Autistic Mom of 4 2 are Autistic. #raisingautism

I am a 42 year old autistic mom of four children two normal two autistic. raising them has been a journey and I would love to help and share with other parents who are autistic and raising autistic kids because the epidemic is much bigger than we all realize it and if we don't help each other who's going to help us????

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#Mindblind.

I guess #neurotypicals would call me MindBlind. What does that even mean? Apparently it does describe me pretty well. I've been autistic since birth and now I'm 42 and I'm still pretty #mindblind so I looked into what it means.

To neurotypicals it means I have no theory of mind. I have no idea how my actions or behavior affects other people. I'm not a #stupid person I can see when my behavior affects someone. I just can't control it. it's like I feel this explosion inside my body and I feel like I'm literally going to explode and burst. I cannot control my meltdowns but I always feel bad afterwards because people look at me like a child and say you act like a spoiled little #brat and you're 42. I really would like to put a face to autism so that people know that I am autistic or when they see an adult having a #meltdown in public they stop and think to themselves this person might be autistic. It really might help if people could put a face to it. I am proud to be autistic. if you just found out you're #Autistic or you have known for a long time be proud of who you are join with others in your community and spend time with other autistic people that are your age. in the last two years I have met about 25 people who are autistic and their neurotypical partners and their #autistic #children. Our community is way bigger than people think and autism started in the 60s and 70s they just didn't realize it which is why we have such high autistic birth rates. I am really hoping that we can join as a community and help each other. Please message me if you are interested in joining me on my crusade. I promise to make it as anxiety free as possible. My crusade is simple spread awareness to other autistic adults and help them deal with all their problems as well as helping parents of autistic children raise #autisticchild. My daughters are both #autistic I have four children two of them are neurotypical. Let's all that each other and spread #awareness

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Autistic Adults and dating.

I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome in the 90s and had no idea that it meant autism spectrum disorder until recently. I have always been different from everyone else, super socially active but also socially awkward. people would always hang out with me at parties and in public but in private they would talk about some of the weird things that I do. I have meltdowns I try to control them but sometimes people just trigger me and I can't help it. I have gotten better at making eye contact with people and relationships but I am 42 years old and I still struggle with keeping a romantic partner. I have been married twice and I am on my third relationship long-term. When I found out I was autistic I told him. The way I found out Asperger's meant ASD was when I took my daughter's to the psychiatrist after many years of mental health problems. I found out that both of them are autistic and that autism they are now finding possibly runs in the family. Usually if a child is autistic one of the parents is also autistic, they just didn't catch it back in the 70s and 80s. finding out I have ASD has helped me with being a parent because when my children have meltdowns. I know that they are meltdowns and that they will trigger mine so I handle them differently. what breaks my heart is I recently told my current boyfriend that I would like to write books about being an autistic adult and raising autistic children and the struggles. I also told him I wanted him to write a book about being in a relationship with someone who is autistic and he said the most heartbreaking thing to me. he told me he's going to write a book teaching people how not to be with autistic people because I only warned him I was crazy not that I was autistic. I now see my autism as a gift and not a curse or something that needs to be cured. If people don't like me for me then they can go find someone else to pick on. it's really hard for me because I allow other people to affect my emotions on a regular basis including my children. I have learned recently that there are several autistic adults raising autistic kids and have started support groups and discussions. If anybody has any comments or would like to help me spread autism awareness in adults please let me know. I just met a guy recently who was diagnosed with autism five years ago as one of his possible diagnosises along with schizophrenia. he says he didn't believe he was autistic until he met me and found out that we are very much alike although very different. What we are finding is most people with ASD share a lot of dislikes and likes but are very different for example my youngest daughter is very hyper and social but has problems keeping friends and relationships. I have two normal children also known as neurotypical. And my oldest daughter is on the other end of the spectrum very quiet and reserved socially awkward and doesn't have friends hardly. they are both young adults now and I want to make sure that they get the help they need because services for autistic adults do not really exist. Thank you for reading my post please comment or message. #autismpride #autisticadult #actuallyautistic #asd