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Rae • 18 • She/They

[yekkes]

Eldest sisters r the most oppressed

[celestialinent]

hey yall dumb fucks reblogging this and yapping about how, ur life is actually super hard as a younger sibling…

the ‘eldest sisters are oppressed’ thing is based on the fact that the oldest girls in many families are, a lot of the time, drafted into watching her younger siblings to the point that shes more of a young third parent than a kid anymore. shes expected to be incredibly responsible while her younger siblings get to make mistakes. she get to do more housework than her father because apparently men shouldn’t have to watch laundry.

op is obviously referring to the ways in which older sisters ( nope not brothers) are forced into maternal roles by both society and their parents for a number of reasons, not limited to society’s insistence that they must learn to become mothers early. theres also the fact that many families both need and cant afford childcare. this idea that an oldest sister is free childcare is bullshit.

[dumbkiwi]

@avanithebean

[regbian-moved-to-lezbianz]

the percentage your phone is at is the percent big dick energy you have

[snerpthesnerr]

DES

[snerpthesnerr]

PA

[snerpthesnerr]

[despazito]

women over 23 whom i distrust:

hallmark-style disney obsession

harry potter obsession

calling their pets fur babies

referring to adult male actors as their babies or whatever

pigtails

saying ‘hubby’

if they say organic on facebook a lot

always introducing themselves as a ‘mommy’

that last point becomes tenfold if they have no children

[beanybooboo]

hey reblog this with ur race/ethnicity and whether u eat rice with a spoon or a fork

[cherryhomo]

reblog this w your weirdest fear!!! mine’s balloons

[cherryhomo]

I said weirdest not deepest! stop reblogging this w shit like ‘my life falling apart’ and ‘intimacy’ and have fun!! be scared of figurines or something damn

[podencos]

[sophisticatedmeme]

lil nose ring? Yikes lol

[wellyfullofale]

I think next thursday is gonna be the best day of my entire life tbh

[thequeenofsunflowers-deactivate]

reblog for next thursday to be the best day of your life

[mooncactus]

kids these days with their favorite character as their lockscreens… when I was a youth you had to carefully arrange all your favorite anime pictures on a word document and print it out to carefully slip inside the plastic sleeve of your three ring binder

[starpatches]

Patreon July sticker sheet preview

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[starpatches]

Patreon June sticker sheet, for pledges made up until the 1st of July

[405blazeitt]

i hate the trope of kids giving their favorite stuffed animal to a younger child as a sign of compassion and coming of age, as if this is something that should be expected of kids as they grow up

im 22 and i dont care who you are you’ll have to pry my ikea shark out of my cold dead hands

[dotdollplushies]

I can’t remember the name of the study, but there was a theory, supported by pretty good evidence, that if you have your comforter, be it blanket, plush, pacifier, whatever, taken away when you’re not ready to give it up, even if you’re a dinky little kid, it can have really long lasting effects. People who kept their comforters into adulthood were less likely to smoke, drink or do drugs, tended to have better family relations and home lives etc, while those that saw their comforter removed or destroyed were more likely to be drawn to more serious “comforts” elsewhere. The more extreme the removal, the more extreme the result. Typically.

We learn at our own pace to make and break connections and emotional ties, and the situation is forced upon us, we seek comfort. But whoa wait, you can’t possibly have comfort anymore, you’re five. You’re a big kid now.

So when parents are forcing you to “grow up” by tearing the only comfort in the world from you, they could actually be messing you up big time.

[star-anise]

In psychology they’re called “transitional objects” and they help the neurobiological process of helping children learn to internalize the experience of being loved and cared for, which is an essential part of learning to regulate your emotions.  They are REALLY important.

[imnotevilimjustwrittenthatway]

I wonder what it means psychologically that I’ve started getting a few more for myself?

[star-anise]

Well, there’s a process we call “re-parenting yourself” where you give yourself the love you missed out on in childhood, and thereby start to heal the pain you’ve carried since then.  And using childhood comfort objects can be part of that.

[zawesome-cd]

Oh..

[prolifers-r-gross]

Oh my god…

[celero-loves-dragons]

In the year of the lord 2018 our grown asses start healing.

[always-bookgasming]

This makes me feel less bad for being an adult that still sleeps with a teddy bear. My parents tease me about it but they never took any comfort items away from me.

[spacecookie030]

[strawberrybutch]

tag yourself im chaotic average

[thorradical]

i know that most anti-mogai posts are blatantly hateful and dont always give reasoning, so if you read one post on the damage mogai does, read this.

mogai harms lgbt people. it harms young gay, bi and dysphoric/trans kids.

lets start with gender. i used think i wasnt a girl because im very gnc and a lesbian. both of these things disconnect me from womanhood in ways only lesbians, esp butches, can understand. this was at a time where i was deep in mogai circles. i ended up with some crazy madeup label that furthered my disconnection from being a woman. this isnt just a personal experience. its happened to so many people i know, including my friends and girlfriend. just searching “mogai hell” brings up so many. not only this, but it also confuses the hell out of actually-trans people, especially gnc ones who think that they cant really be a transman or transwoman bc “im too feminine/masculine so i must really be *insert mogai gender*!”

sexuality. mogai promotes the fact that theres a lot of different sexualities. but there isnt. theres four (gay, straight, bi/pan, ace). everything else is just a preference, like demisexual, morosexual, sapiosexual, etc. it also offers new terms for the same thing, ie androsexual (attraction to men). some of them are just blatant fetishisation of trans people too, eg skoliosexual. i used to call myself gynesexual because i didnt want to be a lesbian, and polysexual because i was attracted to “everyone but men”.

which leads on to my next point. mogai creates these false genders and sexualities which gay/bi/trans kids use to mask their internalised homophobia/transphobia. i called myself gynesexual and polysexual because i had so much internalised homophobia that i didnt want to associate with the term lesbian. my best friend went by a mogai gender for nearly a full year because he didnt want to come to terms with the fact hes a trans guy. it creates a false solace that these teens are using to mask their internalised hate for their actual identity, but is actually just making it worse.

as well as this, all these labels are inviting cishets into the community. cis + straight people are using these terms and then thinking that they’re oppressed. buzzfeed literally published an article by an “androsexual” cishet woman. all these stupid labels are also making a mockery out of lgbt people. theres literally people who are saying their gender is space. look up kalvin garrah’s “trans guy reacts to tumblr” video. he’s mean but he gets the point across, especially from a trans perspective.

mogai harms lgbt people. it harms young lesbian, gay, bi and trans teenagers.

[etheringtonbrothers]

For those of you that like everything neatly organised, here’s links to EVERY ONE of my first 150 how to THINK when you draw TUTORIALS, in ALPHABETICAL ORDER for #SkillUpSunday! Enjoy, link, pin, share! Cheers! Lorenzo! How to draw ANGRY EXPRESSIONS How to draw BIRD HEADS How to draw BOOKS How to draw BOXES How to draw BREAKING GLASS How to draw BRICKWORK How to draw CABLES and WIRES How to draw CAR CHASES How to draw CATERPILLAR TRACKS How to draw CAVES How to draw CHARACTERS (3-SHAPES) How to draw CHARACTERS (FLIPPED-SHAPES) How to draw CHARACTER SHAPES How to draw COMIC COVERS How to draw COMPOSITION How to draw CROSS-CONTOURS How to draw EARS How to draw FABRIC How to draw FEET & SHOES How to draw FEMALE HANDS PART ONE How to draw FEMALE HANDS PART TWO How to draw FOREGROUND MIDGROUND BACKGROUND How to draw GAME BUILDINGS How to draw GEMS and CRYSTALS How to draw GIRL’S HAIR How to draw GRASS How to draw HAIR (1940s styles) How to draw HAPPY EXPRESSIONS How to draw HORNS How to draw HORSE HEADS How to draw IMPACT DEBRIS How to draw IN 3D How to draw INTEGRATING LOGOS How to draw INTERIOR BASICS How to draw IN-WORLD TYPOGRAPHY How to draw JUNGLE PLANT CLUSTERS How to draw JUNK HOUSES How to draw LAMP POSTS How to draw LAVA How to draw LIGHTNING and ELECTRICITY How to draw MECHANICAL DETAILS How to draw MUSHROOMS and FUNGUS How to draw MONSTER HEADS How to draw MONSTER TENTACLES How to draw MOUNTAINS How to draw NEGATIVE SPACE How to draw NEWSPAPERS How to draw NOSES How to draw PERSPECTIVE BOXES How to draw PIGS How to draw POD HOUSES How to draw POURING LIQUID How to draw ROBOT ARMS How to draw ROCK FORMATIONS How to draw RUNNING FIGURES How to draw SAUSAGE DOGS How to draw SEA WEED   How to draw SHADOW COMPOSITION How to draw SHOULDER ARMOUR How to draw SIEGE WEAPONS How to draw SILHOUETTE THUMBNAILS How to draw SMOKE EFFECTS How to draw SNOW How to draw SPACE BIKES How to draw SQUIRRELS How to draw STICK FIGURES How to draw THE HORIZON How to draw TIKI STATUES How to draw TREASURE CHESTS How to draw TREE BARK How to draw TREE ROOTS How to draw VEHICLES How to draw VINTAGE PLANES How to draw WATER How to draw WOODEN HOUSES

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