colormebeautiful

For all the blinding chaos in my mind.

[dr-bronner]

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[jackiier]

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[no-longer-another-bondi-blonde]

[thesubwhisperer]

True words ⛓📿

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Fishnets make my day better. How about you? #selfshot

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[thesubwhisperer]

Doing brutal things to beautiful things

TheSubWhisperer ⛓📿

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"You'll never be suspended, you're to big."

I saw a post on IG yesterday from a beautiful woman. She was in tights and a set of perfectly symettrical double futos. The rope work was clean. Her shape was sexy. It was geneuinely an all around pleasing photo of her in her own rope work. Then I made it down to the caption. To summarize, the caption stated that she was having trouble finding inspiration to tie lately. That she kept telling herself that her body was beautiful in rope even after being rejected by so many riggers. This gorgeous girl, was plus sized.

Now let me start by saying I don't actually know this girl. But as I read her post I felt absolutely devastated, shocked and apalled that a rigger would even say that. Like, I'm sorry who the hell made you the bondage police? But, I digress. So then later, during a break from a lab session with some friends, I start telling them about this post and how I wrong I felt it was. Then one of them says to me, "it's happened to me too." Shocked for the second time that day I ask very eloquently, "What the fuck? Why?" He proceeded to tell me that he had been rejected by 2 riggers. Both told him, "you'll never be suspended. Your're to big."

My response:

FUCK. THAT.

I am 5 feet 1 and approximately 190 lbs. Most of the people I tie with on a regular basis are over 6ft. Tall and between 250-275lbs. I have been rigging at a suspension level for less than a year. If I can do it, then surely YOU, Mr. Domly McRiggerson can. I guess my point is: FIGURE IT OUT!!

Are there challenges to overcome when tying someone heavier than the 120lb rope models you see plastered all over the internet? Absolutely. Does that make those people any less willing or capable of bottoming in rope? HELL NO! As a rigger, YOU learn new ties that work with your bottoms body. YOU figure out what style of hanger is safest. YOU adapt. Can't lift past a certain point in a level change? Put yourself underneath them, grab the upline and freaking PULL.

It is hard to lift someone larger than you? YES. Am I a sweaty mess that is just as sore as they are by the end? YES. Do I occassionally require the spotter to help with a little extra muscle? YES. Does it ruin our scene? NO. Does it effect any part of thier experience in a negative way? NO.

So to any rigger out there reading this that has ever told anyone they are "too big" for suspension: SHAME ON YOU!!!

How dare you make someone feel as if THEIR body isnt good enough simply because YOUR to weak and scared to try? The problem is NOT that a tall/curvy/thick/plus sized person is to much to lift. The problem IS that YOUR ego is so much larger than the bodies to whom you deny the pleasure of rope.

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“One of the risks of being quiet is that the other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: You’re bored. You’re depressed. You’re shy. You’re stuck up. You’re judgmental. When others can’t read us, they write their own story—not always one we choose or that’s true to who we are.”

— Sophia Dembling

[theropegeek]

What information/ recommendations would you give to someone new to the bdsm community ?

one idea that i’d really like to murder is this concept that there’s a “hierarchy” of tops and/or bottoms.

as soon as someone says “a TRUE bottom is…” or “a GOOD bottom should…” there is a pretty good chance that person is peddling bullshit.

similarly, i encourage people not idolize certain tops, or fall for the hero-worship that i see directed at more experienced tops, educators, event organizers, etc.

some people might have more experience, or different strengths/weaknesses, but ultimately it’s all about the connections you can make/share with someone who you (hopefully) care about.

[defineyourgrind]

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[theropegeek]

Free Rope Tutorial Masterlist

new and improved!  updated 7/24/18

Safety

Anatomy for Rope with IPcookiemonster Shibari Safety by DeGiotto Rope Shibari Safety by Esinem.  (Part One) (Part Two)

Beginner

How to Coil Rope by Degiotto Rope How to Join Ropes by @wykd-dave​ Twisted Monk How-to:  over a dozen beginner-friendly faves, including: *karada (aka diamond harness or body harness) *pentagram harness *single column tie *basic chest harness *strapon harness *basic hair tie @ropebaby​‘s youtube channel, featuring: rope bra basic crotch rope diamond crotch rope rope corset and more! Futomomo by Degiotto Rope Triangle Chest Harness by Tied Up Tee  Hishi Body Tie by Epic Rope Hishi (Diamond) Leg Tie by EpicRope

Ties for Partners (Intermediate)

Hogtie by Twisted Monk​ Hishi TK by EpicRope​

Hip Harnesses (Intermediate/Advanced)

Crystal Heart Hip Harness by @shibarikuma​ Dynamic Hip Harness by Moco Hip Harness by Nina Russ Tobutsuru Hip Harness by stefanobirdofprey Peach Tie by Tifereth

Advanced

Gote Shibari (also called a TK) by Esinem Fluid Strappado for Limited Flexibility by Moco

[submissivewildling]

Meditation pose suspension tonight! It had been on my to-do list for a while and it was worth the wait. So zen

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Say, "hello" to my little friend! So hapoy with how our rig turned out. 😍😍

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Quick shot from our late night ropey shenanigans last night at the local park. R&P: Me. Bottom: @jlamb83

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