shitty parents will literally fill your ears constantly about how all worst things in the world would happen to you “in real life” and then act surprised when you develop a fucking anxiety disorder
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shitty parents will literally fill your ears constantly about how all worst things in the world would happen to you “in real life” and then act surprised when you develop a fucking anxiety disorder
Abusive parent: you must tiptoe around my very easily provoked feelings, you must never make me feel like a bad parent or hurt my feelings by not obeying me, if I get a little stressed I deserve to take it out on you, I can’t be bothered to do my basic duties but I need you to feel sorry for me, center me and my feelings 24/7 and show unconditional love for me or I will throw a tantrum
Abusive parent (to kid): How old are you to act like this?! Get over yourself, not everything is about you! Grow up already! Nobody is going to tiptoe around your feelings! Stop taking everything personally! Stop expecting anyone’s world to be rotating around you! That is solely reserved for me
You have done your part in trying to understand your parents. You did consider where they were coming from and why they were doing this, and it didn’t help. You’ve done enough trying to forgive them. You’ve made yourself and your feelings irrelevant far too many times already. You’ve asked yourself ‘why don’t they love me’ far too many times. You’ve cried enough because of them. You tried to deserve their love for far too long. You walked with your heart broken and chest empty far too many times. You’ve done enough. It’s been enough. You walk free of this with no obligation or shame on your part. You’ve done everything you could. You’ve given them every possible chance to stay in your life. You’ve allowed them lead you on, with fear and hope in your heart, for far too many times. You don’t have to do it ever again.
Abusive parents always wanna portray your suffering as ‘necessary’, 'deserved’, and even 'good for you’, when in reality, all of it was unnecessary, undeserved and damaging to you. What kind of monsters believe children of the world deserve and need to suffer. It’s adding insult to injury when they expect children to be grateful for it. If suffering is so good, maybe inflict some of that to their own lives, but no, if it happens to them, suddenly it’s bad and tragic. Which is it, you hypocrites. If it’s bad for you, it’s fucking devastating for a child. Eat your words and accept responsibility for what you did to children for no goddamn reason.
There’s this really specific experience in growing up with abusive parents, because they act so emotionally immature at all times. And when you’re a kid, it just feels normal, right? You’re emotionally immature, they’re immature, you’re on the same level, you don’t know any better, you think that’s how humans are.
But then later, you actually develop some empathy, awareness of other people’s feelings and their inner worlds and thoughts and situations, and you outgrow your parent’s maturity. And at that point you’re just so used to tolerating their shit you don’t even think twice, you’re the adult now, you let them have their way, you forgive and forget, clean their messes, take care of their feelings and make it all okay for them.
But then at one point, you realize you have adults acting like literal spoiled children, when you’ve outgrown this a while ago, and you ask yourself, when they gonna grow? When they gonna develop some self awareness? And then you go and assume they just never had a mature presence in their life so they had no way to learn (which isn’t true because then how did you learn it?), and you go and try to teach them by showing them a good example. You become extra nice, patient, explain things to them, cater to their inner worlds, try to explain to them that there’s people other than them on this world, who have feelings and hearts and deep inner world and this is significant and needs to be respected. But all they ever respond with is “yes I am those people now cater to me”.
It is impossible to teach abusive parents by showing them a good example. They will insist you do it over and over again, and then exploit your kindness to the max. Literally the kinder you get, the worse they get. They soon expect you to run after their every need, to jump at their every whim, and in return they insult you for a good measure, call you worthless and lazy, then they go to sleep without a care in the world.
Do not do this. They’re not growing up because they benefit so strongly from acting like a kid. Once all of their immaturity privileges and tolerations are suspended, and they’re forced to act like a proper human being in order to keep gettinng what they want, suddenly they’ll know exactly how to do it.
Your parents are not immature, they’re abusive. They’re not childish, they’re manipulative. They’re not silly, they’re self obsessed, selfish and forceful. You gave them enough benefit of the doubt, you do not have to wait all your life for them to grow up. Their due for that was long time ago and they have no business expecting you to be their parent.
“Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.”
— Unknown
—Chris Mc Geown
Forgive yourself for the things that weren’t your fault 💞
relationships with ur parents are so weird, arent they? like... i hate you for what you did, i love you because you bring me soup when im sick. i want to get away from you. i feel safe with you. i want to run away from you. i want your hugs. i wish you understood me. i wish i understood you.
listening to the same music i used to listen when i was 14-15 is something else i'm still her i'm nothing like her anymore she knew everything she knew nothing she was so right she was so wrong
Astrology observations part 2
{these are general things I’ve noticed so please don’t take it to heart, we are all unique individuals}
🥀 Aries Lilith and Scorpio Lilith usually have issues to do with their eyes, either sight, eye syndromes, disorder and diseases, this can also come with age or from birth. However these people tend to have captivating, deep set eyes and an intense gaze.
🥀Sun square mars=conflict with muscline figures, males. Moon square mars= conflict with feminim figures, females
🥀Cancer rising men have this love, fascination for breasts.
🥀Cancer Venus people in whatever career path they choose will come across working or meeting kids or people who are sick, mentally ill, those with special needs, autism, Down syndrome or intellectual disabilities ect...
🥀Lilith in the 7th house can get themselves in intense passionate relationships where there’s healing involved and also their partners, lovers, admirers, friends can be obsessed with them and vice versa. At first meeting they can bring out strong reactions from people, others can reject them, come of agressive or absolutely love them. As for their relationships, they tend to go for people with prominent Lilith in their chart or someone who has Pluto aspects, planets in the 8th house, it’s familiar to them because they also have these in their own natal. They can also like having 8th house and 12th house synastry with partners as they manage it well.
🥀In synastry, someone’s planets, especially Venus in your 4th house can remind you of a close family member, people you know or have known (this house has to do with the past), this reminding often happens where that person and another person you know have the same name, attitude, voice, looks...
🥀Saturn in Gemini can feel like throughout their life people don’t really listen to them as they are saying something, or that others don’t consider their opinions when they talk about it. This placement also means they have some responsibility to do with their siblings. Usually is an indicator that this person has younger siblings, if not this also means siblings can have control or an impact on the natives career in someway. Saturn in Gemini people also have either 10th house placements, planets aspecting Saturn or Capricorn inner planets or Capricorn in their angular houses (AC, IC, DC, MC) in their natal chart.
🥀Taurus moon parents, especially their mothers were always their to provide them materially, they could have lived comfortably.
🥀Taurus moons are also most likely to get their heart broken in their lifetime, or someone is going to dump, cheat on them but that usually happens in their early years.
🥀Mercury in the 12th really do have beautiful minds, and Venus in the 12th really are dreamy romantics.
🥀Moon in the 12th be making direct eye contact with you while they’re talking and sometimes without even blinking once.
🥀They say the older you get, the more you start acting like your sun sign?
🥀Mars in the 8th house synastry makes the people furiously hate each other where the raw tension makes them feel out of control, could cause them to be sexually aroused and make the mars attack whether it’s physical or verbal.
🥀Mercury in the 11th house people really know how to reach out and be relatable to different groups, and stand up, talk about diversity.
🥀Every libra moon guy will go through a phase in their life being an asshole or people hating them, but that usually happens when the individual is unbalanced and has poor mental, physical and social health.
This week is Bisexual Awareness Week, so here is a comic about what being bisexual might mean to bisexuals! Also, some other identities!
QUEER
THEY ADDED QUEER
I WANT TO CRY WITH FUCKING JOY
This is a really good explanation of the current state of these labels.
This is so good. I freaked out a bit at the first definition of bi because it seemed to mean that bi is exclusive, but I’m so glad they included different definitions
and how could I explain to someone how unlovable my family has made me feel.
the mood in here is electric
You wanna hear my alarm tone: *my parents arguing at 9am*
tfw she gaslights you so efficiently that you gaslight yourself :)