Dear Ebony and Jon @dearebonyandjon - Tumblr Blog

A lot of people need to hear this.

Date someone hopeful. Date someone who will be weird as hell around you and expect you to do the same on a monday morning.

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If you’re considering dating a White person and you’re a person of color, you better bring up racism. Don’t have them show their true colors when you’re in too deep.

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When you two are in the talking stage. BRING UP RACISM. If you’re afraid of losing them because you asked them if people who look like you deserve basic human rights? They were not that great to begin with.

You don’t want to be a year plus into your relationship (after you’ve fallen in love etc) to hear them spew some racist rhetoric. You as a person of color deserve better; you deserve respect.

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I would say even between poc bring that shit up. internalized racism, colonial attitudes, and antiblackness are a fuckery of a situation even with poc, interracial relationship or no.

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This was me. I figured it out after like four years and learned to love myself enough to realize. It took two more to leave.

resplendentgoldenwings

seriously though.

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Don’t just bring it up in a way that they can say what you want to hear because they want to sleep with you.

Bring it up in things like casual situations that are part of your routine. Watch for how they react to things, who their friends are, how they talk about their overtly racist family members if they have one. For those casual situations where they won’t automatically know they’re being vetted and have their gaurd down, I’ll pick tv shows, comic book movies, music and black female pop stars.

Those topics are things people are passionate about and forget to say what they think you want to hear and end up revealings things about themselves.

I’ll even use celebrities to gauge what kind of double standards they have.

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Not just famous people though… put on the news, court shows or videos with poor, or uneducated black people. Because the same people who laud Obama, Beyonce other “respectable blacks” will shit all over poor people for being welfare frauds, baby mamas, ghetto and thugs.

dearebonyandjon

Great dating tips!!

rainekeiko

#healthy

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Nope. Here’s three reasons why:

STIs like HIV, chlamydia, and gonorrhea are all passed through body fluids. Those include pre-cum, vaginal fluids, and rectal fluids (as well as cum and blood)

Other STIs like syphilis and herpes are passed through skin-to-skin contact with an active infection

And since pre-cum can contain sperm, pulling out doesn’t prevent pregnancy either

So you can pull out, but STIs can still stick around for you and your partner.

missmentelle

How Do You Know When It’s Time to End a Relationship?

See, the problem I have with breakups is that they usually don’t go the way you expect them to - there’s no big fight, no slammed doors, no big affair. In most cases, the spark just sort of quietly dies, and then you both force yourselves to be around each other until you can’t stand the sound of the other person breathing for another second. To date, that’s how all three of my past relationships ended. Don’t be like Miss Mentelle. Miss Mentelle is bad at this. But I’m learning. So if you’re struggling with whether to stay in your relationship, ask yourself: Am I staying in this relationship to prove a point to myself or someone else?

Am I staying because I’m afraid of “losing” or “wasting” the time I’ve already invested in this relationship?

Does being around my partner stress me out more than it uplifts me?

Am I staying with my partner for reasons other than how they make me feel (ex. their job, fear of losing apartment, hassle of dividing possessions?)

Do I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around my partner?

Do I constantly fantasize about being with someone else, or being single again?

Do I feel like I’m missing out on life by being with this person?

Am I having a hard time picturing a future with this person?

Do this person and I fundamentally disagree on values that are super important to me (having children, lifestyle, etc?)

Do I distrust my partner?

Are our issues being caused by a permanent clash in personality, rather than temporary stresses?

Am I struggling with a “dealbreaker” piece of information my partner sprang on me halfway through the relationship (ie a secret high-risk lifestyle, large debts, desire for a third partner)?

Do we argue a lot more than I’m comfortable with?

Does my partner make me feel unwanted, guilty, undesirable or ignored?

Do we struggle to find things to talk about?

Will staying with my partner mean giving up major goals or other things that are important to me?

Is my relationship boring?

Have we stopped including each other in our plans?

Do I feel lonely in this relationship?

Am I making a lot more effort than my partner to keep this relationship going?

Is my life worse because I’m in this relationship?

Obviously, all relationships and circumstances are different, but if you’ve answered “yes” to a few of those questions, it might be time to reflect on whether or not this relationship is worth hanging on to. Remember, breaking things off doesn’t mean that your partner is “bad” or that they did something wrong - they’re just not the right person for you.

And if all else fails, there’s always my friend R’s advice - if you have to ask, you probably already know the answer.

psych2go

I will breathe. I will think of solutions. I will not let my worry control me. I will not let my stress level break me. I will simply breathe. And it will be OK.

Shayne McClendon (via psych2go)

introvertunites

If you’re an introvert, follow @introvertunites.

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[drawing of a white and gray cloud saying “You matter. You matter so much. You always did and you always will.” in a gray speech bubble.]

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[drawing of a purple fish with pink fins saying “Keep going. You’re doing really well.” in a pink speech bubble.]

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why does p*ssy fluid prune fingers 10000x faster than any other liquid

susiethemoderator

It’s the high acidity level of the mucus from the vaginal canal. The vagina is actually very acidic. The Ph level usually varies from 3-4.5 in terms of acidity.

Strong enough to bleach any colored/type/thickness of fabric. But that’s good because that’s how it keeps itself clean from bad bacteria and other microbes. Since it’s warm, damp, and dark it’s the perfect place for bacteria to grow! But the acidic mucus only allows (for the most part) good bacteria to survive!

The reasons your fingers prune, in general, is evolutionary. So they can grab onto wet objects or onto objects in wet climates (usually swamps, bogs, etc).

SO! It’s the body responding biologically/evolutionary to the high acidic level (like different wetlands with various Ph levels). It doesn’t know your pleasuring your girl/guy/or neither, the body thinks your off to gather some grub from your nearest wetland.

#PussyFacts

briellestudies

So if you don't believe in soul mates are you just going to die single? I can see you're independent but love is a wonderful beautiful thing everyone needs their other half! I hope you find that one day:)

HOOOOOKAYYY so i get that this message was most probably sent with good intentions, but let’s get a few things straight:

there is literally nothing wrong with dying whilst not in a romantic relationship with someone.

i don’t “need” any particular person in my life. sure, i need people in general in my life, but no particular person plays such a necessary role that i wouldn’t be able to properly function without them. everyone that’s in my life is here because i want them to be; not because i need them to be.

i don’t have an “other half”. i am a whole person by myself.