premature cumming is so fucking hot I don’t make the rules. grinding down on someone and listening to them whimper and moan into your mouth as you make out, them telling themselves it’ll be fine they can hold out it’s not that intense they’re gonna make it! and moving your hips slightly differently and pulling back to watch their mouth drop open as their eyes go wide for a second, hands tensing on your body, before going heavy lidded and moaning as a pretty wet patch spreads across their pants
sleepy needy boys… sleepy needy boys who solely want to grind on your thigh while he’s half awake, whining whimpering and yawning as you guide his hips gently and coo at him.
Small gestures to Demonstrate/Affirm your Domination during sex
It is a widely accepted fact that men think through their penises. In the Femdom world, most women embark this beautiful journey of Female Led Relationship with controlling their man’s tool. Having control of their man’s most intimate and most sensitive body part is a powerful gesture to demonstrate their dominance.
Taking control of penis is a strong gesture but it is not limited to caging it. Your man needs to understand that FLR means total control. He needs to understand that sex is all about your preferences and satisfaction. He needs to understand that your choices matter more than anything else. Here is a list of easy yet powerful ideas that you can incorporate during sex to reinstate your dominance and rule him (and sex) like a Queen:
1. Learn to say No – If you are trying out FLR after spending time with each other in a vanilla relationship, it can be tough to take control of your sex life. Why? Because there would have been times when you did not want to have sex but had it anyways just to satisfy your man. In an FLR, sex is in your hands. You have it only when you want it.
Your man would find it really dominating when you refuse to have sex when he wants because he is habitual to have it his way and whenever he desires. I’m not at all implying that you need to refuse him every time but you need to understand that your wish matters more than his. Saying NO when you do not want it clearly shows him that You’re the Dominant and he is the submissive. He needs to respect your decision and be available to have sex whenever you want.
2. Control his speed – Every individual has different preferences during sex, regardless of the gender. Your man might want to have slow and steady strokes while you might want him to go faster. Your preferences can even vary during a single intercourse. You might want to start slow and then you might want him to go in and out like a jackhammer. It all depends on your preferences.
There will be instances when he wants to go at a different speed than what you want. That’s when you need to show him that who is in charge. He will have to go as per your preferences without a second thought. That’s what FLR means. You are in lead and he has to put you first in every instance, even if it compromises his own physical satisfaction. Controlling his speed might not sound like a very attractive idea at first, but it surely has a very strong implication on a mental level.
Obviously, if you want you can reward him later on, but you have shown him, very subtly, that who is in control.
3. Control his thrust – Thrust refers to the power he is putting in each stroke. When you tell him that you want to have rough sex, it means you are asking him to stroke more powerfully. Controlling his thrust and telling him how to thrust is a very powerful way of showing your dominance.
The head of a penis is very sensitive and every man has a default way of thrusting so that it provides them maximum satisfaction. But you may want it your way. For example, he might like fast and rough thrusts while you prefer slow and deep thrusts. Now, when the sex is as per your needs and demands, he is prioritizing your satisfaction above his by thrusting in a particular way. He is reminded who is actually the in charge in the relationship.
4. Stop him – Men are programmed to cum as soon as possible whereas Women are programmed to enjoy longer in bed. In a vanilla relationship, usually the focus is on the man’s needs and sex ends when he has come.
But in a Femdom relationship, you can instruct him to inform when he is about to come. You can tell him to stop, so that he gets relaxed and you both can continue once again. You can do this endlessly, till the time you are satisfied and you can even deny him at the end (wicked smile). He might have wanted to cum as soon as possible, but poor him, he has a Queen who wants things Her way.
5. Have sessions just for you – Having sessions just for You means that You are the only one who is getting physically satisfied. I say physically because your man may get mental satisfaction by pleasing you. Such sessions strongly imply that your man gets satisfied in the relationship only when You want him to get satisfied. These sessions imply that you are in control of your sex life and he needs to act accordingly.
These are intercourse sessions that are solely focussed on you. You might want to begin with a back or a foot massage. You may want him to kiss particular parts of your body. You may want him soft & gentle or rough & wild. You may just want oral, PIV or just foreplay. Direct him to act as per Your needs and be the only one satisfied and exert your dominance!
6. Orgasm control – I briefly mentioned this above but let’s throw a little more light at it. Orgasm control is not just limited to denying him. It is surely fun to deny him masturbation and to not let him cum during intimate sessions. But the purview of orgasm control also expands to ruining his orgasms.
This way he gets to cum without an orgasm. Your man would be jerking off and having orgasms whenever he would have wanted since his teenage but now, in a Female Led Relationship, he is shown that there is someone Superior, his Mistress who actually owns his cock and his orgasms.
7. Become an initiator – This might not be for everyone but some might like it. You can totally seize his right to initiate sex. He should not be allowed to begin sex in any way, unless you want him to. You have the ultimate power to the sex life in your relationship and you both get intimate only when you initiate it.
This removes any kind of pressure that you might have in your relationship regarding your sex life. You now have no expectations to fulfil. Seizing his right to even initiate sex and having sex only when You want clearly indicates your dominance and control over him.
Well, this was my brief list of ideas to exert your dominance. I hope you got the point I am trying to make here. Your Dominance lies in small gestures and activities. Dominance and Love are similar, they are hidden in little things rather than one time big things.
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