Alyssa.

🩷🤍🖤🤎

[bnmxfld]

But I must admit I miss you terribly. The world is too quiet without you nearby.

Lemony Snicket / The Beatrice Letters (via bnmxfld)

[bnmxfld]

“I won’t say it wasn’t meant to be, because it was. We were. Only for a short while, maybe. But we were.”

— Unknown

[joli--coeur]

to anyone out there who’s struggling with having no friends — wondering where you belong in this world, searching for a place to belong — you matter. you are so important. and you will find your people or maybe just a special person who feels like home. it may seem like your loneliness will last forever, but it won’t. it never does.

[bnmxfld]

“Travel far enough, you meet yourself.”

— David Mitchell / Cloud Atlas

[sapphistryyy]

you do not get to determine how people label themselves

i repeat: YOU DO NOT GET TO DETERMINE HOW PEOPLE LABEL THEMSELVES

[fuckyeahasexual]

Reasons as to why I, an asexual, use/identity with the rainbow flag (in addition to the Ace one). There are more, but those are the most important ones: 1. Im not just Ace, but also aromantic and non-binary, instead of three flags I use a rainbow as a catch-all sign of queerness. 2. Support. A rainbow means the entire LGBTQ+ community and I want to show support for all of them. 3. Recognition. Everyone knows the rainbow flag, but few know the Ace flag, it's simply much more identifiable.

Equally valid as it is important!! 

[snootyfoxfashion]

Heart Shaped Pride Buttons from KeikiiArt

Sexuality // Gender // Pronouns

[thescouringoftheshire]

The way people are reacting to the Spongebob/Pride tweet from Nickelodeon is really telling about the way people view the LGBTQ community and even the concept of being LGBTQ itself. Here’s the original tweet:

Now, the majority of people (at least from what I’ve seen) are jumping to the conclusion that Nickelodeon is saying that spongebob is gay, when... that’s not what the tweet said at all? All the tweet said was that he’s part of the LGBTQ+ community, which, shockingly, includes more than just gay people. We know this tweet is about more than just gay people because Korra is one of the other characters featured, and she’s canon bisexual (I don’t know who the third person is, sorry). And we know that Spongebob is not gay, because he was confirmed as ace by Stephen Hillenberg back in 2005.

And, again shockingly, ace people are part of the LGBT community. I’m not saying it would be bad if Spongebob was gay, all I’m saying is that it’s very telling that Nickelodeon went “Spongebob is LGBTQ” and people heard “Spongebob is gay.” It’s doing disservice to ace people AND to all other identities that fall under the LGBTQIA+ label.

In conclusion, Spongebob is a genderfluid panromantic asexual, and there’s nothing anyone can do about it.

[fuckyeahasexual]

Remember how the creators of spongebob said he was ace? Nick posted a tweet with lgbtq+ nick icons, which included spongebob, and since his orientation was never revealed in canon, buzzfeed released a huge 'spongebob comes out as gay!' Article that's now viral. Another instance of using lgbtq or the rainbow flag and forgetting mspec or aspec people all together. And fuck buzzfeed man, they could've just googled, given us exposure, and avoided a possible 'aces stole spongebob' fiasco to come

Spread the blame around. It ain’t just buzzfeed.

People think in such a binary, and such a homophobic binary as well that they find all the stereotypes possible, and even add porn to tweets about a children show to show “how gay he is” while also insulting “virgins”.  

And I could speak on how this has been known by the ace community since 2005. Or how shit like this falls on the shoulders of aces while everyone in the community was trying to focus on black and trans concerns. (Or I could mention how many out trans aces there are. It’s a wonderfully high %) Or the assumption that everyone must use the split attraction model. Even the continuation of this spot on this cap

Instead I want to focus on the silver lining of this bullshit

When spongebob stopped trending Asexual keep trending. And it was full of tweets from aces who are talking about this respectfully and twitter is accidentally boosting things from aces of color that were posted recently

There’s also a bunch of people who are using this as a moment to love themselves a little harder today. And that’s super important, especially these days. 

[thegodlessvoid]

nickelodeon: spongebob doesn't experience sexual attraction

the people: that makes sense, it's a children's show

nickelodeon: spongebob is asexual

the people: unacceptable, disgusting, cannot believe our children are being exposed to such horrific sexualisation, 0/10 would not watch this show again, what's next, porn?

[aflux-journals]

Aflux flag

This flag is based off of the current designs for the ace and aroflux flags. The green represents being aromantic, the purple represents being asexual, and the red represents alloromantic/allosexual. The gradients between represent the fluidity between identities.

The red and the purple are on opposite sides of the flag because the fluidity aren't inherently related to each other (but they can be!!! I'm still not sure all the ways to be aflux because I'm the only one I know)

[templedragon]

12. Have you ever faced discrimination within the LGBTQ (IA+) community? If so, how?

Yes. I’m aroace, but some people think I’m a lesbian that hasn’t found the right woman yet. Some imprint their experience of having zero interest in men onto me, but I don’t have romantic or sexual interest in women or non-binaries either. There’s an aspect of compulsory romance (amatonormativity) that I must like people romantically because “everyone does”. Not true, and that’s as harmful as compulsory heterosexuality.

We’re always looking to see ourselves represented positively. Historical people that lived alone are assumed to be queer allos, but unless there are documents of them having numerous sex partners or a stack of letters between them and another person (or more) with romantic text, they could be aroace.

In a community that’s supposed to celebrate diversity, we have to think about the experiences that are different to ours. I support gay marriage because I recognise it’s important to some people. But most romantic people wouldn’t consider living costs as aro-phobic, yet living costs are based on two people sharing a bed. Why should I suffer financially because I’m aromantic? What are we doing to ensure that people that want to live alone can do so without being penalised?

There’s one form of discrimination that I benefit from, and that’s the assumption that disabled people are aroace. I happen to be, and it’s a relief when I have my visible mobility aids that people don’t ask me on dates. But there are alloromantic allosexual disabled people that would love to be asked out and get hook ups.

[avpdnoisearchive]

unstoppable force (my compulsive need to overshare) vs. immovable object (my paranoia that saying anything will cause everyone to hate me) 

[fearlesslygenuine-deactivated20]

cute dating tip: don’t cheat on your partner you fucking pathetic piece of shit

[lolraddays]

high regard // the story so far

~enjoy my work~

[s-unberry]

““Almost. It’s a word that signifies so much. Heavy with meaning. That you could’ve done something, had something. or someone. That things could’ve worked, but didn’t. It’s a sad word. I’ve had many almost’s relationships in my life, but none have hurt as much as this one. None have ripped apart my heart roughly at its seams, over and over again, shredding it into infinite pieces. No pain I have experienced has felt like someone drove a knife straight into my heart. Like someone cut a hole in me. No almost has left memories that used to creep up on me and make me smile, but now cause anger to slam into my chest like a freight train, reminding me of the fact that I almost believed you truly cared. I almost thought that you’d never get sick of me and leave. I almost believed we could’ve been forever. ””

— death-is-ideal, writing prompt #67: write about an almost relationship, which broke your heart (via wnq-writers)

[destroymylife]