Tips for Men
My wife @blondewife and I receive messages from men quite often and I just wanted to help some of them out with tact when talking to other people on here or really anywhere in the world.
1. Don’t be abrupt. Don’t say “I will fuck your wife” or something similar with your first sentence. 99.9999% of men that are attracted to women would love to have sex with my wife. That’s how men work. It’s obvious and rude that you have this ego that thinks we are desperate or something and you are here to “save the day”. This also goes with dick pics. If that is the first thing you send without saying anything we will immediately assume you have no brain and will not respond.
2. Don’t assume. It makes an ass out of u and me (when I/we get pissed and tell you off). Just because we have something posted on either of our Tumblr blogs doesn’t mean we want that specific thing. Could just be a fleeting moment where something turned us on but not interested in it in real life. Even if we do like it maybe we wouldn’t with you for one reason or another.
3. Understand the difference between confidence, egocentric, and completely delusional. It is good to be confident about who are, but that doesn’t mean you are what everyone else wants. If you think that, then it means you are egocentric. Maybe you are pretty great to a lot of people but being unable to believe someone doesn’t like you or even caring what they think is a huge turn off for a lot of people. Then there are many guys that send us messages that are completely delusional. We say something like, “we are looking for fit hung men under 45, preferably bi, that are at least intelligent and personable enough to carry on a decent conversation when on a date.” In response we get a 60 year old who hasn’t worked out since 1987 and has a five inch penis telling us they are fit, hot, hung, and under 45. Apparently it’s just in some alternate reality. We really aren’t that shallow it’s just what we are looking for sexually. If you don’t fit it sorry but maybe you’ll fit with someone else’s needs.
4. People are not objects. Even though I just outlined what we want like we are picking out a sex toy instead of a person, I understand people are not objects, and you other men should too. Use words and learn about people. It isn’t that difficult really. Start with something like, “Hi, how are you?” Then continue to ask questions while responding with details about yourself. In this way both parties can learn about each other without immediately flashing genitals in each other’s faces like baboons.
5. Learn to accept rejection with dignity. It’s not the end of the world if two people aren’t compatible. We always try to be polite about it, but even if someone isn’t, take the high road. This is as important for you as it is for the other person/people. This goes for any stage of the interaction. Even if it’s right before or during sex.
If anyone has anything to add to this list please feel free. I really am trying to be helpful to men out there who I think just need to know these things and have them reinforced on a daily, weekly, monthly? basis.
A great guide!!!
