autistic, alexithymic, and female.

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[autistic-alexithymic-female]

Girls are girls.

I will not rest until natural female image is respected; I created a collage of how girls actually look.

The above images are how teen girls actually look — these are children likely between ages 14-19

Image 1 — How girls in their early 20s actually look (likely with acne)

VERSUS

Image 2 — How mass media depicts girls in their early 20s

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Girls are turned into these Instagram models when they are CHILDREN. High cheekbones, smouldering lips, fake tan, wavy hair, pouting, staring into the distance.

I see this as objectification; the girls are trained to make themselves look significantly older than they actually are. They put emphasis on their smouldering/pouting lips, and high cheekbones.

Image 3 — how (relatively young) adult women actually look (late 20s-early 30s)

VERSUS

Image 4 — how mass media depicts (relatively young) adult women (late 20s-early 30s)

Image 5 — how adult women actually look (late 30s-40s)

Image 6 — how (silver haired) adult women actually look (age between 50s-70s)

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Image 7 — how (silver haired) adult women actually look (age between 70s-90s)

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I have made collages of how you look during SEVEN DIFFERENT stages across your life — teens, early 20s, late 20s-early 30s, late 30s-40s, 50s-70s, and 70s-90s.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

When a woman is upset, people do not ask her what is wrong.

Men act as though a woman is upset as she is guilty, which is ridiculous. A woman having frustrations with men is guilty. A woman wanting autonomy is guilty. A woman wanting respect is guilty. A woman not liking how men treat her is is guilty.

Men do not believe women have feelings. An upset woman is not upset; she is hysterical, whiny, nagging, shrill.

Male guilt-tripping is EVERYWHERE.

[eve-was-framed]

This is Niani Finlayson. She was shot and killed by police after calling 911 for help, due to domestic violence she was facing. Police are declining to release body cam footage, but we now know that the responding officer they sent has killed another person in a case similar to this prior to Niani’s murder.

Black women are not safe. The state does not protect them from domestic violence.

[betab1te-deactivated20241023]

‘An explosion’: what is behind the rise in girls questioning their gender identity?

As the NHS reviews gender referrals, parents, clinicians and young people reveal the social, medical and emotional challenges they face

It’s reached the articles. And the NHS. People are starting to see it.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

Men: Do not talk about your emotions, it's greedy.

Women do not express our emotions as we are selfish.

Women express our emotions as MEN have abused us.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

'I objectify myself to feel empowered. I objectify myself to feel good. I objectify myself to feel liberated.'

If that were the case, then why are men NOT objectifying themselves? Why is the women's rights movement devoted to hypersexualized self-objectification?

If men wanted to feel 'sexually empowered', they would have sex with women and/or masturbate. They would not objectify themselves for people to stare at them!

Out of all the shit to do--abolishing sex work, creating partner organizations, petitions, helping Saudi, Iranian, and Afghan women, stopping FGM and breast ironing, helping women in women's shelters, war correspondence, female separatism--

you think it is genuinely 'liberating' for women to monitor and surveil our own bodies?

What does self-monitoring how your body looks have to do with sex, or SEXISM? Men do not objectify themselves.

[lilacsupernova]

Men behave worse when they outnumber women. Put a woman alone in a meeting with four men, and 70 per cent of the interruptions she receives from men are negative. Turn it round so that you have four women and one man in the room: just 20 per cent of the interruptions women receive from men are negative. As the study says, when women predominate, 'Men undergo a drastic change. They become far less aggressive.'

Even very small boys - aged between three and a half and five - interrupt girls twice as often as the little girls interrupt them. Parents also interrupt daughters more often than sons, creating a pattern of behaviour in their children: the boys see that it is legitimate to interrupt girls and girls learnt to expect it. This is setting children the example of the authority gap at such an impressionable age. It is iniquitous, but parents probably don't even realize they are doing it.

– Mary Anna Sieghart (2021) The Authority Gap: Why Women are Still Taken Less Seriously Than Men and What We Can Do About It, p. 63.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

I have always felt my parents would respect me if I were their son and not their daughter.

Sometimes my mother yells at me out of nowhere. If I were male; I would be as big as she was (or likely bigger) and I do not think she would do that. If I were not male, my mother would not have told me that my body hair is 'unhygienic'. If I were her son, my mother would be so much more concerned about her 'precious boy'.

My father has been abusive and neglectful of me. If I were HIS son, he would speak to me 'man to man'. If I were my father's son, he would have taken me to boy scouts (where I would climb walls and build rafts) instead of girl scouts (where I baked cakes and sewed). If I were my father's son, he would have cared when I told my parents I was being abused. If I were my father's son, he would have allowed me to go outside at nighttime. If I were my father's son, he would see me as his OFFSPRING, and not as a project he 'looks after and takes care of' so he looks to other people his age like a 'family man'. If I were my father's son, he would tell me that my safety and protection is more important than obedience.

If I were his son, my father would actually initiate more conversations with me about MY needs; as his offspring, my NEEDS are more important than HIS wants. If I were his son, my dad would actually hang out with me and have days out with me. If I were his son, my father would not disappear and then reappear again as if out of nowhere. If I were my father's son, I would not have to talk to him about sexism.

Some of my parents' friends see my dad as a 'family man'; he is possibly quite shy. I do not see that as sweet; it worries me. My dad says he needs my mother to 'keep him company' as he does not have a lot of friends, but my father rarely even talks to my mother, or even to me.

I think a lot of fathers act as though they are afraid to raise their daughters, but it's not about fear. Men see women as objects. Fathers see daughters as projects to 'look after and care of', to say that they are 'family men'.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

Rules of Sexism

Men are allowed to talk to women; women are not allowed to talk back.

Men are allowed to do shit to women; women are not allowed to do shit back to men.

Men are allowed to be oppressors; women are allowed to be grateful.

Men are allowed to feel pain; women are NOT allowed to feel pain.

Men doing womanface are amazing; women SHOULD be hyper-feminine.

Men who are nurturing and who treat women as people are amazing; women SHOULD treat other people as human beings.

Women's emotions are dangerous; men's emotions are amazing.

Women who want to be treated the way men treat one another are greedy.

Men are 'lonely' and 'miserable' as women say no to going out with them; women need to relinquish themselves for men's feelings. Men are not violent, they are 'passionate'. Women who talk about men's bodies the way they talk about ours, are horrific. Men are people! Women who point out that men do not have to go through what women go through, are reckless. There are nice guys out there! Not all men! What about men's feelings?

A man's hurt feelings matter more than his sexism against women.

Men's bodies are sacred and deserve protection and safety; women holding men accountable 'emasculates' men. Women saying no to men 'emasculates' men. Women say yes to men.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

White men: 'Cishet' white women get everything they want!

White or not, there has been no female president.

White or not, less than 3% of record producers are female.

White or not, less than 1% of sound engineers are female.

White or not, men are preying on women at nighttime. (I really want to walk to restaurants at night; male predation is why we need female separatism).

White or not, men oppress women for not shaving their armpit/calf/belly button hair, and for not shaving around around their vulvas.

White or not, men are brothel keepers, strip club owners, pornographers, and traffickers of women.

White or not, men depict women as hyper-feminine and hyper-sexualized. This is an act of violence. If women depicted men this way, it would be seen as 'emasculating'.

White or not, men are praised for doing womanface. Men are even given TV shows where they do womanface COMPETITIONS and they are seen as amazing for calling women's vulvas and periods 'fishy'.

What is a "fishy" drag queen?

Answer (1 of 3): What is a “fishy” drag queen? A fishy drag queen is a queen that looks like a biological woman — usually to the point of

White or not, men never have to think about whether someone will call them the b-word or c-word. White or not, men have never had to worry about being called a sexist slur. White or not, men never have to think about whether someone will call them shrill, nagging, or whiny.

Men do not have to think about ageism the way women do. Men do not have to think about sexism the way women do. Men do not have to think about whether they will be called unladylike. Men do not have to think about being nit-picked. Men do not have to think about grooming the way women do.

White or not, men do not have to think about strip clubs, trafficking rings, and brothels the way women do.

White or not, MEN do not have to think about female separatism and radical feminism and being gender critical the way WOMEN do.

White or not, men have never had to worry about being called a sexist slur.

White or not, men have never had to think about niqabs.

White or not, men have never had to think about MEN's sexist tone policing.

White or not, WOMEN do have to think about MEN's sexism.

[femescent]

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

It makes me angry. Sexism makes me so angry.

Men know that women have body hair and they genuinely expect women to shave around their vulvas. People may think, 'but it's a choice!' Men punish women for NOT choosing to shave our armpits/calves/belly buttons/vulvas, though. IT IS NOT A CHOICE.

Men tell women our body hair is unhygienic and that refusing to shave will give us BO. Men tell us to shave our body hair, as sweat gets trapped in our body hair and it makes us smell. Men tell us to shave our body hair as it makes us dirty and impure.

Men will claim not to be sexist while still thinking that female body hair is 'unnecessary'. Men will claim not to be sexist while still thinking a woman SHOULD shave her body hair as she is 'neglectful' if she does not.

A woman would never tell a man to shave his body hair. Body on men makes them MORE manly, MORE masculine, MORE powerful. Men are PRAISED for having body hair.

Men do not see women this way. A woman SHOULD shave around her vulva; a woman SHOULD wear cosmetics. Men see periods and menopause as dirty and impure. Men see wrinkles and sagging skin as impure. Men see women not smiling as impure.

[hard--headed--woman]

lush once said "when he's nice to me, he's just nice to himself, and he's watching his reflection" and this quote should be read by every member of the "not all men" and "there are a lot of nice guys though" crowd

[ladyinaradiator]

romance authors and smut writers are directly feeding into benefitting the patriarchy. every time we read or write about glorifying virginity, incest, BDSM, abuse, rough sex; we are only grooming more and more women to sexualize and fall victim to intimate partner violence. shame on you. fuck you.

[houseofcharmingnerds]

In his book "Refusing to be a Man," John Stoltenberg argues that pornography offers us a clear window into the construction of male sexuality as being centered around notions of dominance, power differentials, and violence. While pornography often presents a distorted and damaging view of women, it paradoxically reveals the truth about men and their sexual desires. In this way, pornography serves as a reliable source of evidence for the ways in which gender roles and power dynamics shape our understanding of sexuality.

[jxxdn00]

PROTECT WOMEN’S PRIVATE SPACES!!

[femaleloggedon]

Record store makes Tik Tok about their female only stock. Comments filled with people asking if they sell specific trans artists DESPITE them already confirming they have trans artists in their catalog.

It’s not about inclusion they just don’t want women to have anything for themselves.

[autistic-alexithymic-female]

I care a lot about female record producers. Less than 3% of producers are women. I was searching for female producers, and someone had told me to look up Arca. This person never once mentioned to me that Arca is NOT a woman.

I was thinking, 'Oh shit, a female producer! Thank you so much for the recommendation.' I thought, 'Isn't it great that women in record production are networking with one another?'

Finding out Arca is a MAN made me furious. This whole time, I was thinking of ways to advocate for female producers, and it turns out this is a MAN! As did SOPHIE, Arca says he is a woman.

I do not speak ill of the dead unless they have done really bad shit.

This man, Samuel Long, was NOT a good person. Samuel Long has an asteroid and even a fucking planet named after him, which is ridiculous. Samuel Long wanted people to call him by the name Sophie Xeon (which I am not doing). He wanted people to advocate for him as a 'female producer', which many people have done for HIM, and even continue to do after HIS death.

Samuel Long worked with female electronic musicians, making hyper-pop music. I have nothing against hyper-pop, I have listened to quite a bit of hyper-pop music, but this man should NOT be seen as a pioneer.

A lot of trans musicians seem to make electronic music that is very hyper-feminine and hyper-sexual. There is another man who says he is a woman, called Tim Petras.

Tim Petras seems to be obsessed with Paris Hilton; he has collaborated with her multiple times.

He infantilizes himself a lot, as did Samuel Long, who Tim Petras has worked with.

It makes me fucking furious that there are actual female producers out here who NEED people's advocation, and MEN have formed networks of 'trans female musicians' (and 'non-binary musicians') to ERASE women!

These men have been put into playlists that are specifically meant to be for FEMALE record producers and FEMALE sound engineers. These men have been signed to labels when it could have been a WOMAN who was signed!

It is a disgrace.

[sad--fem]

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[woman-for-women]