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Do you have any advice for me, i have such bad anxiety and i am so sensitive. I cant look at anyone in public and i feel like everyone is looking or laughing at me, i have been badly bullied which i think is what brought on such a fear of people, i take every thing to offence and the smallest things effect me. I just wish i had the confidence to have a thick skin but i dont, i am so fucking scared of interacting with people. :( I love you so much and thank you for the help!

When I was younger and my anxiety was at its peak, I couldn’t even look people in the eye. I thought they were fixating on my “flaws” and judging me. I barely spoke because I felt people would think my words were stupid or irrelevant. I didn’t even want to talk to people (friends!!) on the phone because I hated my voice!

As time went on I realized that people are always going to think or feel a certain way about you regardless of what you do. It is for that exact reason why you should do you and be you at all times. Your words are worth being heard. Your beautiful face is worth being seen. You cannot change people’s thoughts or opinions but you can change the way you feel about them. The more you make loving yourself a priority and your focus, the less other people matter. Stop giving people who don’t mean shit to you the power to make you or break you. You are a queen and your life is your empire. Reign accordingly. The more you’re aware of YOUR power, the less power others will have over you. Never feel ashamed of existing as you are. You’re here. Take space. Know that you’re worth it. Even if other people don’t think so, you will always be worth it. Everyone isn’t going to like you but that doesn’t mean shit when you LOVE you. Thick skin, confidence, and an “I don’t care” attitude comes from loving yourself. It’s a process. It’s easier said than done. But it is worth the work. The moment you start to love you, nothing and no one else will matter. Check out this post too. I love you more pumpkin and I promise you, it will get better. Best wishes xoxo

part 3: and two that he will see me for how i was back then, like i am embarssed of myself and i guess its just hard to be with someone who saw you at your lowest and worse, i am ashamed. do you have any thoughts on this situation

First of all, NEVER EVER EVER be ashamed of being vulnerable. Of being weak. Of being at a low point or not at your best. You are human and you are going to have those moments. You are allowed to have those moments. Don’t put yourself down for some shit that’s natural and healthy. And don’t get it twisted either. Being a boss doesn’t mean you’re a woman who is independent and strong at all times. Like I said before, at the end of the day you’re human. Boss Bitch shit is being able to own every aspect of yourself with pride. The good, the “bad”, and everything in between. If people only fuck with you when you’re at your best, they don’t fuck with you at all. So in regards to this boy, talk to him. Reach out. See where he’s at and how he feels. If he wants you he wants you and if he doesn’t he doesn’t. But don’t hate or blame yourself for that. If he is still holding to past perceptions of you or judging (or has judged you) based on you being fragile and vulnerable with him, that is not the man for you. Period. Never play yourself by trying to convince people why you’re worth their time, affection, or love. If they don’t see it then they never will. Not your problem. You are deserving of love in it’s purest form. Love that isn’t selfish. Love that doesn’t judge. A person who wants to see you grow and do better. In order for things to work with him you’d both have to let go of the past and move forward. If that doesn’t happen, just know that is exactly how it’s meant to be and you’ll be glad things played out that way in due time. Thank you soooooooooo much for the love baby! And thank you for holding me down for so long. I’m glad I inspire you and hope you continue to grow and become the woman you want to be. Good luck MWAH! xoxo 💖💖💖Oh and I want to make more youtube videos too but I never know what to talk about! Hit me with some suggestions yall 😩 lol regardless I’ll figure it out though and there will be more on the way! xoxo

part two: no we have been apart, im so fucking scared hes moving on or hes found someone else, i miss him and i feel when we were dating i fucked up so much, like i am embarassed of myself thinking back to wen we were together because i was so shy, depressed and embrassing, he knew how inscure i am, & i want to date him again once we have had a good break but i am worried one: that he has forgtten about me/ seeingother girls...

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part 1: wow Ur perfect girl!I hope u make more youtube videos, u r who i look up to mostt& ur advice and all u do literally gives me so much comfort and inspires me in my life more then anything so i owe u such a thank u, i have been following u for the longest time and your a queen, so my question is, i am in love w my ex boyfriend.. we broke up because we both had issues in our lives and needed time alone, but now we have been apart....

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Please help.. I liked this guy for the longest time and he liked me too, we have been finally talking recently and everything was perfect. He kept asking me to send him photos of me (just selfies not nudes or whatteva) I dont know why i did but i sent him photos of me and most of the photos were really slutty, not nudes just suggestive and i feel like its changed things and he is less into me now :'( i am so annoyed at myslef for fucking it up.. help ;( xx

If his opinion of you changed based on you sending him pictures he asked for, that isn’t someone you need to be entertaining. That’s childish and ridiculous. I know you’re upset and disappointed but let this be a sign that he wasn’t worth it. There’s no need to scramble and try to rectify your “mistake” because you didn’t do anything wrong. You can’t control the way he (or anyone else) feels and you’ll never be able to. Don’t drive yourself crazy trying to read his mind and interpret his feelings. If you’re still continuing on and he seems distant (and nothing is going on in his personal life), move on to the next one. No love lost. Best wishes xoxo

I'm an introvert and I have this extrovert coworker. She's cool and we get along well but I feel awkward when she asks me to hang. I'd hang with her if we could just go to a bar and chill, just us 2; but she seems like she'd rather do things like partying and clubbing cause she told me what I like to do is "boring". So idk what I should say to her when she asks me to hang. I usually change the subj. What do you think I should I do? I think she'd be too much for me tbh. She's kinda wild

Tell her you’re not into partying and you prefer smaller gatherings. Or you can be the one to invite her out to get coffee or grab a drink after work or whatever. If you two still can’t manage to hang out without it being a hassle then just stick to being work buddies. Best wishes xoxo

2. Inviting but I can't help the way I am. I'm just not an outgoing person when it comes to guys. I want to message one of the guys I got matched w/ on the dating app but I don't know what to say or how to go about it. I want to be more outgoing and put myself out there and just have fun but idk how to. I just think that at my age I should maybe have some of these experiences or relationships but I don't wanna completely change my personality. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you!

You don’t have to change any parts of your personality in order to attract or impress anyone. Especially a man. Anyone who fucks with a watered down version of you doesn’t really fuck with you. Stay true to yourself, always. With that being said, don’t accept insecurity as simply being part of your personality. It is very natural and okay but living life not being comfortable with yourself isn’t the move. Realize that you don’t have to be pretty like other girls. You’re pretty like YOU! You’re beautiful like YOU! You’re smart like YOU! You’re simply.. you. And you’ll never be anyone else. And that’s what makes you so amazing. That is what makes you stand out. That is what makes you special. No one can come even close to doing it like you because they’re not you. Simple. The same applies to other girls. You’re never going to be anything like anyone else. The sooner you accept this fact, the sooner you can start accepting yourself. Embrace yourself for everything you are and stop giving a fuck about what you’re not. Forget about comparisons and putting yourself down. You know yourself better than anyone else. You KNOW your good qualities. Start there. Embrace them. Love them. Be proud of them. Find something to like/love on yourself or about yourself everyday. Just one thing. Spend the day thinking about it. Appreciating it. Reminding yourself of it. This seemingly small process will add up over time. Trust me.When it comes to men, here is a Boss Bitch LAW: Never check for anyone who isn’t checking for you. That means don’t worry about people who aren’t worried about you. The people who don’t like you or find you attractive? Make them nonexistent to you. They literally don’t matter. When someone isn’t fucking with you, you don’t sit down and try to change their mind. You don’t try to convince them of why they should. A boss bitch is just herself and stays herself regardless of who likes it and who doesn’t. Everyone isn’t going to think you’re this gorgeous goddess or queen or even the tiniest bit cute. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be those things to yourself. What others feel about you shouldn’t determine how YOU feel about you. Your confidence is on another level when you’re the one who controls it and you don’t need others to keep it alive, healthy, and high.Long story short, fuck everybody else. Focus on you. Focus on loving you. The right people will love/like/enjoy you because you’re you. The ones who don’t simply don’t matter. Invite love and happiness in all of their forms into your life. You’re worth so much and you’re deserving of all the good you want in life simply because you’re you! Make peace with that. Accept that as your truth and watch your life change.I know you’re nervous putting yourself out there but take your time. Go at YOUR pace, set boundaries and standards, and keep on being/loving you. Good luck & stay safe xoxo

1. I'm going to be 19 next month and I've never had a boyfriend or done anything w/ a guy ever. I joined a dating app & got a few matches but I'm a very shy and quiet girl when it comes to guys bc I don't like my appearance and I feel as though a guy could never like me because of my looks. I don't think I'm ugly but I don't think I'm as pretty as my friends or other girls that the guys that I like could get. My friends are always telling me to put myself out there and smile more or look more

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would you get upset with a guy you're dating if you had plans to hang and he said he couldn't cuz he was gonna be busy with his mom?.. like really his momma over me lol

Girl, yes his mama over you! Lol seriously though, that’s his mom and your relationship with him and her relationship with him are two completely different things. So different that they can’t even be compared. That’s his mom. You and him both have lives, family, and friends outside of each other. Him handling business with her won’t hurt anyone. Best wishes xoxo

So fucking happy to see you posting again. Been following you for years and your my literal idol, I checked your page every day and was so scared u weren't gonna post again. Missed you and good to see you back. I love you so much and thank you for all you do your truly an inspiration 👑🙏

Omg this was so sweet! Thank you so much for this message pooh. It really made my night. I’m glad I’ve been able to inspire you for so long. Thank you for your constant support! I love you too 💖 💖 💖 💖 Stay bossy baby xoxoPS- Don’t worry I’m here and will be back to posting consistently soon. Pinky promise!

#5. Im starting to feel he really didn’t love me its been a week since we spoke, however I do feel like he would be back I gave him a lot I really don’t wanna be stupid and forgive him but I don’t really wanna lose what I feel we have? Do I stay or move on?

Move on. Someone who can sit there and lie in your face like that, fill you up with hopes and dreams, and leave you like nothing never gave a fuck about you. Maybe he enjoyed the chase and the mystery behind not having you. Whatever his motives were, it’s time to let him go and move on. It’s not easy and it’ll take time but it’s what must be done. Always believe people’s actions before their words. What you FEEL you had isn’t what it actually is. View the situation, in it’s entirety, for what it is and you’ll know everything you need to know. Don’t continue holding onto the illusion he built. Instead of trying to connect dots and figure him out, focus on you and moving past this. What he did was fucked up and moving on won’t be an overnight thing but the first step is knowing you have to let go. Don’t stay stuck in the same spot messed up over someone who is out here laid up with the next girl. He’s garbage and you’re worth more. Don’t wait for someone else to give it to you. Give it to yourself. Good luck xoxo

#4. He is the one that broke things off with me saying he no longer wanted to talk to me and he was going to leave me alone. Im still tripping out on how your “feelings” go from I love you, to whatever bye do whatever you want. I keep playing this in my head over and over again

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#3. He would always tell me “we are going to be together for a very long time, we have some good, its special to me and he likes it a lot” however he ended up sleeping with another girl. & im confuse because I caught him, however,

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#2. Everything was going good, we shared a lot of feelings towards each other we both spent a lot of time together, we always would tell each other “I love you” I actually thought we had some good, we shared a lot of secrets about each other.

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#1of5. Hey Ms BossChick, i am going through a heartbreak at the moment, & long story short ive been friends with this guy for 9+ years ive decided to remove him out the friend zone, which I thought was going to be the best decision of my life. Ive always knew we both had a little thing for each other, and we decided to give it a try.

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I'm a freshman in hs & I need help with feeling lonely. I have no friends, my dad moved me all the way to Long Island with a bunch of suburban people that I can't even relate to (I'm from Brooklyn), and I just feel all alone. I've always been very mature for my age so it's really hard making friends because they don't really understand me nor can I relate to them. I can't even hang out with people older than me because they look at me like this little kid. I just honestly don't know what to do.

Aww baby I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know what it’s like to feel like you don’t see eye to eye with your peers and feeling out of place because of it. My first bit of advice would be to accept this fact about yourself. Don’t try to shrink or downplay any parts of yourself in order to fit in with others. People liking a fake version of you doesn’t mean they actually like YOU. Also, other people are never worth the inner turmoil that comes with denying yourself of your right to be yourself. Love and accept yourself for who you are. You do that when you realize you don’t need other people to love and accept you in order for you to love and accept you. Stay true to yourself at all times. 2. Don’t let your perceptions of other people stop you from getting to know them. You can still try. Friendships aren’t always built on mutual interests. A person who is real and who rides for you is wayyyy more of a better friend than someone who likes the same things you like. You won’t always agree, but you’ll be there for each other. Also, even if you don’t find true friends and just want people to hang out with, be open to new things! They can teach you things and vice versa. Open yourself up to the experience and take it for what it is. Present yourself as you are and they’re either going to like you or not. Either way, you’ll love you regardless so it won’t matter. Keep your head up baby and stay focused. Best wishes xoxo

come back bunni we miss you :((( x

I’m here pookie! I haven’t even realized I’ve been gone so long?? I logged in and looked at the date on the last ask I posted like wtf? But I’m back! Currently working on figuring out a consistent schedule so I can post more and interact with you all more. I missed you too! 💖 💖 xoxo

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