Findom 101: How to approach a Findomme
Entering a fetish community like Findom is amazing, I know. But still it can be confusing to know about the unwritten rules of this fetish. Quite often I find people in my inbox asking what to expect or ‘how this works’. And believe me I’m happy to help those who are seriously interested in becoming a committed finsub. There are however a few odd ones who think it’s a good idea to insult a Domme or make demands or run once they hear the word ‘pay’.
That’s why I worked with my loyal sub, who’s been in the BDSM scene for almost 20 years, to give you this short comprehensive list.
Things you should keep in mind before or while you’re talking to a Findomme:
Before approaching a Findomme, know what Findom means. Do your research, so you know what to expect.
Don’t ever tell a Findomme you want to serve her or be her slave/sub, but you’re broke. If you aren’t ready to pay, then Findom just isn’t for you.
Before approaching a Findomme, be honest with yourself about your commitment level and what you hope to accomplish for Her.
Be honest with your Findomme about what She can expect from you.
If you plan to be a regular contributor to your Findomme’s benefit, be consistent.
If something comes up and you can’t tribute as expected, be honest and let your Findomme know as soon as possible.
Surprise your Findomme with random tributes whenever possible.
Don’t ask “what’s in it for me,” it isn’t about you anymore. Your Findomme’s happiness should be your primary concern.
Learn about your Findomme and keep up with Her social media and website daily.
Accept Her superiority and respect Her authority. A Findomme knows what She’s doing. Don’t question it or you will be punished.
Be kind and respectful, not just to Her, but those around you.
Thank your Findomme for whatever She gives you.
Make Her world a better place.
I hope this is helpful for my fellow Dommes and any new, promising subs out there. Feel free to add anything of importance we might have missed and please share. Thanks again to @bullpen30 for your valued input, great job!
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