[sobcat]

people who do a PhD are running from something

[shocked--kwarrtz]

Yeah it’s called a 9-to-5

[crushed-sugar]

Special shoutout to all the queer, intersex, and trans het folks. Sorry for all the “it’s illegal to be straight this month” jokes you’ll have to endure. Y’all are still very much part of the community.

[homunculus-argument]

If you're trying to tell someone that something they did inadvertedly hurt your feelings, and they treat this conversation like a debate where their goal is to successfully argue that they did nothing wrong, and that you have no right to feel upset, that's your cue that you should give up trying to have any kind of a real, genuine relationship with them. Everyone will sometimes end up doing something that you hadn't realised would upset someone you care about, you can't be constantly aware of every single thing at all times. But turning the following conversation into an argument of uncompromisingly justifying and defending their actions is a sign you shouldn't ignore.

They don't think that upsetting you is the problem. What they have a problem with is you thinking you deserve better than how they want to treat you.

[weirwoodsugar]

i love when fantasy novels are about 35 year olds…why is everyone in books 20 or 16 all the time

[weirwoodsugar]

(defensively) 35 is one of the most normal ages to be

[fishparasite]

you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.

[fishparasite]

i made this post because i've got so many friends that think saying something wrong in a conversation is the end of the world. it isn't. you'll be okay. you don't have to be embarrassed about every little thing. you are alive and doing things and speaking to people. you will make mistakes and you will live.

[the-mechanica]

my problem really deeply is how shallow a tolerance younger people have for old queer media. like yes, it's dated and some of the politics don't hold water anymore, but to ignore older media simply based on that is to loose EVERYTHING we have bc we don't have a lot. just because queer themes caught up more recently doesn't mean we should rehash everything to fit into a more "presentable" format that is only considered modern bc of the puritanical blacklash of the last several years and sanitization of queer themes.

[naryrising]

The show/book/podcast right now that you think is groundbreaking, has great representation and ideal political positions, that makes you feel seen and validated like nothing ever has before? In twenty or thirty years, if you are so lucky, you'll get to look back and watch kids who weren't born yet make fun of it or criticize it for its flaws, for how it didn't use the current correct terminology or was wrong about something that is now taken for granted, or ignored things that are now considered essential to the queer experience. Maybe you'll even notice those flaws yourself when you revisit it. Then you have a choice: throw away the whole thing, or say "hey kids, this thing might seem dated or misguided to you now but at the time it was great, and it's still really important to me."

[aggressivelybicaptainamerica]

This is why I will fight for both Rocky Horror and Rent until my last dying breath. Queer art made by queer people must be defended and celebrated even as we acknowledge change, progress and the things that have always been problematic.

[eroscestlavie]

Honestly making new friends in my late 20s early 30s has in some ways been indistinguishable from dating except the courtship period is not romantic or sexual. I think people need to revisit the art of flirting in a friend way…like presenting your best self to a person and genuinely glowing when they return the gesture. And letting people influence and change you and getting excited when you have a chance to talk to them. That’s what makes getting to know someone fun in the first place…everyone in those advice threads about how to befriend people is basically describing how to have Coworkers not friends. “Go to a bar and hang out and start a conversation” you can do this but you have to follow up the first encounter with putting your best foot forward instead of just listlessly hoping for the social approval of the other party!!!!

[androgynosaurus]

Honestly be pretentious as fuck about the stuff you create. Do a press release for your fanfic updates. Do a Q&A about your webcomic. Make fake merch designs for your OCs. Commission "official" book covers. Very few of us will ever get to a stage where something we've created Makes It Big but even if you have an audience of 5 people plus a shoelace fucking indulge yourself and pretend!! It's the only way to live!!

[gayhoediaz]

the best fic you have ever read in your entire fucking stupid life: written by anonymous

[gayhockeyshow]

Hey…. Hey… Characters covered in blood, okay? You remember characters covered in blood?? You used to love characters covered in blood

[yamalvr]

i have a personality flaw that always positions me on the side of characters who are hiding everything and refuse to accept help. like do NOT confide in people. confiding in people is the enemy. REAL winners lie and lie and continue lying until they ruin every single thing theyve got going for them & didnt fix a single goddamn thing. keep digging grandpa youre almost there

[ravioliet]

never kill yourself. you have to fill your mutuals dash with shit they don't care about forever, okay?

[elexecution]

if i was born 500 years ago i would have been speculating that the two dudes who went to get firewood together were fucking

[neaborealis]

chat, how long do y’all think 500 years is. Romeo and Juliet was written in the 1500s. 500 years is not the Stone Age.

[elexecution]

why do u think people stopped collecting firewood after caveman times

[imsobadatnicknames2]

Many such cases

[kamil-a]

I NEED A SICKO… im holding out for a sicko till the end of the night ..and hes gotta haha and hes gotta say yess at the window with a look of delight

[jerreeeeeee]

not every mutual fits neatly into an archetypal medievalism but there are some mutuals that im like yeah addressing you as “my liege” would come strangely naturally

[jerreeeeeee]

what mutual is prev

my liege lord

my loyal knight

my wise wizard

my evil advisor

my brother in arms

my lady muse

my wild mermaid friend

my fellow alchemist

my dashing rapscallion

my monstrous foe

Voting ended onJun 6

[bleaksqueak]

a convo I had with a friend a couple of years ago replays in my head endlessly

me: shit, it's getting cold, finally time to lounge in my pride cardigan friend: … you know, I know you're queer, but I've never seen you with a flag or any pride gear before! me:

[sokojekeke]

didnt know another otter species dropped (was discovered/named in 2024 i mean). so cool

lontra longicaudis, or the neotropical otter

from what i understand they thought all the species in north and south america were just 2. but due to the andes mountain range there's a 3rd species!! they are also more solitary then most otters .... lone otters... on the water..