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Dear BB, I think I'm asexual, but I'm only a teen. Am I too young to know for sure?!

I dont think theres any specific age to start identifying as anything. If you are certain you are asexual then I’m sure you are! But remember that sexuality can change over time and you might feel this now but not forever ❤️

Hi BB! I want to ask if you can recommend some sex toys (especially vibrators) that are in a more student friendly price range. I'm quite new to the world of sex toys and do not really know were to start. Thank you!

Hi ✨ well, I'm a student myself & broke AF on a daily basis, but I must say investing in the Siri vibrator by Lelo was worth every dime! It's been my main squeeze go-to ever since I got it 3-4 years ago- nothing has replaced it yet! It's rechargeable too (I believe it was around 100dollars). That said, getting a cheap bullet vibrator with batteries (think they are around 10 dollars ish) honestly do the trick too. I had one of those as my first toys 9 years ago and I actually still have it! Have a look around online or go to your nearest store, the price ranges are pretty broad😊Let me know if u want me to be more specific! (Links!) otherwise, good luck finding ur new best lover🌹❤ Love, BB

BB! So the general attitude of ppl towards ‘queefing’ seems negative to me.. is it normal? Can you stop it or make it quieter? I do when I cum..:(

Heyy💘 Okay so: Queefing AKA vaginal farting, or more precisely: releasing air from the vagina in a way that it makes a sound. The reasons why people might react to them negatively is cus we don’t talk about it and therefor don’t know anything about it. And then we go around thinkin we are the only people in the world that do it! So change of scenarie: talk about it! Normalize the shit out of it. Talk with your friends about it, talk to your lovers about it! Say it out loud, it feels much better and in no time it will feel more natural and chill. When I was 15 years old I queefed a guy in the face. My memory may be a little blurry lol, but I swear I queefed for like 10 seconds. In my head, I even think of it as his hair blowing in the queefing wind… It was my biggest nightmare and I had no idea what my body was doing - sounds like a fart, but its from my vagina!? I swore I would never have sex again.

Anyways. Queefing is a perfectly natural response to some ongoing activity in the vagina -whether it being a penis, fingers, sex toys or other objects. It creates a vacuum of air. I’m not sure it happens to everyone who engages in penetrative vag play - but its veeeery common! I’m guessing the fact that it happens during your orgasm means your blessed with PC muscles that are super strong 😉 So if you wanna know what I think: live it, love it and if anyone ever says anything; tell them it’s your vagina shouting with bliss ’n joy.Love, BB

Dear BB, I have a huge problem - it hurts really really bad when I'm having sex with my BF. It stings and burns and afterwards my vagina is all swollen and red. I've been examined by my doctor and various gynecoligists a thousand times. They all tell me the same thing: there's nothing physically wrong with you - try using lube. But it doesn't help at all. Do you have any experience on this topic? I do get wet and all so that's not the issue. From a frustrated gal :( XX

Hi 💋💋💋 I know your concern, it’s super painful and frustrating! I usually have this issue with new partners, even though I get wet AF by just the thought of something slightly erotic, I still get super sore after penetration sometimes. It’s entirely common to feel a little sore after sex n there can be many reasons behind it. have you had a lot of sex in a short period of time? Has it been a while since u’ve had sex? Is your BF bigger than average?Yes, a vag is made to stretch and accommodate different sizes but it’s a part of your body and anything with friction could cause some soreness.A sore vagina can be sign that we need more time warming up!!! Sometimes if we rush into having penetrative sex, our body and tissue are like basically just not ready for it. More forplay and clit action can help ur body catch up with the moment💦 essentially taking more time to get started before penetration.Not many know this, but a pussy needs at least 20 minutes of forplay. Try to keep this in mind as a golden rule! That said, a quicky can be blissful and hot too, but it sounds like your vag is working overtime, everytime? I thinks its quite common that sex gets very penis-in-vag fixated very quickly, not actually allowing the whole body to get in the right state ya know? The clit gets an erection, very similar to the penis - and you wouldn’t start fucking a dick without a hard on, would you? Speaking from experience; give that pussy the attention and time it needs😸 Hope this helps, Love, BB

Hi BB <3 Whats your best sexual memory?

Haha probably the first time I had an orgasm while having sex with another person and realizing there was nothing wrong with me/my body but with the way I was having sex 🤔😊 Love, BB

Hi BB! For a year now, I’ve been using a period cup (I bought the one you recommended thank you!) and it really came as a to me surprise that my period is extremely clumpy and dark. I asked my doctor about my concern and she just said that is was normal and ended the conversation. So I was wondering if you have any words of wisdom? Thank you!

Hi💞 most menstruating people experience dark clumpy blood, especially the first days during heavy flow, it’s perfectly common. Although what your doctor failed to tell you is that the dark clumpy blood is actually old menstrual blood from previous cycles which has cluttered in your womb. This is not dangerous, but it can be the I.e cause of period pains! And even though it is hard to avoid completely, there are some things you can do to get a more stable flow. Vagsteams are really really good for this! You can practice this in the privacy of your own home, making a steam bath with herbs for your vagina, can really help release tension and old period hidding away in your womb! It really helped for me. I try to do this once a month 😊 sometimes more, sometimes less. It’s also really good me-time 🌿💜hope this helps. Love, BB

Dear BB! I've been dating this guy for some month, and his biggest fantasy is me pegging him. I have never done something like that (I've just recently dared to play with his ass with my fingers, which was fun and intimate). So... Do you have any advices for a pegging beginner? Also I think all the harnesses are pretty hardcore and S/M-looking, and I'm more into cute-looking stuff... Oh, I'm bi and would also like to use a strap-on it with girls in the future. Kisses, a huge admirer! <3

Hiii 💞 this sounds fun, sexy and exiting! Dildos and harness come in all different shapes and sizes! Go explore the world wide web of cute AF strap-ons. There are loads of femme-friendly gear to be found. Personally I have them in pink, purple and red. Tips that goes for all anal play: take it SUPER SLOW. If your partner has never been penetrated in the butt before, don’t just go straight to ramming the dildo inside him. Start with fingers n work your way up slowly n making sure both of u are totally comfortable every step of the way. If it hurts, slow down or stop—thats the body’s way of telling u it’s not ready just yet. Using/wearing a strap-on for the first time can be a little funny! Takes a lil time to really embody! I think its important to remember (speaking from experience sis) you may not live out your pegging fantasies the very first time you try it out, but that’s ok too cus with patience n practice I promise u will become a pegging queen 😌Also, use lube. Lots of lube, seriously💚If u wanna become a lil sex nerd on the topic, I recommend u checking out Tristan Taormino, she is a feminist sexologist who is also the anal queen B 😈Good luck! Love, BB

Dear B.B. Hope you can help me. I recently got a speculum, so my boyfriend and I can explore my vagina. I got so exited first time I saw myself "inside out"... but I discovered that my cervix is very red. It has a big red spot. What is that!? Is it dangerous? I checked some weeks later, and it was still there. Hope ole you can help. Xxxxx c

Hi c 💕 Your cervix may be pink n smooth or it might have red blemishes - it can also be uneven, rough or splotchy looking. All of these are totes normal. I don't think you have anything to worry about💋! A cervix changes appearance quite a lot during a cycle, so it can be interesting to have a peek once in a while to get to know it's habits. Love, BB

Hi BB, My girlfriend wants me to stop watching porn because it makes her uncomfortable. I don't want to. What should I do? Background info, we are queer and the porn I watch mostly like, very mainstreamy porn.

Hmm..You should read Linda Williams’ really amazing book “Hard Core: power, pleasure and the frenzy of the visible”. Then, have your girlfriend read it. Then, discuss it. Maybe the book will sway one or the other, or both of you and allow you to find a healthy n happy middle ground?? Love, BB

Hello my angels! I’m working on a commercial book about body and sex which will be published in some months. There will be loads of BB’s Corner Q&A in it! Just FYI when u hit the “ask” button or e-mail me, chances are your anonymous question will be in my book💕 also if u wanna be in my book (😇) send me questions 💚

Love u!!!

Hi <3 I've seen on Instagram that you work with self gyneocology. I wish I could be part of your workshops but I live in Canada :-( Can you recommend me any books on the subject? Maybe I can start my own little safe space here in my bedroom!.

Hi 💕 omg yes of course. How amazing.“Natural Healing in Gynecology” by Rina Nissim & any book by The Federation of Feminist Women’s Health Care - they made 2 books on the subject in the 80s! N ofc the classic “Our Bodies Our Selves” too. If your interested in more theoretical aspects I recommend “Public Privates” by Terri Kapsalis. Ejoyyyyyy💜💜💜

Ps send me an email n I can send you my zine about self-gynecology, I think I have an extra left😘

Dear BB, I'm writing you to say thank you. I'm a 19 year old virgin and I'm having the best sex life. With myself! I have followed you the past two years and you have taught me so much about my body and my independent desires! Before I would never masturbate or penetrate myself because just the thought of it felt shameful. A lot has changed and I have you to thank! Just wanted to let you know

💚💚💚💚💦 !! don’t forget to thank yourself, you did the job💕 love you !

Dear BB, I recently had sex with a guy and he seemed to enjoy himself but he never came? Is it me?

Hi💕 no it’s not you. What I’m thinking about in relation to this is the societal notion of sex is often centered around penetration or the presentation of the penis. Which can put a huge amount of pressure on the person attached to it! I think we also tend to neglect that men’s lust and bodies can be complicated too. Like, I defiantly don’t cum every time I have sex. This goes for everyone😊 it can be a matter of trust, performance anxiety, or just not getting there even though it feels good. This is quite common with new partners. Maybe he masturbated earlier that day, what do I know. I propose that you talk about it, even though it can be a lil scary, especially with a new partner, but we can’t predict what bodies are feeling, want and need! It doesn’t have to be too serious, while ur having a good time say u wanna make him cum and see what he says😉 good communication will lead you the way. Love, BB

Hi BB what do I cope in a situation where I misgender someone?

Apologize and make sure it doesn't happen again 😊

Hi bb!!! I got a question for you. Whenever my boyfriend gives me head/fingers me i never really "come", eventhough i like it lots. But there isn't really a point where i come???? I guess?? I don't know how to explain it but is it weird? Is it because i haven't lost my virginity yet? (Or because i'm young)? It's so confusing because when he gives me head etc it feels so good? I hope you know what i mean haha X

I understand completely! I can assure you it has nothing to do with your age nor virginity:-) for loads of years I never came when I was intimate with people! and it is still really difficult for me. In my case, I struggled with it because I felt self-conscious or was stressing out over not having an orgasm/making my partner sad. I can get stuck in my head. It's really important to just chill and embody the good feel❤️ second of all, i mean come on, we live in a hyper-pornofied culture n we are not taught that vaginas need loads of warm up before being really aroused -imagine that your clitoris gets an erection too (it's true! It does) pussies need at least 20 min of stimulation. Personally I need to be touched and kissed pretty much everywhere else I'm my body before going for the genitalia! Ya know? It's a build up. Including a vibrator also works for me:). I think the best thing you can do is give it time, try things out, ask for what you want❤️

I love your blog and you're an amazing person and youre like a tumblr big sister -love, a teenager whose sex ed class doesn't teach her half the stuff you did💚

Love you! ❤️❤️❤️

BB - I have a disturbing sexual fantasy. I fully identify as a lesbian woman! I haven't had sex or any intimate relations with men for like, forever! (I was 16, now I'm 24) When I masturbate or even when I have sex with my amazing girlfriend, I get aroused by the thought of a huge group of men jerking off on me and cum all over my face and body. Yup. I honestly hate penis' and most men tbh. So WTF is wrong with me? I feel like the only queer woman with heteronormative fantasies. HELP I need you!

I promise you one thing: you are not the only queer woman with these kinds of fantasies ^_^ Its super natural and extremely common. In fact– any kind of fantasy and I assure you it has crossed the minds of loooadsss of other people.

The crucial point of fantasies is that u dont actually have to want them to happen in real life.Often, the stuff that make us aroused, feel forbidden or are taboo- thats what gets us off! (i’m still no doctor, but its something to do with the adrenaline associated with feelings of fear/humiliation that activates your brain to help reach climax.)

I mean, arousal is the time to allow yourself any thought that makes you horny!! I completely understand your frustration. But think of it like this: (like in dreams) characters and themes in fantasies can resemble various parts of yourself - so your fantasy about a bunch of dudes cumming on you doesn’t necessarily mean your into men at all, but rather i.e. that you enjoy submission maybe?

Your head can get in the way of sex/masturbation/arousal, but it can certainly also help you get in the zone and stay there…..There no shame in your game <3 Love, BB

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