Based on who I see you giving it to, I’d say too many of you don’t believe in the value of your own submission when you give it to somebody. You’re like, “here, I’m not sure this is good enough for you, or worth much, but I hope it’s enough for you to decide to take care of me.”
If this is where you are at with yourself, please keep your submission. Work on yourself until you start moving towards, “hi, this is my submission we are talking about, and just anybody doesn’t get it buster.”
Everyone’s autonomy is valuable, so when you sacrifice it to someone, it holds great power. That’s what you give to a dominant when you submit to them. That’s the power in power dynamics, and if you don’t believe your submission holds that power, then it doesn’t. It leads to wrong partners and other trouble if you only pretend you believe in your own power, and start giving it away.
Holding a person’s submission is a privilege, and yours is just as valuable as anyone’s. Feel that, or hold onto it. Take your time. Learn to value yourself before you give yourself over to someone. Safe journeys.