Start small in everything you’re involved in from what you wear to who you decide to say hello to.
Put effort into what you’re wearing. I don’t mean that you need to be wearing false lashes, makeup, heels and showing cleavage. I mean shower, wash your face, put on clean clothes and wear what you like, whether that’s the girly aesthetic or the comfortable aesthetic. You know your style, chances are, your style makes you feel good.
Take care of yourself. It’s hard to feel confident when you don’t do simple things like showering, shaving(if that’s your thing), brushing your hair and wearing clean clothes.
Take time to pamper yourself and to clean your area.
Assert yourself. This is no lie. Say no when you want to, fight back occasionally. Confidence can be affected when people constantly use you as a doormat.
Ask why. Ask teachers why you didn’t get the mark, don’t let things slip by. It’s amazing what a win, even if it’s simply a percentage raise on your paper is, does for you. Let the drive from the win fuel you.
Work harder. Put more effort into whatever you’re doing, whether it’s exercising, school or work.
Don’t tell yourself that you can’t. That’s in the past. Don’t limit your possibilities with doubt.
Stay quiet about your goals. Watch yourself grow and then let people tell you that they’ve noticed. (Studies have also shown that talking about your goals makes you feel the satisfaction that you’d generally receive from actually completing something. So, you tend to actually do less because you already feel satisfied .So, instead, don’t talk about it. Just do it)
Get organised. Like I said before, wins help and striking things off a list feels like a win. Let the satisfaction of doing things boost your ego a bit.
If you ever feel awkward tell yourself: I deserve to be here, the same as everyone else. (My introvert people will understand this huge fear of strangers and being watched.)
Also, tell yourself: They aren’t watching me. Everyone is paying attention to their own lives. (This applies for anything you want to do in public that feels embarrassing)
Make friends with confident people and ask them what makes them confident.
Confidence comes from within, so you need to come to terms with who you are before you can feel confident. So, instead of simply expecting it to come to you. Work towards it. Fall in love with yourself. Realize that it’s ok to make mistakes, don’t dwell on the past, learn to laugh at yourself and take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Also, learn to love other people too. Once you see beauty in everyone and in being human you will feel less judged by strangers.
