Hi sir!! I just wanted to come on here and share my experience (which I had literally not even 10 minutes ago but I'm excited and you're the reason why)
I'm 19 and never have been able to orgasm. I was pretty sure something was wrong with me, because I never liked touching myself and rubbing my clit felt like too much
Now I've found your page and I have been interested in external things (especially spanking and nipple play) because they give me pleasure without touching my pussy. I've never had a partner, and self spanking has been a little awkward
Now I read on your page about spanking with a clotheshanger, which I did, and OMG.... that was a game changer. I followed your suggestion about following along to a spanking video, and I loved it... my bum is red and still tingles and I already want more. Then I started exploring a little, and I released that putting a finger inside didn't feel bad or hurt, so I slowly worked up to two fingers and I reached so far inside I think I'm changed forever. It wasn't enough though, so I tried lightly rubbing my clit while I thrusted my fingers inside and I don't think I've ever felt this good. I came for the first time in my life (although I broke it off too soon because it was so much) and I've never felt so good
Moral of the story, your page made me curious enough to explore a little more, and to allow myself to enjoy spankings even on my own. I literally thought something was broken in me but it's not and this is such a weird revelation for me, but also relief I feel like I might cry
I already want to do it again, so thank you ♡
That is so wonderful! And thank you for sharing your experience, I know many other readers will identity with what you've written.
Our early expectations about sex are that it will be such a pleasurable sensation, we can't wait to experience it - and for many that is indeed true. But there are also some for whom sexual arousal is not as straight-forward as the sex ed lessons suggest. Worried and ashamed, they fear their own bodies are broken.
Your message exemplifies why blogs like this are important. I believe strongly that people should get to know not just their own bodies, but also the arousal triggers for their own unique erotic imagination. And they should be able to do that in the privacy of their own bedrooms, without the oppressive burden of shame.
As you've so eloquently described, for many folks, the dial of arousal turns slowly. Sensations that might feel weird or even painful when you start, might be become delightful once you're adequately aroused. Arousal may have physical effects, but it originates between your ears. As you mentally relax, and your body starts to feel safe, you take your foot off the brake, and start pressing the accelerator instead.
When I wrote the introduction to my Guide to Self-Spanking, the point I was most keen to make was self-spanking was a form of masturbation, not an act of self-harm. When you understand that a smack on the bottom generates the same vibrations as rubbing the intimate places between your cheeks, it's obvious why spanking is so popular. And unlike tickling, you can spank yourself.
So for all those who are reading who worry they're broken, you almost certainly aren't. Your body just takes a while to warm up, and there are lots of things you can do that don't involve touching yourself whilst your inner temperature rises. Like reading stories, with a slipper, hairbrush, or clothes-hanger nearby.
Read enough stories and you'll begin to notice a pattern: how after the protagonist gets spanked, she often can't wait to masturbate and come hard. I'm so glad you've discovered the secret, I hope it's first climax in a lifetime of satisfying pleasure.
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