hey <3 first of all, you're so beautiful :) and second, my chilhood friend fighting hodgkin lymphoma cancer, this week she started with the chemo, it's almost a week, she's hardly eating or drinking, she don't want to get out of bed, and she don't share with me anything of what she's feeling, if you can, i need your help, i know that people handle those cases diffrently, but if you can atleast to tell me what i should do to make her eat or drink or get out of bed, that's would help me alot!
Hey! First off, sorry to hear that, I feel for her. Re: eating and drinking and getting out of bed, honestly I don’t think anyone who wasn’t living through the experience with me could say anything very compelling to me to get me to do those things. It’s just hard to convince someone when you’re not their caretaker. My mom or dad were really the only people who could get me to eat or drink or move when I didn’t feel like it, and that’s because they were the ones checking in on me, bringing me food and sitting with me while I labored away at eating it, bringing me water and cheering me on when I finished it, etc. That’s probably not what you want to hear -- I know you’re concerned but I think the most you can do is tell her that her immune system desperately needs nutrition and hydration to help the chemo do its job killing the cancer. And that getting out of bed will actually make her feel better.
But most of all just being a good listener is what you can do as a close friend! She’s probably not opening up much about it because it’s depressing and tbh nobody can relate and it’s isolating. So just remind her you love her and are down to listen whenever to whatever she wants to talk about, whether it’s cancer related or not.
Having loving friends was so important for me during treatment, and I’m moved by your love for her.