family's history with substance abuse in order to contextualize the idea that "perhaps saying a drug addict deserved to be punished by the law is a bad thing to say". You are sending these things to a stranger. How do you think I feel seeing all this? As someone who was almost in the same situation as Mindhoney?

I am not arguing that her actions were smart or wise. No, she shouldn't have been so brazen with her personal information, the fact that she got caught by the government is proof of this, the plot point of her getting arrested would not have happened if I didn't construct it literally as such. I am not arguing that your character on your Grumblr account can't hold these thoughts or opinions, as I know that a characters opinions do not directly correlate to someone's personal belief, but I find it suspicious how these asks have quirks I don't identify belonging to any account or how some were sent unquirked. I want you to put these in the context of "you are sending this to a real life human, a person, not a funny faceless mask, but someone" alongside of "you are sending asks about how much a character deserves to get punished for participating in a victimless crime". The fact that other characters get to murder characters and be celebrated while this character who struggled with substance abuse gets sent anons blaming HER for the fact that the GOVERNMENT is punishing her (with the threat of culling, which either means that she dies or she is institutionalized and have her autonomy stripped from her), is baffling, and tells me what certain people within this community thinks of drug users.

This is not the first time I have felt I've needed to make a statement about this community on my blog, but this is certainly the last moment that I feel compelled to keep my mouth shut about this. If you try to argue with me about this point either in my notes, or in my askbox, you are going to be blocked. If you were a person that sent me one of these anons, do not apologize to me either in Dms, in my notes, or in my askbox. I would rather you unpack your feelings as to why you thought it was acceptable to want a character to be punished for the simple crime of being a drug user and not being careful with her personal information.

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Hiii sordi3 its m3 :)! How ha<3 yo> b33n? Doing w3ll?

OMG! Teskie it’s been forever. it hasn’t been the best? i’ve been a little lonely down here haha. so glad to Hear From You :)

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so recently ive been worried about a friend of mine, or i guess former friend. i dont really know since this troll (we can call them sunflower!) kinda changed one day and it scared me and i stopped talking to them which i feel really bad about, but i dont know how to reach out to them! or if i even can or should

its been months and maybe theyre better off without me but i miss talking to them a bit, even if i am generally bad at talking to people

i just don’t know if i should since my other friend said he got messaged by them and they came around to talk about harassment?? or something

so maybe it would just be harassment to talk to them, and maybe i should just leave them be and wish them the best in their life, as they wished me

does that make any sense?

sometimes this happens! Sometimes You Need To Let Them Go. if this Sunflower wants to come back, i'm sure they will! you can leave a line of communication open, But If They're Gone, They're Gone.

Sometimes Friends Leave, Sometimes Paths Depart And Diverge. There's Nothing You Can Do About That Other Than Grieve If You Need It And Move On.

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after thinking on it and talking with a Sunflower that i know… Message And Check In.

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(⁘| mY (purple, m9) moirAil (Bronze, m7) keeps doing weird clown shit like specificAllY Around me And when i tell him to stop he just keeps doing it And insisting thAt i’ve AlwAYs love clowns when i hAven’t implied thAt even once whAt the fuck do i do this is eXtremelY??creepY??? |+)

You Can Always Walk Away!

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Go For It!

Decline; you know you're not one for relationships

Voting ended onSep 4, 2024

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so recently ive been worried about a friend of mine, or i guess former friend. i dont really know since this troll (we can call them sunflower!) kinda changed one day and it scared me and i stopped talking to them which i feel really bad about, but i dont know how to reach out to them! or if i even can or should

its been months and maybe theyre better off without me but i miss talking to them a bit, even if i am generally bad at talking to people

i just don’t know if i should since my other friend said he got messaged by them and they came around to talk about harassment?? or something

so maybe it would just be harassment to talk to them, and maybe i should just leave them be and wish them the best in their life, as they wished me

does that make any sense?

sometimes this happens! Sometimes You Need To Let Them Go. if this Sunflower wants to come back, i'm sure they will! you can leave a line of communication open, But If They're Gone, They're Gone.

Sometimes Friends Leave, Sometimes Paths Depart And Diverge. There's Nothing You Can Do About That Other Than Grieve If You Need It And Move On.

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Gosh, you've all Got A Lot To Say! I Hope I Can Help.

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~~hey there~~

~~im a migratory violetblood, 7 and a half sweeps~~

~~ for all my life ive never been able to keep a friend/enemy or a quadrant~~ ~~all my friends i do have have either gone off planet or are going off planet soon~~ ~~and my past relationships have always ended in turmoil~~ ~~my ancestor also tells me im not a freshdweller cause i can breathe seawater like her~~ ~~when my mutation is mentioned she gets mad at me~~

~~i think im the common denominator here so i just stay in my hive~~

~~how would i go about making/keeping relationships~~

you may wish to Get A Hobby that puts you around Other Trolls Of Your Age!

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Hello Everybody! it's been a little while since i've been here, and I'm So Sorry for that. Did You Miss Me? It's Been A Long Half A Sweep...

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quirkmasking because i am NOT revealing myself.

anyways. i have a flushcrush on two trolls. theyre both so..... i pity them, very much.

what do i do? ive...had thoughts about all of us being matesprits but. i dont know. am i insane?

i think you should go for it. talk to them about it. worst thing that happens is You'll all Be Safe when The Drones Arrive.

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GRUMBLR LIST

Hey! I'm making a list/spreadsheet of grumblr blogs, with links, it's going to be continually edited as time goes on

Here it is! -last edited aug. 23rd, 2024

this has only just started so a lot of blogs are missing, which I'll add soon. I'm only one guy making this

If you want me to put your blog here, or take it out, you can always ask! Feel free to reblog or comment on this post or dm me or whatever you want and I'll get to it

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hey you are uh. still webhooked to trollian fyi

Wtf.

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horrible things happen in any community, thats kind of just how groups of people work, theres also a lot of good stuff too! i have a bunch of friends i would not have met otherwise now!

I’m really happy for you!