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From my old blog 💕

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Underrated Dom Phrases

“Did I say you could stop?”

“I wasn’t asking”

“The more you fight, the more I just want to fuck you.”

*mock whining*

“Now”

“Did you just say no?”

“Whats wrong? you cant breathe?”

“You look so pretty on your knees”

“That’s sir to you, slut”

“Wanna say that again?”

“Don’t make a sound”

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My Sir does a lot of these and I just melt every time

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All I can do is think about sucking cock and touching myself, every other hour.

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Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

I have often been asked to write about Collars and Collaring but have been reluctant to do so because I have strong personal views about Collars and their use and am hesitant to stir up controversy. In addition, I have not felt qualified to speak with any authority on Collars because thus far I have never Collared a submissive. This may come as a surprise given my experience with D/s relationships but not having Collard a submissive stems not from inexperience but rather from my strongly held beliefs about Collars and Collaring and the importance I place on them.

When I first discovered the leather world several decades back, the mere mention of the Collar made submissives drool and Dominants stiffen their backs. There was a strong sense of pride associated with the term and its use. A Collar was emblematic of achieving something very special in a D/s relationship, essentially the equivalent of a marriage. The act of Collaring was a sign of intense and sober commitment. It was not given to the first person that came along, but was something to be saved for that special one who earned it only after a long and challenging period of acquaintance, courtship, and training. To receive the Collar of a Dominant was something a submissive would dream about and strive to achieve.

Sadly, with the increased popularity and attention given to BDSM in the mainstream media and the prevalence of quasi D/s interaction online, much of this meaning has been lost. Today, collars literally and figuratively have Velcro enclosures, cyber glue and are often relegated to being little more than a cute or kinky fashion accessory. They have become so prevalent that decorative day collars can be seen worn in the mall by teens having no concept of their purpose or importance. In the online space, people give and receive collars with astounding frequency and with little regard to their meaning.

Collars come in many forms and while they are often talked about only a few are worn with honor anymore. They are the property of the Dominant and should only be granted and removed by the Dom. However, in extreme cases the submissive or slave may petition the Dom to have the Collar removed. This is typically a request made only for the purposes of terminating the relationship and is generally viewed as being irreversible.

Here is a brief explanation of a few of the various Collars:

Collar of Consideration or Protection

The Collar of Consideration is intended to be temporary and worn during a period when a Dominant is evaluating the suitability and compatibility of a potential submissive. While this term is often bandied about in the online world a Collar of Consideration is infrequently used in the leather community and only by those Doms with a very specific training style.

Another short-term use is a Collar of Protection worn by a submissive during a play party aligning them with the Dominant that has granted the protection. This is a very simple collar with no lock or key, and no D-ring. It is usually placed upon the neck of a submissive at the party in full view of the other attendees and taken off immediately after, making it very clear that this is only for protection purposes. During this time however, the submissive will act as if this Dominant is their rightful Master or Mistress. Under this protection a submissive may not be approached or played with unless permission is granted by the Dominant and generally only in their presence. Unlike a permanent Collar, the submissive retains the right to request playtime with a specific person or reject it respectfully. The role of the Dominant under a Collar of Protection could be compared to that of a chaperone in the vanilla world.

Training Collar

This is typically the first Collar received by a submissive in the leather community and is used for the purposes of training by a particular Dominant and for a specific period of time. During the training regimen the Collared one is considered to be the submissive of the Dominant who grants the Collar but is not yet a slave. The courtship is over, training has begun, but no contract has been established between the Dom and sub. This period can be viewed in a similar light to an engagement in the vanilla world in the sense of the seriousness of intent and commitment, but there is also an evaluation component to it as well. Actions during this period carry consequences and there is a make or break element to the training process that can lead to the termination of the relationship. The training period duration varies from couple to couple but it is not uncommon in the leather community for it to last a minimum of two years. No small commitment this. If at the conclusion of the training period the Dom and sub have both passed the test in the eyes of one another (yes it is a two-way street) then the couple would proceed to an official Collaring Ceremony.

Slave Collar

For most, this is the pinnacle achievement of a power exchange relationship. With training complete and acceptance granted by both Dominant and submissive, a contract is drawn up not unlike a marriage license outlining the rights and responsibilities of each. The Slave Collar is granted by the Dominant to their submissive in a ceremony complete with vows, often with others in attendance, though it can also be performed as a private and very personal exchange. This is one of the most wonderful and important moments in the life of a submissive and a Dominant. They have achieved something together that most only dream about. The submissive is no longer in a trial and training relationship with a Dom but is now slave to their Master or Mistress. Along with the change in the emotional nature of the relationship, the physical makeup of the Collar itself may change with the introduction of a lock and key and perhaps an ownership tag on the D-ring. There are many customs that vary widely.

Ownership Collar

Most D/s and M/s couples consider the Slave Collar and what it represents to be the goal of their relationship and are content to live out their lives in that way. However, a few desire to delve even deeper into the power exchange. For these relatively rare couples, there is a yearning to go beyond a Master/slave relationship and seek absolute ownership in a chattel property sense of the term. While the law does not permit the contractual ownership of another human being, these couples in their own way strive for just that. Their Master/slave contract is likely to be revised at this juncture and no longer is the Dominant a Master but in fact an Owner in a very real sense of the word. The Slave Collar is changed to an Ownership Collar and often is accompanied by a permanent ownership mark such as tattooing or branding. This is perhaps the ultimate commitment by a slave, and ownership is typically viewed by both Owner and slave as being irreversible, similar to a marriage without the option of divorce. It is indeed carried into death. I have heard of agreements where the ashes of the partners are mixed together in the same urn upon the death of the second partner. Even death does not part them. This is very serious stuff, absolute devotion, and very rare indeed.

Here are a couple of other collars (lower case intended) that you may encounter and this is where I begin to really get into trouble with my opinions.

Play collars

Play collars are utilitarian in nature and may or may not carry the significance of a training, slave or ownership Collar. These collars are used as bondage and play implements in the same way as cuffs, rope, ties, and other bondage accouterments. They can be used by Collared and uncollared partners and are simply a convenient place to attach a leash, affix wrist cuffs, or other clever bondage schemes.

Cyber collars

These are virtual collars worn by people who interact online but who may or may not have real world experience with a power exchange relationship. Often you see evidence of these collars in chat rooms and blogs when the submissive’s user name is enclosed in parentheses or brackets. There is no question that their relationship is very real to them, but they often only live the life of a Dominant and slave largely in their fertile imaginations. The anonymity and perceived safety of digital communication can allow people to present themselves and experiment in ways they might not in real life. But great harm can come from even virtual relationships in the form of emotional and psychological stress, torment and depression. At the other end of the digital exchange is a live person with real feelings, yet these cyber collars are often not granted the weight and importance associated with those feelings and emotions.

I have nothing against the notion of a cyber collar but find the widespread ignorance of good BDSM practices and the cavalier way with which these collars are treated to be distressing. Real people are being hurt not only emotionally but also physically when they actually come together face-to-face to play without the benefit of education or experience. A cyber collar can be a fine connection between two loving and caring people if used appropriately. Sadly it is often overused and abused in my opinion.

Velcro collars

The term “Velcro collar” is applied to people who seemingly collect and trade cyber and real collars. These Velcro collars are proverbially “easy on, easy off” and it is not uncommon, particularly online, to see submissives collared by a Dom one day another Dom the next. It is also not uncommon to see Doms with multiple subs. These collars are in no way respected by the leather community. The people who grant and receive them are often derided by those who engage in real life power exchange relationships and for whom Collaring is a symbol of the sanctity of D/s and M/s relationships.

Conclusion

Perhaps at this point my prejudices and opinions on the subject of Collars are beginning to shine through and it becomes clear why I have been reluctant to weigh in on the topic, particularly here online. My strongly held views on the importance and sanctity of the Collar in a BDSM or loving D/s relationship are also at the heart of why I have not to date Collared a submissive. I have no doubt that some day I will grant a collar and when I do it will be with the intent of elevating our relationship and ourselves to the highest possible levels. And it will be a bond that I will treasure my entire life and perhaps beyond.

My Muse and I are in precisely the sort of relationship that I see as the basis for such a path. You read much from me about the views we share and how we interact with one another. Yet as loving and devoted as we are, and have been for some time as Master and Muse, in the scheme of Collaring we are still in the courtship phase of our relationship and just starting out.

To me a Collar is not simply a sophomoric sign of possession intended to feed my ego or mark my territory. I do not need overt and cute icons for that. The connection and devotion I feel with my Muse reside entirely in the heart and mind and no strip of leather, satin, or steel is necessary to affirm that. It is my fondest hope that one day our relationship will grow to the point of my Muse wearing my Collar. But if and when it happens, it will have been the result of serious effort, hard work and sober intent and will be a reflection of a life decision for both of us. She is worth that and more.

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Regretfully, collars and collaring seems to be gaining less sincerity these days, at least from my experience. I have seen too many “Doms” collar a girl, who has a monogamous understanding with her “Dom,” as I see the same “Dom” hit on other women and never mention he has a girl that he just collared.

I have seen one example of a “Dom” who led such a reckless life, he had to uncollar his sub FROM JAIL. Since he will be in for at least a decade, she was released.

Long distance relationships seem to be plagued with girls uncollaring themselves and failing to tell their Dom and “Doms” collaring multiple subs and not telling them.

I always held collaring as more of a commitment than an engagement ring - the ultimate sign from a Dom stating “I will take care of you in any storm or any sunrise,” but sadly, I think I need to readjust that philosophy.

Velcro, it is such a joke.

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more articles in the Library For Kinksters.

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Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

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Perfect

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Apps To Kill Time On

Keep seeing some posts circulating about popular websites and wanted to make a version for apps.

These are apps I’m way too addicted to. Am I missing any?

P.S. I’m on an iPhone so these are iPhone apps, but probably have an Android version too.

Edit: Sorry for all the time I’ve taken away from your life

Commaful - popular fanfiction, story, and poetry community 👑

Bettr - the reason my friends are jealous of my Insta

Sweatcoin - get paid to walk

Tiktok - coolest videos on the internet (top 10 app in the world)

Spellbound - addictive horror 👻 and romance stories

Helix Jump - legit the most addicting game on my phone

Calm - Award-winning app for meditation and sleeping better

Tenkyu - tilt your phone and watch the relaxing magic happen

Slime Road - bet you can’t hit the bullseye ⚾️

Hempire - become a plant mogul

Dune! - Ride the sand dunes like a baller!! so much fun

Hotspot Shield - free proxy/VPN to bypass school filters

Betternet - free proxy VPN, like Hotspot, try both and see which you prefer

Terrarium - build the ultimate garden empire

Golf Orbit - ever played golf on mars?

Sling Drift - beep beep - level 70 is insane 🚗

1Q - get paid to answer simple questions 

Bee Factory - become a honey tycoon

Wind Rider - fly through a city in a wing suit

Spill it - drop balls and break glass

Fire Balls - shoot balls at obstacles. gets pretty hard

Paper - can you conquer all the territory and win?

Two Dots - a fun puzzle game. easy time killer

Planet Bomber - let’s nuke some planets

Ice Racing - race down a mountain at record speeds

Splashy - bounce the ball accurately to survive. requires focus

Snakes Vs. Blocks - even more fun than the original snake hehe

Twenty48 Solitaire - best toilet game

Knock Balls - shoot down blocks with a canon - surprisingly relaxing

Wishbone - fun game for comparing stuff like hair, celebs, sports

Hole - fuck up a city muahaha

Dosh - get paid to shop

Yarn - stories that are seriously creepy af

You’re welcome 😉

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