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New profile post: Axel, they/them. I can't say I have a gender but I'm obsessed with lesbians whether I like it or not. I like melodrama: wrestling, literary fiction, yuri, pop-punk, web horror. I will tag reblogs: writing reblogs art reblogs resources fandom reblogs: just wrestling for now Talking to myself will be tagged axel talks.
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You actually just have to accept that it is possible for people in your social group to be abusers even if you are not literally Jeffrey Epstein and in fact even if you have no money and all of the odds stacked against you.
It is true that money and power enables abuse on a grand scale, but the converse is not true— having no money and no power does not make abuse less likely. I think many of us know this from experience. There is no special moral quality to being poor or being oppressed. Oppressed people abuse each other all the fucking time, in families and relationships and friendships. People of color abuse each other. Women abuse each other. Gay people and trans people abuse each other.
Cesar Chavez raped the women and girls of the labor rights movement throughout his career, using worker solidarity as a bludgeoning tool to ensure their silence.
If you say “people in my group don’t do this, it’s the powerful men that do it” then you harm yourself in several ways.
1. You signal to your social circle that you do not hold them to any standard of behavior. You have preemptively pledged loyalty, which means that if they behave objectionably, any objection on your part will mean a betrayal of your community.
2. You mark yourself as socially permissive. People in your social group know that you are, at baseline, unwilling to accept or act on allegations against them. To be frank, this makes you very easy to take advantage of, whether in service of abusing someone else or abusing you directly.
And you harm other people by telling a lie. What about all of the people who have been abused by a person within this oppressed group? They have it reiterated that their abuse cannot be spoken about, for the sake of solidarity.
Everybody on this earth has the potential to do immeasurable harm to another person just as they have the potential to do good. You can— and in fact I would say you must— advocate and fight for the rights of your people without making yourself into a useful tool for bad actors within your community.
Moraff’s Spherejongg, 1995
Google says it’s no different than checking IDs at the airport.
This is just another form of censorship, control of what we can/can't see and engage with, and another means of getting our private information.
Alternative forks of AOSP (Android Open-Source Project) which are not maintained by Google and will not be affected by this:
LineageOS (I use this one)
Graphene OS
Functionally they are virtually identical to stock Android. Android began as an open-source project, and these versions are built off of that.
Fuck Google.
for those like me who cannot install alternative android forks on their phone because the phone in question is thoroughly unrootable, I would recommend downloading anyapk on your phone while you still can. In their own words:
anyapk is a lightweight Android application installer that bypasses Google's developer verification requirements by using local ADB (Android Debug Bridge) connections. Smoothly install any APK file on your device without restrictions, gatekeepers, or corporate approval.
If you're reading this after Google's lockdown date and are unable to install anyapk the regular way, there is a method outlined on the github linked above which tells you how to install anyapk on your phone by plugging it into a computer with ADB installed on it. Once you have anyapk on your phone, you will not have to do that ever again (unless you delete anyapk off your phone)
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a tweet by @/Pirat_Nation:
From September 2026, all apps, including those outside the Play Store, must come from verified developers.
No more anonymous sideloads. No quick comebacks for malware gangs.
First: Brazil, Indonesia, Singapore, Thailand.
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"Sideloading" is the rentseeker word for "being able to run software of your choosing on a computing device you purchased". There is no reasonable case for an operating system developer having a say over what programs you run on your hardware.
--Eugen Rochko of Mastodon https://mastodon.social/@Gargron/115093185284473606]
Illustration based on The Works of Vermin. here's what i've been doing the last couple months 🐛
4 months in t has started visibly changing my face. didn't expect that. i was having some phantom uti symptoms for a while and those have gone away so i assume that was an adjustment period thing. sexual sensation continues to improve. no changes at all to my voice or hair. i'm learning bothering the acne on my back is causing it to look worse and i really need to just patch it and ignore as soon as i notice it. bottom growth has stalled at a few cm.
Marchers at the Gay Freedom Day Parade in San Francisco. The focal point is a woman wearing a cape and a leotard with “Gay Power” emblazoned on the front in glittery cursive. She is carrying a shield depicting an outline of a labrys and the words “FIGHT BACK”
ph: Elaine Gay Jarvis | 1978
every few days i want to make a 'you like "him" because the ways "he" fails to perform masculinity limit "his" access to patriarchal power enabling you to better imagine yourself as having power over "him" partially by misogynizing "him", i like her because i think she should be on estrogen' joke about another fictional character and i hold myself back because fictional character fans are scary.
Beware of the pipeline
the other thing about Internet dogpiling is that it is just not possible to think clearly during the acute stages. it’s so easy to criticize people for responding defensively or tactlessly to mass criticism but I cannot overstate the degree to which your brain becomes a rat in a trap. I think we do have to temporarily recalibrate our expectations in these circumstances and accept that they do not necessarily represent how that person responds to criticism. the skills for self-regulating and reacting to normal interpersonal criticism are not the same skills needed to respond to viral callouts.
as other people have pointed out:
for most of human history, if a bunch of people are really mad at you specifically all at once, it means you’re about to die badly. obviously that’s not the case with internet controversy (…usually) but our nervous systems don’t know that. I just think that’s a variable we have to consider inherent to the circumstances rather than an aberration.
it's just that. it's so fucking important that the linguist bails on the expedition before the novel. the written word fails in area x. it becomes one of the most chilling modes of cosmic incomprehensibility in area x. the biologist's written account is a self-admitted failure. she is nameless. where lies the strangling fruit is all the more terrifying for the fact that it is in a recognizable language with an inscrutable meaning. the journals are ROTTING in the lighthouse, ink running and turning into decaying organic matter along with everything else. no one is named. the novel begins with a pointless semantic debate that everyone is fiercely invested in regarding the tower/tunnel nomenclature. no one has a name. they are instrumentalized to their professions. when she encounters the crawler, the biologist immediately compares it to an encounter with the "destroyer of worlds," a "more apt" name for the starfish than its scientific nomenclature.
"what an inadequate name i had chosen for it—the crawler."
this novel is just as (if not more) concerned with how area x heralds the failure of language, not just the failure of scientific inquiry
all emotions are important indicators that something in your life needs to change. feeling like emotions are evil and suppressing them in an effort to Be Good will result in way worse long term effects than acknowledging them.
being curious about emotions--especially the really Big Painful Stigmatized ones--and getting to the root causes so you can make slow substantial changes, rather than impulsive superficial ones, is pretty much always the way to go whenever possible.
most of the time when people apologize for their emotions (e.g. anger), they should really be apologizing for the behavior they engage in to soothe the emotions. because emotions in and of themselves do not actually harm other people.
people who say they are harmed by emotions are usually either
actually responding to behavior and simply uncritically accepting conflation between the two (e.g. "I'm afraid of your anger" often translates to "whenever you mistreat me you blame it on your anger, so if your anger is the cause of mistreatment, then my fear of mistreatment can only be discussed as a fear of anger"),
or are themselves engaging in a controlling behavior to soothe their own emotions that they are refusing to manage (e.g. "I'm afraid of your anger" often translates to "whenever you're angry I feel panic, and instead of interrogating what I'm afraid of and what I need to remind myself that I'm safe, I'm going to demand you never express feelings around me").
WITH THIS SAID.
a lot of the time what men call ''anger'' is actually just misogynistic resentment.
a lot of people will say ''men are only allowed to feel anger.'' this is just not true, but I believe there is something here that is gendered.
men are incentivized to outsource management of all pain and discomfort to women (and children). managing emotions is not paid productive labor, it is reproductive labor, so men--as a class--do not feel obligated to do it. feminized classes are supposed to do the unpaid labor. so men expect to outsource their emotional management to women and children in their lives.
this is why media often depicts women and children serving the role as "healing" the male protagonist. this is why women and children often are expected to learn how to not "set off" the patriarch. this is why people will say that men will get humiliated at work and "take it out" on their families. it's why men do not openly and by default process emotions with other men. the culturally normative expectation is for men to offload the effort of managing their emotions onto feminized classes.
men feel that it it women's responsibility to manage their emotions. they feel entitled to easy, pleasurable emotions all the time so that they can do good, productive, paid work without interruption. but then they still experience extreme, painful emotions that they don't know how to handle, because they are human beings, and emotions happen.
when faced with the dissonance between unbearable emotional pain, and women simply refusing to set down everything in their own lives to attend to it immediately, men become extremely resentful. they imagine that they are experiencing a painful emotion because women have neglected them, and then interpret their own emotions as cruelty inflicted by women.
I think the whole principle I outlined above (i.e. instead of suppressing emotions as evil and then lashing out impulsively to self-soothe, it is much more fruitful to be curious about emotions, to understanding where they come from, and figure out constructive ways to change your life that address unmet needs) really needs to be applied here.
if you realize you are experiencing this kind of misogynistic resentment, it is not helpful to try to suppress it. emotions grow when suppressed. even if you tell yourself you would never hurt someone, it is extremely likely that eventually you will justify lashing out at women in your life to self-soothe because you are not spending any time figuring out other ways to address the emotion.
instead, you need to really try to deconstruct your beliefs about emotions. you are not responsible for managing other people's emotions, but you are responsible for managing your own. even when they are enormous and debilitating. it is your life. if you are incapacitated by emotion, it means something really needs to change. you need to figure out what needs are not being met, and you need to figure out what can be done to meet them. this is not women's job. this is not the job of children. they have their own enormous debilitating emotions to manage!
there is nothing wrong with feeling negative emotions. there is something wrong with expecting to never feel negative emotions and then blaming them on other people, and using this blame as an excuse to punish them. it is essential that you understand the difference.
also, this goes for women expecting emotional management from children. it goes for cis people expecting it from trans people. it goes for tme people expecting it from tma people. it goes for white people expecting it from racialized people. it goes for nonblack people expecting it from Black people.
if there is a class that is constructed as "there to do unpaid labor for you" then you need to really interrogate any entitlement you feel towards anyone in that class to soothe your emotions for you.
maintaining healthy emotional boundaries is not neglect or cruelty.
