Like last time – I didn‘t think I’d still have to write this but after reading some comments I can’t keep still.
Last time I was defending Ant. I haven’t changed my opinion about what I said some months ago. This time I have to defend Lisa though.
I’ve seen so many cruel comments towards her in the last few months. Reading them makes me sick.
At the beginning – this March and April – I was sorry for her. Sorry it all ended so quickly – at least from our – the fans – point of view. [It probably wasn’t as quick as it seemed for us.] I bet she was devastated, down, angry. I understood. I even wrote some encouraging words to her on Twitter.
And I meant it. I really meant it.
Some time later I noticed how she reacted by writing, answering and liking posts. I didn’t agree with it. I rejected - - them. Many of you, who also follow me on Twitter, maybe noticed that. I hated how she liked tweets of people insulting Ant, how she wrote tweets about her feelings (not that she did it), how she answered tweets of her supporters. It made my positivity towards her and the pity I felt for her vanish.
She always seemed like a lovely lady to me until that point. Still I didn’t insult her. I was angry. I wrote on Twitter what I think about the whole situation, yes.
But I always thought: Insulting her doesn’t help. It doesn’t help anyone. It makes you no better than the people supporting Lisa and insulting Ant in return. That’s what I also told some people of the Ant and Dec fandom who started insulting her without thinking.
On Twitter everything seemed to calm down kind of quickly. People came to their senses, calmed down.
Of course, there are still people complaining about it but the people I follow in general calmed down. Many probably because I’m a Celeb will start soon and everyone gets excited – although that raises other thoughts and worries.
I thought people in general not stopped but spread less hate in the last weeks and months. But I noticed some posts on Facebook.
I joined an Ant McPartlin fan group – which probably came up because of all the events in the past year. I thought it was a nice group of people showing their love and support towards Ant. At least that is how it started. Many made posts which said things like “I love you, Ant.” And “Get well!”.
But in the last days and weeks more and more people started posting hate – towards Lisa!
Like I said before: I don’t agree with Lisa’s actions – I understand her anger but I don’t accept her actions. Still there is no need to insult her.
People wrote comments which said things like “She looked a right nasty piece of work, Ant is we’ll rid of her.” and “Lisa is a gold-digging scumbag. “.
Are comments like these really necessary?
It’s the same situation as in March just directed at another person. In March people were insulting Lisa’s supporters who hate Ant.
Now people are insulting Lisa for things that happened half a year ago.
It’s just not right. No matter how much you hate someone – shouldn’t you just treat that person with respect?
Actually, that shouldn’t be a question. Of course, everyone deserves to be treated with some kind of respect – no matter what.
I’m already waiting for the hate I’ll get because of this post and for people reminding me that I probably also insulted people in my lifetime.
Yes, I probably did. Everyone was angry and didn’t think about what the said once. I’m not an exception. But especially on the Internet hate can spread so fast and can cause a bigger argument and people feeling bad about themselves because of what others – who don’t know them personally (!) – said.
Please, think about it before you insult people on the Internet and in real life.
I know, Lisa is grown up, Ant is grown up, they are both in public view. They probably received hate in the past. They may can handle it. But there are many people who can’t.
Even if you’re just hating on people who post cruel comments towards Ant:
Stop it! You don’t help anybody with that and it doesn’t solve a problem. It just causes new problems which will separate everyone more because of a word someone said without thinking.
A word directed at only one person can cause something big.
Love, don’t hate.