Dan abused his power for years. Don't look away.

Dan abused his power for years. Don't look away until he addresses it.

[ayearofdan]

Video Evidence of the Dan Accusations

For over a year now there have been accusations about Dan Avidan sexting, sleeping, and ghosting younger fans, among other things. Several girls...

Text and video evidence that Dan consistently spoke to an minor until she was just barely legal enough to have sex with and then abandoned her once he got what he wanted. He has been using his fans like a free for all candy store, like they’re not human beings. He lures them in, makes them think they’re special, promises them dreams of oh well if it were different we would be together, or oh you’re a real friend to me and we’ll always be friends because you’re different, and then once he gets his dick wet he just vanishes into thin air. Because that’s all it’s about. Having as much sex as possible and he says whatever he needs to to get it. And then once he accomplishes his mission he ghosts and goes on to the next one. Rinse, repeat. He did this to god who knows how many girls. Some he even strung along long enough until they were of legal consenting age. Like it’s a fucking game. 

He’s a disgusting pathetic little garbage person and if you think she was the only one, you’re sorely mistaken. 

To others who have been hurt by his deplorable actions, you are not alone. And you shouldn’t be silenced. You shouldn’t be told that your story isn’t important or it doesn’t matter. It does. 

Men in the e-fame sphere just do whatever the fuck they want. They use and abuse their fans because they think it doesn’t matter and there are no consequences to treating human beings like they’re just notches in a bed post. There should be.

[ayearofdan]

Here is a story, a raw real story a woman shared with me about her experience with Dan and how this has affected her and made her feel. She is not alone. And he deserves to be held accountable for what he did for so long. 

Text transcription:

“I can’t help but feel such a shame in all of this.. and I don’t know where to put these feelings. Who was that man? Why did he do that to me? Why did he make me feel like that and then leave me to figure out the rest on my own? What did I see in him? What did I want from him? What was I thinking???

I’m such a sensitive person by nature and I liked how soft he was and what he saw in me was what I see in myself and maybe this won’t be so bad And now I know how many of us there are and what that means he see us as in the end And what are we? Just something warm.

But it’s been seven years and I’m a different person and I don’t think he ever cared and I’m not asking him to I just want him to know that I’m a human being with a face and a life outside of his safe warm cocoon.

The closer you are to him the more he can do I guess… It’s just so strange to see this happen. It’s all so twisted and upsetting and sad I just liked watching people play video games. I genuinely find entertainment in watching two people play a video game together and have banter and watch the story unfold I have ever since my two older sisters played donkey Kong country on the snes and there were only two controllers and you’re too young so just watch And the snes I still own has bite marks in the controller wires from where I would a bendy mindedly chew wide eyed on the characters and the story and the people with me

And when I grew up I used to watch YouTube to see other people do that so I could relive that memory and see the progress of games I’ll never play but wanted to see played out It started with two best friends play. mat and pat. But they’re not friends anymore so that channel disbanded eventually

And I liked egoraptor, and was subscribed to his channel so I saw that first video announcing his new project with him and this goofy dude I didn’t know yet So I watch jontron and eventually I’m distancing myself from that train wreck And then Dan shows up and its like oh who is? And then you hear his voice and the stories he tells and you’re relating to so much and I dunno he seems nice

So I listen to his music and it’s relating to that internet humour and weird al vibe and the sound is fun And I just think maybe the comments in those early videos saying how much this guy sucks and how bad of a job he’s doing arent valid so I look him up and oh wow he has a Facebook? Maybe I’ll just send him a kind message saying I liked his music and that I think he’s taking on the responsibility of his new job well and I wish him well

Then he responds and I begin to project so many emotions and fantasies I guess. And I really think he knows that and that’s why he does it. Because I was just a young woman figuring out sex for the first time and what that means. Who I wanted to do that too. What that means about me. All my other brief drunk and sad experiences with men I didn’t want to do or be a part of anymore. Maybe men can be something I want to show that side of me to.

I’ve never regretted sex. But I don’t know what to do with the shame I feel as I age. Just.. why did I do it. Why did I feel like I could do it. What was he offering me that meant I wanted to get on a bus and met him at a hotel room in a small gross city in a different country

And then to just stop because I’m so far away and he’s so busy and what am I doing with my life in comparison and we all just lose touch in the end with people and that’s how life works but what does it mean when it’s so many of us and so consistently

Who am I now, and how much of me was because of the people I’ve met. And I’ve met Dan. [IMAGE: Dan’s contact information, blurred] I don’t know what to do with this person in my phone, if they are even there anymore or if I’m even able to send him a message

But I thought we could be friends. Friends at least. Because I’m a polyamorous person too. I want a wife and a boyfriend and a girlfriend and then a few lovely one night stands with fabulous people with beautiful stories to tell that I can watch unfold

I want lovers of all kinds. I have so much love to give. I am desperate for affection I want to be loved because I truly believe that in the end love is the only thing that matters. Love is the only thing that matters!! And I thought I saw that in him and I thought he understood but he’s part of this celebrity culture I can’t explain that I kind of knew at one point in my life so I thought I was hot shit and wanted everyone to know I was hot shit but now I know that love is the only thing that matters and we all have a responsibility in love”

[ayearofdan]

I’m posting this as an update because already I’m getting hit with “Fake screencaps”. I think it’s ridiculous to think I’d fake screencaps of a message chain in which I’m the only one talking? But alright. I’ve been given permission to share the whole cap of Dan’s contact info that they have.

That is a picture that does not exist anywhere other than this person’s world. Because this is real. It happened.

Stop looking away. Stop twisting yourself into pretzels to defend this man. He hurt people. He hurt this woman and more like her. Just acknowledge it.

[Edit for better, closer quality]

[ayearofdan]

Here is a story, a raw real story a woman shared with me about her experience with Dan and how this has affected her and made her feel. She is not alone. And he deserves to be held accountable for what he did for so long. 

Text transcription:

"I can't help but feel such a shame in all of this.. and I don't know where to put these feelings. Who was that man? Why did he do that to me? Why did he make me feel like that and then leave me to figure out the rest on my own? What did I see in him? What did I want from him? What was I thinking???

I'm such a sensitive person by nature and I liked how soft he was and what he saw in me was what I see in myself and maybe this won't be so bad And now I know how many of us there are and what that means he see us as in the end And what are we? Just something warm.

But it's been seven years and I'm a different person and I don't think he ever cared and I'm not asking him to I just want him to know that I'm a human being with a face and a life outside of his safe warm cocoon.

The closer you are to him the more he can do I guess... It's just so strange to see this happen. It's all so twisted and upsetting and sad I just liked watching people play video games. I genuinely find entertainment in watching two people play a video game together and have banter and watch the story unfold I have ever since my two older sisters played donkey Kong country on the snes and there were only two controllers and you're too young so just watch And the snes I still own has bite marks in the controller wires from where I would a bendy mindedly chew wide eyed on the characters and the story and the people with me

And when I grew up I used to watch YouTube to see other people do that so I could relive that memory and see the progress of games I'll never play but wanted to see played out It started with two best friends play. mat and pat. But they're not friends anymore so that channel disbanded eventually

And I liked egoraptor, and was subscribed to his channel so I saw that first video announcing his new project with him and this goofy dude I didn't know yet So I watch jontron and eventually I'm distancing myself from that train wreck And then Dan shows up and its like oh who is? And then you hear his voice and the stories he tells and you're relating to so much and I dunno he seems nice

So I listen to his music and it's relating to that internet humour and weird al vibe and the sound is fun And I just think maybe the comments in those early videos saying how much this guy sucks and how bad of a job he's doing arent valid so I look him up and oh wow he has a Facebook? Maybe I'll just send him a kind message saying I liked his music and that I think he's taking on the responsibility of his new job well and I wish him well

Then he responds and I begin to project so many emotions and fantasies I guess. And I really think he knows that and that's why he does it. Because I was just a young woman figuring out sex for the first time and what that means. Who I wanted to do that too. What that means about me. All my other brief drunk and sad experiences with men I didn't want to do or be a part of anymore. Maybe men can be something I want to show that side of me to.

I've never regretted sex. But I don't know what to do with the shame I feel as I age. Just.. why did I do it. Why did I feel like I could do it. What was he offering me that meant I wanted to get on a bus and met him at a hotel room in a small gross city in a different country

And then to just stop because I'm so far away and he's so busy and what am I doing with my life in comparison and we all just lose touch in the end with people and that's how life works but what does it mean when it's so many of us and so consistently

Who am I now, and how much of me was because of the people I've met. And I've met Dan. [IMAGE: Dan's contact information, blurred] I don't know what to do with this person in my phone, if they are even there anymore or if I'm even able to send him a message

But I thought we could be friends. Friends at least. Because I'm a polyamorous person too. I want a wife and a boyfriend and a girlfriend and then a few lovely one night stands with fabulous people with beautiful stories to tell that I can watch unfold

I want lovers of all kinds. I have so much love to give. I am desperate for affection I want to be loved because I truly believe that in the end love is the only thing that matters. Love is the only thing that matters!! And I thought I saw that in him and I thought he understood but he's part of this celebrity culture I can't explain that I kind of knew at one point in my life so I thought I was hot shit and wanted everyone to know I was hot shit but now I know that love is the only thing that matters and we all have a responsibility in love"

[ayearofdan]

Establishing A Pattern: Dan Avidan

After the few posts that came out, that I made, etc. some women have contacted me to tell me their story. I want to establish the pattern here, so that if any other fan that he did this to wants to, they can contact me and we can put more out there. I feel like Dan should be held accountable for using fans, make no mistake that’s what he was doing, as intimate moments in time, using fans for his own means and then discarding them like trash and moving on to the next one. And the next one. And the next one. It’s something he should be held accountable for. Because there were many of them. So if this sounds familiar to you, let me know:

-He either contacted a person or was contacted through DMs on various social media. (Yes, even through facebook. Just because he no longer has one now does not mean he never had one. He did. He’s mentioned it early on in the show several times.) -There is establishing conversation that over a period of time turns into talks of him flying the person out or at the very least him visiting (or, in the case of cons, the person coming to his room). -"Money is not a problem for me" is a thing I've seen more than once from him when talking about flying somebody out. -The flings are usually weekends but not always and established that it's really a one time thing. But over the course of the weekend he says weird shit like "If my life were different we'd be together". -He shows off music videos he's working on. Gotta make them fans feel special.  -Then when the weekend or experience  is over he parts ways and phases that person out of his life because he no longer has a need for them anymore. Not even when they ask him personally for accountability. -”My friend X” is a personal favorite of his. Were you a “friend x” too?

If all of this sounds familiar it’s because, as far as I’ve been able to establish a timeline, he was doing this from late 2013 to 2017 and maybe even beyond that. Exclusively to fans. And exclusively to younger women. Women that were at least fifteen years younger than him, if not more.

It’s not illegal. It’s just disgusting. He used fans, MANY OF THEM, for his own personal intimate one night stands and then ghosted them because he no longer had a need for them. Because he got what he wanted. If you think that behavior is okay I don’t know what to say to you.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, please reach out. You’re definitely not alone. There are dozens of women he did this to and nobody was the wiser. Dozens of fans that thought he was being real and intimate with them only to be ignored once he was done having sex with them. Then he moved on to the next and the next and the next. He needs to address using fandom as his personal honeypot. These were not random innocent hookups on tinder. This was years long motivated usage of fans. It needs to be addressed. I’m not asking for him to be cancelled. I’m asking for him to take accountability for using his fans like they were just things and not thinking of any of them as people. These are real people that he made feel like they were the “one cool fan” only so that he could sleep with them and toss them out of his life once he accomplished what he needed. It’s not okay. This needs to be addressed. Pass this around. Don’t look away from it. Don’t tell fans their stories of Dan’s manipulation don’t matter.

Here is a link to the masterpost: (x) An account from a woman who wishes at this time to remaining anonymous: (x) Watch this space for stories as they come in.

[ayearofdan]

Just admit you don’t care about the women Dan hurt. Just say it. Just admit you’d rather be able to hold on to him like a security blanket rather than care about anybody he hurt. Real people. Fans, like you. That he discarded like trash after using them up.

Just say you don’t fucking care. Say you’d rather hang on to your memories, say that your engagement with his content is more important than another human being’s life.

If you’re at least honest then that’s something, right? If you can just own up to it and say “I don’t care that Dan Avidan is a scumbag who utilized not only his star power but a massive age difference to fuck girls and them dump them on the sidewalk and block them from his life and NEVER apologized and never plans to apologize”, then at least I’d respect you.

But as it is? Ya’ll just wanna defend him and pretend like it’s anything but.

You don’t care about victims. You don’t care about anything other than the ability to safely consume his content.

Just admit you don’t care rather than going to long winded lengths to defend him. That’s all. Admit you don’t give a shit about other legit human lives.

Just fucking say it.

[yes-itsathrowaway]

dan avidan accusations masterpost

WHERE IT ALL STARTED

kati schwartz (former employee of grumps/NSP and former close friend to the group) posts a video of her play “Bad People” (link to reupload)

reddit fans start linking a “John” character to have some striking similarities to Dan and a large amount of potential accusations about Dan (link to thread post)

kati has since deleted the video and all her social media

ACCOUNTS WITH EVIDENCE:

user from /snow/ board posts pastebin (link to pastebin)

pastebin user posts facebook chat screenshots (link to imgur album)

facebook chat context on /snow/ (link to thread, I can’t link to the actual post but it’s there)

user from reddit posts account (link to thread post)

reddit user posts facebook chat screenshots (link to pasteboard)

ACCOUNTS WITHOUT EVIDENCE:

user from /snow/ posts account (link to thread)

user from reddit posts account (link to thread post)

submission to this blog (link to post)

OTHER STORIES:

user from /snow/ claims to have their own “experience” with dan

user from /snow/ posts account of contact from dan

same user posts screenshots

reddit mod claims that the accusations are similar to those raised by someone in the discord earlier this year

reddit user alludes to similar claims about dan in the cosplay community

leaving the ask and submit open on this account, if anyone else wants to tell their own story, I will add it to the list. if any of these stories are yours and you want them removed, just let me know with some sort of proof.

[ayearofdan]

Didn’t remember there was a tumblr post that made a masterlist. These stories are exactly the same ones I have personally verified. Believe it, don’t. Do whatever the fuck you wanna do. For me, I’m taking personal accountability. What he did isn’t illegal but he hurt actual women- FANS of his. Exclusive fans of his. His behavior is disgusting (especially when he masquerades around as a soft romantic babey man) and I’m not participating in his content creation anymore.

Just reblogging this so people who keep asking me what is going on can take it all in for themselves.

[ayearofdan]

We’re done here. There’s a lot more important shit going on in the world right now (like a lot, so much so that it’s laughable that this matters in any way shape or form), but let me take a minute here to address a tiny iota of it (and I’m very sorry I have to do it when tumblr is so ugly).

Seeing the rightfully deserved blow up and what’s going on with Cry, the Twitch community, and just every day more and more coming to the realization that most men e-celebs are scumbags who can’t help themselves, I’ve very seriously decided I’m done being part of a fandom in any shape that became comfortable with zero moral accountability.

I have personally verified the shitty things you’ve heard about Dan. I don’t care if you don’t care or believe me or if you do that even then you don’t care. What Cry did was illegal. What Dan did skirted the line legally, but ethically? Everything he did up to whatever he’s doing now was disgusting morally and ethically. (Legally) Young fandom should not be a place for a 35-40 year old man (or any man but I’m focusing on my own house here) to stick their dirty fingers into like a honeypot. Especially when the end result was discarding each member of those sex weekends into the trash once he was finished. Utilizing that weird parasocial relationship to get your dick wet isn’t really something I know someone who is a “good” “sweet” or “innocent” person would do. Especially not when it all came out he used Ashley as a shield by basically going “look at how much I love this one, everything else can’t possibly be real or matter I’m just a babey, babey in love :]]]]]]]”. You know exactly what the fuck I’m talking about. And he got away with it. But he doesn’t owe me an apology. I’m not one of the fans he lured via DMs, fucked when it was convenient for him, made broad sweeping romantic speculative future gestures with so that he could make himself comfortable no matter what it did to the other person sleeping in his bed that night, and then dumped on the curbside. But because I know for a fact he did that?

I’m done. I’m a very small person and a very small part of this fandom but in the end if I enabled this behavior via fanaticism, daily content for however many years, fantasization through this blog or anything I wrote, I’m taking accountability for it now by deleting my presence. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. So am I. And I’m done. I find myself disgusted with any part of this. If I ever protected or defended him in anyway or gave clearance for anyone else to do so through my own actions at any point.

I met a lot of really good people and made a lot of great friends through here and for that I’ll forever be grateful. But I’m done with Dan and his bullshit and the people who defend his actions or did the obvious “believe victims unless it’s someone I like then you can go fuck yourself” shit. The stories I know about are not mine to tell. But the women who tried telling them were told “well it’s not that big of a deal” or “that didn’t happen” so whatever. I guess because he made sure every fan he stuck his dick in and then ghosted was over 18 that makes it okay. That’s what we decided. Doesn’t matter, does it.

Only matters for what I take responsibility for personally and if nothing, absolutely nothing else, my responsibility is not consuming any of this media anymore or making any part of my presence available. It took me too long to do this, even. This is considered old news by now. So fuck me, too, for waiting so long.

I hope ya’ll have a nice life and continue to enjoy your time as you see fit. This blog and its messenger will be active for probably just the rest of today and then it’s all getting locked and then probably deleted. Thanks for everything. I’m done.