Dear Parents,

A letter to parents and future selves

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

If you know that your child(ren) has food allergies, do not make meals that include those allergies. I don’t just mean the fatal ones, if you know that your kid is going to get sick eating a certain food, don’t make dinner that food!

This isn’t even something you should have to think about and it certainly shouldn’t be a rule on this page because its COMMON DECENCY! If you’re worried about saving money than think about the fact that you’re going to save MORE money by not having to buy your child a seperate meal.

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Dear Parents,

Making fun of you kids doesn’t count as a hobby.

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Dear Parents,

While we’re in this time of great fear and sickness, keep in mind that your children aren’t the enemy. They aren’t the ones who started the virus and they didn’t ask to be more likely to survive. So don’t take YOUR worry and fear and anger out on them. Don’t get angry if your kids get tired of washing their hands 27 times a day. Don’t lose your temper because your kids are bored of being inside all day.

This virus isn’t fair to anyone.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

Tell your kids good morning and wish them a good night. Don’t start and/or end your days with yelling. You never want to be the reason your children are crying themselves to sleep or hate themselves.

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Dear Parents,

DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, GUILT TRIP YOUR CHILD INTO DOING SOMETHING THEY DONT WANT TO. Don’t tell them that people are going to stop believing in them because they won’t or can’t do the thing. Don’t tell them that they disappointed you because they won't do the thing for their own reasons. DO NOT GUILT TRIP YOUR CHILD. 

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

If your child comes to you complaining about something or ranting to you, don’t make the conversation about you. More often than not, they want you to listen so they can get it off their chest and not have to break down on their own. If they want advice, they will ask you for it. Plain and simple, we just want someone to talk to.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

Your child's health comes before anything else in their lives. it comes before work, school, relationships, and yes, even you. This means that it comes before commitments that you forced them into and being a dick about it will do nothing but further harm their health and your relationship. They are human beings and need to take care of themselves. 

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

There are three things you should NEVER joke about with your children.

1: Things they’re insecure about.

2: Things you’ve yelled at or punished them for.

3: Things they can’t change.

Feel free to add things but these are the ones that I feel really tear people down.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

Don’t yell at me for not doing school work at home. Especially when I tell you that we’ve been given specific instructions NOT to do it at home. I’ve just told you that I’m going to ask the teacher if I can to ensure that I can get it done on time and you’re yelling at me for not having it done already.

We’ve only had two 30 minute classes to get this giant assignment done and it lucky to have done what I do and I will continue to complete more now that we are back to longer classes. I’m not arguing just to argue, I’m explaining my reasons and you’re yelling at me for my LEGITIMATE REASONS.

Sorry for the rant but this is something that’s been bothering me and I wanted to post something about it so I don’t do it in the future. This ones more for me but is also something I think other parents could take into thought so I posted it. HAVE A NICE DAY!

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

Don’t yell at your kids for doing homework.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

So let me get this straight. You yell at me for taking care of my morning routine before the dogs. That one I understand they can’t walk themselves and I take the least time to get ready.

So I save my morning routine till last after doing all the things you’ve asked of me... and you yell at me for taking so long? Like if y’all were ready before me you could have done some of this. I was just following orders and y’all decide the best way to start the morning is by yelling?

I don’t know man, it’s just a thought. Ya’know just don’t ruin my day before it begins.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

I may be able to kill my emotions towards other, but I can’t towards you. Don’t use this against me. Realize that the stuff you do hurts me just like your parents do to you. Learn from their mistakes.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

Don’t yell at me for defending myself against your accusation. What you are saying when you do that is to take what people throw at me. I’m not ok with that. I don’t want to be a doormat I want to be a friend.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

I make mistakes. It’s called being human. Don’t crucify me for not being perfect because you’ve made more mistakes in your time than I have.

[spiicy]

100 reasons NOT to kill yourself

1. we would miss you. 2. it’s not worth the regret. either by yourself if you failed or just simply left scars, or the regret everyone else feels by not doing enough to help you. 3. it does get better. believe it or not it will eventually get better. sometimes you have to go through the storm to get to the rainbow. 4. there’s so much you would miss out on doing. 5. there is always a reason to live. it might not be clear right now, but it is always there. 6. so many people care, and it would hurt them if you hurt yourself. 7. you ARE worth it. don’t let anyone, especially yourself, tell you otherwise. 8. you are amazing. 9. a time will come, once you’ve battled the toughest times of your life and are in ease once again, where you will be so glad that you decided to keep on living. you will emerge stronger from this all, and won’t regret your choice to carry on with life. because things always get better. 10. what about all the things you’ve always wanted to do? what about the things you’ve planned, but never got around to doing? you can’t do them when you’re dead. 11. i love you. even if only one person loves you, that’s still a reason to stay alive. 12. you won’t be able to listen to music if you die. 13. killing yourself is never worth it. you’ll hurt both yourself and all the people you care about. 14. there are so many people that would miss you, including me. 15. you’re preventing a future generation, YOUR KIDS, from even being born. 16. how do you think your family would feel? would it improve their lives if you died? 17. you’re gorgeous, amazing, and to someone you are perfect. 18. think about your favourite music artist, you’ll never hear their voice again. 19. you’ll never have the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold day 20. listening to incredibly loud music. 21. being alive is just really good. 22. not being alive is really bad. 23. finding your soulmate. 24. red pandas 25. going to diners at three in the morning. 26. really soft pillows. 27. eating pizza in neww york city. 28. proving people wrong with your success. 29. watching the jerks that doubted you fail at life. 30. seeing someone trip over a garbage can. 31. being able to help other people. 32. bonfires. 33. sitting on rooftops. 34. sweing every single country in the world. 35. going on roadtrips. 36. you might win the lottery someday. 37. listening to music on a record player. 38. going to the top of the eiffel tower. 39. taking really cool pictures. 40. literally meeting thousands of new people. 41. hearing crazy stories. 42. telling crazy stories. 43. eating ice cream on a hot day. 44. more harry potter books could come out, you never know. 45. travelling to another planet someday. 46. having an underwater house. 47. randomly running into your hero on the street. 48. having your own room at a fancy hotel. 49. trampolines. 50. think about your favourite movie, you’ll never watch it again. 51. think about the feeling of laughing out loud in a public place because your best friend has just sent you an inside joke. 52. tour survival will make the world better, even if it’s for just one person or 20 or 100 or more. 53. people do care. 54. treehouses. 55. hanging out with your soul mate in a treehouse. 55. snorting when you laugh and not caring who sees. 56. i don’t even know you and i love you. 57. i don’t even know you and i care about you. 58. because nobody is going to be like you ever, so embrace your uniqueness! 59. you won’t be here to experience the first cat world emperor. 60. WHAT ABOUT FOOD?! YOU’LL MISS CHOCOLATE AND ALL THE OTHER NOM THINGS! 61. starbucks. 62. hugs. 63. stargazing. 64. you have a purpose, and it’s up to you to find out what it is. 65. you’ve changed somebody’s life. 66. now you could change the world. 67. you will meet the person that’s perfect for you. 68. no matter how much or how little, you have your life ahead of you. 69. you have the chance to save somebody’s life. 70. if you end your life, you’re stopping yourself from achieving great things. 71. making snow angels. 72. making snowmen. 73. snowball fights. 74. life is what you make of it. 75. everybody has a talent. 76. laughing until you cry. 77. having the ability to be sad means you have the ability to be happy. 78. the world would not be the same if you didn’t exist. 79.its possible to turn frowns, upside down 80. be yourself, don’t take anyone’s sh*t, and never let them take you alive. 81. heroes are ordinary people who make themselves extraordinary. be your own hero. 82. heing happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. it means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections. 83. one day your smile will be real. 84. having a really hot, relaxing bath after a stressful day. 85. lying on grass and laughing at the clouds. 86. getting completely smashed with your best friends. 87. eating crazy food. 88. staying up all night watching your favourite films with a loved one. 89. sleeping in all day. 90. creating something you’re proud of. 91. you can look back on yourself 70 years later and being proud you didn’t commit. 92. being able to meet your internet friends! 93. tea/coffee/hot chocolate. 94. team starkid. 95. cuddling under the stars. 96. being stupid in public because you just can. 97. if you are reading this then you are alive! is there any more reason to smile? 98. being able to hug that one person you havent seen in years. 99. people care enough about you and your future to come up with 100 reasons for you not to do this. 100. but, the final and most important one is, just, being able to experience life. because even if your life doesn’t seem so great right now, literally anything could happen!

& if that isn’t enough:

-depression hotline: [phone] -suicide hotline: [phone] -lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 -trevor project: 1-866-488-7386 -sexuality support: 1-800-246-7743 -eating disorders hotline: [phone] -rape and sexual assault: 1-800-656-4673 -grief support: 1-650-321-5272 -runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000 -exhale: ater abortion hotline/pro-voice: 1-866-4394253 -child abuse: 1-800-422-4453

UK HELPLINES: -samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected] -childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111 -mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected] -mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 [email protected] -b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open mon-fri 10.30am-8.30pm and saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: [email protected] -b-eat youthline (for under 25’s with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open mon-fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, saturday 1pm-7pm) -cruse bereavement care: 08444779400 e-mail: [email protected] -frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600 -drinkline: 0800 9178282 -rape crisis england & wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected] -rape crisis scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight -india self harm hotline: [phone] -india suicide helpline: 022-27546669 -kids help phone (canada): 1-800-668-6868, free and available 24/7

SUICIDE HOTLINES; -argentina: 54-0223-493-0430 -australia: 13-11-14 -austria: 01-713-3374 -barbados: 429-9999 -belgium: 106 -botswana: 391-1270 -brazil: 21-233-9191 -china: 852-2382-0000 (hong kong: 2389-2222) -costa Rica: 606-253-5439 -croatia: 01-4833-888 -cyprus: 357-77-77-72-67 -czech republic: 222-580-697, 476-701-908 -denmark: 70-201-201 -egypt: 762-1602 -estonia: 6-558-088 -finland: 040-5032199 -france: 01-45-39-4000 -germany: 0800-181-0721 -greece: 1018 -guatemala: 502-234-1239 -holland: 0900-0767 -honduras: 504-237-3623 -hungary: 06-80-820-111 -iceland: 44-0-8457-90-90-90 -israel: 09-8892333 -italy: 06-705-4444 -japan: 3-5286-9090 -latvia: 6722-2922, 2772-2292 -malaysia: 03-756-8144 (singapore: 1-800-221-4444) -mexico: 525-510-2550 -netherlands: 0900-0767 -new zealand: 4-473-9739 -new guinea: 675-326-0011 -nicaragua: 505-268-6171 -norway: 47-815-33-300 -philippines: 02-896-9191 -poland: 52-70-000 -portugal: 239-72-10-10 -russia: 8-20-222-82-10 -spain: 91-459-00-50 -south africa: 0861-322-322 -south korea: 2-715-8600 -sweden: 031-711-2400 -switzerland: 143 -taiwan: 0800-788-995 -thailand: 02-249-9977 -trinidad and tobago: 868-645-2800 -ukraine: 0487-327715

just in case you’re having a hard time.

stay strong.

[cowlicklesschick]

One time one of my coworkers was talking about his daughter (who was only 5-6 at the time) and how he was already worried about boys, etc. once she got older. He wasn’t one of those dads, who would quite literally hunt down a teenage boy with a shotgun over some backseat shenanigans. He was just a concerned dad.

He asked me what my dad used to do to scare all of the boys away from me, or to at least make sure they were good to me.

My answer?

Example.

My dad never once said, “Katie, if a boy hits you, make sure to bring him back here so I can make him pay.”

Instead, my kind, gentle-soul dad expressed anger and utter contempt for men who beat their wives (and vice versa), and has never in his life raised his hand against me or my mother.

My dad never once said, “Katie, don’t go out with a boy who’s rude to the waitress.”

Instead, my father has treated every single server we’ve had throughout my entire life (except the rare ones who were rude first) with respect and courtesy.

My dad never once told my brothers to get up and offer the pregnant lady their seat on the subway.

Instead he was the first one to stand up, and smiled proudly when his young sons copied him when 2 other women boarded.

My dad didn’t raise me to only make good decisions when he’s there looking over my shoulder. He showed me what to look for in a man, not by preaching at me or declaring that he was the perfect mold. But his treatment of others (esp women) is the foundation for my standards when it comes to men.

So, parents, you want to make sure all of those Bad Apples stay away? Step one is to demonstrate what a Good Apple looks like, up close and personal.

Because if you’ve taught your daughters to respect themselves enough to have high standards, there won’t be any need for you chase any Bad Apples away. Your daughter will take care of that for you.

[crownsoflaurels1020]

This is important. It’s also important to teach little girls that self help is always an option.

When I was eight I went to my parents crying because a little boy was routinely jumping me from behind when he passed me in the hallways and pulling my hair and it hurt.

My parents didn’t tell me that the boy must have a crush on me, or that I should cut my hair, or even to go tell a teacher (though that last one wouldn’t have been bad advice).

Instead, my dad knelt down and soberly said the following:

“That’s not ok. It’s never ok for someone to touch you in a manner you don’t like. If someone does that too you once, you ask them politely to stop and tell them you don’t like it when they do that. If they do it a second time, you look them in the eye and tell them loudly, “I’m feeling threatened and if you do that again I will defend myself.’ If they do it a third time, you break their nose.”

He proceeded to teach me how to break someone’s nose.

I’m sure people will debate the appropriateness of this advice, but I’ve only ever had to move past yelling “I’m feeling threatened” once. My dad wanted me to know, from an early age, that I wasn’t weak or entirely dependent on others to defend myself, he wanted to teach me that I had power too, and I should use it when necessary.

[dear-parents-dont-be-dicks]

Dear Parents,

One ‘I love you’ does not fix one insult you give to your children. With that one insult, you have started a snowball effect of an insecurity. You have, with that one insult, begun to break down an already incomplete being. Children already don’t know who we are and you insulting us makes it worse. Even after we think we know who we are, you’re supposed to love us dispite our flaws, not tears us down for them. You’re supposed to help us grow in ourselves not break us.

So just know that Nuetons law of ‘every action has an opposite and EQUAL reaction’ is not accurate when it comes to your family. The reaction is not equal, it’s appropriate. You can not expect one ‘I love you’ to fix a fragile doll that you’ve just shattered. Think about what you do.