lazy and with opinions that change too much

respects pronouns | sort of a radfem | you'd call me an aphobe | i probably followed back but this is a sideblog so

[ask-a-gender-critical-trans-man]

why do u think that men are allowed to call themselves lesbians.... attraction isn't based on genitalia - there are a LOT more factors than that. just bc a trans man may have a vagina, that doesn't mean he's allowed to call himself a lesbian. the term lesbian is exclusive to WOMEN and women only (NOT everyone with a vagina. men cannot be lesbians. that includes trans men.)

Again, as I specifically stated, neither of us are lesbians and neither of us would place a boundary or not on the lesbian community, that is for them to do themselves.

Your absolutely right a lot of things weigh into attraction, which is one of the reasons that the overlap and slight blur on lesbian relationships between transmen and women is something up for debate. There isn’t an easy hard line to blur.

There are lesbians who date transmen and there are lesbians who date transwomen and I don’t think either can have their lesbiansism disqualified, and in terms of trans people calling ourselves get/straight etc it’s complicated, and largely I find it to be more an internal relationship to how we relate.

For example, I as a passing transmen wouldn’t consider calling myself a gay man (were I only attracted to men) because I don’t feel my attraction to men has the same weight or relationship to me as it would for other gay men. Not saying that is true or not for others simply in how I am. Men has been my default comfort zone as I grew up. How I have related to my attraction to men is not the same as other men who like men. On the other hand my experience with coming to understand how I like women, I relate far more to how women who like women have described their experiences and how they feel about it. That was my attraction I really had to discover and didn’t feel comfortable with for a long time.

When it comes to trying to describe a physical yes/no binary on attractions it just really isn’t feasible. You can only really go by trends in a community and how individuals would describe.

My only thought and contribution is really that I don’t think that in the current way we discuss trans people and discuss sexuality, trans people just don’t fit our current descriptive system well.

I think I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again, I’m glad I’m bi because I don’t know what I would do if I had to work this stuff out to a solid answer for myself

[selkieradfem-blog]

if you think lesbians are bad for not wanting to date trans “women” you are a homophobe

[theradicalresistance]

My International Women’s Day began with being attacked by an “intergender” man who claimed we put too much responsibility on men when it comes to male sexual violence and that claiming men are the ones who have to ultimately deal with male violence is “sexist”. He made foul and rather evil personal attacks on me as a person and sent me into trauma panic because of his aggressiveness. So now I’ve decided I’m officially a terf, I am officially a gender critical fucking terf who believe males will always be males and need to acknowledge that in order not to be rapist, misogynistic scumbags for the rest of their lives. Women rule.

[pussydagger]

It’s hilarious that when gender critical people present science and facts the trans brigade just says TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE MEN over and over. Ummmmmm ok but where is your evidence

[radsadfem]

Every single international women’s day post I’ve seen today from libfem Tumblr was about trans women. Once again males are given the spotlight and females are pushed aside. On women’s day, no less.

[selkieradfem-blog]

seriously, answer my question. you think that women are based off of how well they pass as women in society, and the oppression that they face as such, right?

youre a woman if you have a vagina, uterus, all that jazz. you may also be a woman if youre intersex and your sex was considered similar enough to the “female” sex that they assigned you female at birth. its not 100% clear cut, but what is clear is that if you were born with a dick and balls and other male anatomy, you are not a woman, and will never be a woman.

[byesexualqueen-blog]

as far as i'm concerned the SRY gene determines if someone is male or female even in intersex cases

[byesexualqueen-blog]

radfem: humans are shaped by their experiences, and therefore someone raised with the privileges of a man will be shaped by that and will not ever fully understand what it is like to be born female & to be shaped by the life experiences and forced gender socialisation that being female brings

libfem: i cant believe youre reducing women to their genitals

[butchthoughts]

are u a ruby butch or a bismuth butch

[fyxan-deactivated20180801]

rape culture is the belief that consent can be bought.  rape culture is paying for sex.  rape culture is watching porn produced by paying people to have sex.

rape culture is watching porn that eroticises violence, rape, & abuse.

rape culture is fetishising submission (i.e. obedience).

rape culture is believing that beating your partner or simulating rape & abuse makes sex more exciting or intimate.

rape culture is believing that hierarchy, dominance, & obedience make romantic relationships more exciting or intimate.

[mcdyke-deactivated20171112]

the notion that lesbians have to be attracted to trans women or else they’re transphobic is honestly another example of females carrying the emotional burden for bio males. it’s more about pushing lesbian boundaries than it is about trans acceptance. sexuality is not a choice.

[selkieradfem-blog]

this is why they never talk about how horrible straight men are for not being attracted to them.

[byesexualqueen-blog]

can we just... go back at using transvestite

[dykeashell-deactivated20171205]

womens march isn’t even about women anymore because who cares about who this movement should actually be for anyway right #DayWithoutAWoman more like #DayWithoutAWomanSoFeminineMenCanBeTheStarOfAMovementThatTheyDon'tEvenNeedToBeAPartOf

[spencer-shayy-archive]

And the patriarchy wins again.

They’ve successfully destroyed feminism. Women can’t organize or have their own spaces. We can’t get away from men anymore. We can’t be independent. We can’t leave. In fact, we don’t even exist anymore. There’s just men and non-men.

[cornerstorebitch]

when exactly have males been exploited for their labor or intellectual capital on the basis of their sex? anybody?

[selkieradfem-blog]

of course, we cant have anything to ourselves. anything that doesnt revolve around men is “bigoted” and “not inclusive”

[confirmed-terfs]

if u steal posts from terfs..

That means u think terfs make good posts. Ur agreeing w a terfs post. Ur a terf. Wake up people

[thatfemaletitan-deactivated2021]

First of all there is no such thing as “safe breathplay”, second of all fuck bdsm, third of all I will kink shame you till the end, fourth of all IF “AFTERCARE” IS REQUIRED FOR SOMETHING IT SHOULD NOT BE DONE, LITERALLY YOU ARE DISGUSTING, SUBS ARE GOING THROUGH SIGNS OF TRAUMA, FUCK DOMS ESPECIALLY FUCK MALE DOMS, FUCK EVERYTHING

[selkieradfem-blog]

violence will never be a sign of love.

[lesbianboboberens]

I’m at my internship and I just encountered a gay man who calls himself gay, I am shook I thought they were extinct

[selkieradfem-blog]

so what is your opinion on trans-men? and nonbinary people?

transmen are victims of misogyny. they are vulnerable women, not men. nonbinary people likely want to escape gender roles entirely. i dont blame them, but i wish theyd advocate more for the destruction of gender than just making new ones.

[byesexualqueen-blog]

non binary is the new gnc, except missing the point entirely

[selkieradfem-blog]

If you don't think that trans women are real women, what do you think they are, and what is your way to 'cure' them?

dysphoric men or autogynophiliacs. and i dont care about “curing” them. i dont give a crap if they want to wear a dress or use a different name or get surgery. i just know that they will never actually be women, and i dont want them in womens safe spaces.