delfinium

Born in 97, living in Norway. Wine+French macaroons=pleasure paradise

[poison-ivy-on-drugs]

[delfinium97]

delfinium97

It really got me thinking, cause I understand how infuriating and frustrating and how much it can anger and enrage us when someone says or does something incredibly stupid or ignorant and does not understand it, or worse, understands but doesn't care. However, how does punishing someone verbally or physically change someone's ignorant or careless mind and mentality?

From what I've seen, it does not. You can't force people to care, you can't threaten or bully people into caring to do the right thing, when you yourself are not doing the right thing.

So how do we tackle this issue then? If not with furious fists and vicious words..

I think it starts by realizing you cannot eliminate someones hatred, by being hateful. You cannot make people more accepting, loving or caring if you yourself is not accepting loving or caring. When you act violent, chances are, you will be met with violence. You cannot inspire peace, love, unity and positive changes by being cruel and hateful.

Being victimized does not justify victimsing others. Having been done wrong does not justify committing wrong doing to others. This is not justice, but revenge. Avenging someone by doing more wrong will never make anything right, so the question is, what will? What will heal the pain of having been victimized if not victimsing others does?

Here I think comes the tricky part. That to heal, you need to accept that you've been wronged, and that it helps to to try to understand why. Usually people who victimize others have deep rooted issues. The clue to healing I think is to recognize these, not necessarily to empathize, but to understand that people have wronged you cause of their own issues, and not cause of you. People don't hurt others for no reason. There is always a reason, it's just not always easy to see the reasons when you're hurting and your thoughts get clouded by feelings of anger and desire for vengeance.

So what is it that people are truly seeking? What do they really desire? I think deep down the answer is peace and to have peace, there needs to be justice, but you can't have justice without peace, and you can't have peace with a heart filled with anger. The only solution is to accept or forgive. You can't spread peace with hatred in your heart.

Stop identifying yourself as a victim and start identifying yourself as a survivor, as someone who is stronger and can rise above the pettiness, the hatred and bullying, the ridiculing and cruelty, the evil, and be kind and compassionate, caring and loving, considerate and understanding, and most of all peaceful and at peace. You cannot spread peace with violence. You cannot find happiness and peace of your own if you put that responsibility the hands of others. The only way to find peace is to take responsibility of finding your own happiness, your own peace and stop blaming and shaming others for not having it yourself, no matter how much they have wronged you, you can't give away your power like that as it will only make you feel more powerless and victimized.

Those who have wronged you does not owe you their suffering or misery. They are already suffering enough from their issues, it is not your responsibility to make them suffer more. It is your responsibility to heal and if possible support them in taking control and responsibility for their issues so they too can heal someday.

All anyone owes you is them taking accountability for their mistakes and try to be more righteous, but you cannot force righteousness, it can only be inspired by example of righteousness, by being righteous yourself. You can't do wrong in hopes people will do better. It does not work that way.

[bookwormingparty]

[fleur-aesthetic]

instagram | kpardell

[deseos-de-la-via-lactea]

[just-shower-thoughts]

One of the most bittersweet feelings has to be when you realise how much you’re going to miss a moment, while you’re still living it.

[sweetcheeksaremadeofthese]

average is a hurtful word cos it kind of means like i dont even have a feeling im not impassionately hating it or protesting it im not loving it and satiating in it its just average it gave me no feeling blahhh

[delfinium97]

does your guy ever just fall asleep

do you ever just weep cause youre fleeting the wave

does your mind ever goes amaze, unable to trace where it went

where ever your mind raced, through universal lightyears

cause that what it feels like, like im travelling in a spaceship

going so fast, but not coming any closer, any closer to the 

you see where im going, with this?

this is coming closer than ive ever been

but still so far away, lightyears away 

i need you know, but youre so far away

lightyears, see  i dont think you see

what im looking for, im looking towards

but youre minds offline, and im transferring all these thoughts

online, going faster than the speed of light, the speed of light 

seems im typing this with my eyes closed, see, i know it all far too well 

the rhythm, the beat, the sound the tune, that which you are immune

i feel like dancing, i feel like blasting, i feel like getting lost in the sound

but you're off track, youre on another channel

you see black and white and i see fireworks, radiate

everything inside me, scattering, shattering

everywhere for you, this show is for you but youre blind

you dont see, you dont see, that its me, its me

we have been holding hands, been closer than atoms possibly can be

yet you dont believe in what is unbelievably true 

unbelievably real yet none the less true

see, you dont see, youre out, not here, your mind lost in another world

and im here, the awareness, hearing the sounds of the above and beyond

hearing the sounds of hope and despair

hearing that which got me lost and found 

and here i am,i am,  moving towards a belief

something of which came from my imagination

and it feels like, like something of a dream

[closedforgoodbyelol]

[delfinium97]

word has a path, word has the worth of massive change, the change of you and me your mind, our earth, it can spiral, spiral wildly, but there is only two directions where all roads lead from and towards see, do you see, that all is in the mind, success and failure imagination, dreams, passion, desire, vividly your mind is your direction your mind is your path theres no way if you arent set, if you are determined, if you are decided on wellness you are heading towards greatness see, unbelievable things to nonbelievers happen to believers and maybe happiness is a state of mind, a state of chosen perceptive maybe we create our own happiness, our own success, regardless of other demands regardless of our restrictions, our mind is where we can find out freedom freedom in delight, in peace, freedom in hope, freedom the world is a storm, a chaos, a whirlwind, yet your feet can be planted in the ground you dont need to be ripped away with the storm, you dont have to go where it wanna take you you can stand where you wanna stand its your life, its your choice, no matter your situation, how you decide to deal with it if you decide to be miserable or happy see people manage to choose to be miserable when their conditions are beyond well, and people manage to be happy when their conditions arent well so you see what im trying to say is everything is gonna be okay if you want it to be in your heart and in your mind but if youre not ready, not ready to wanna be okay, you arent gonna be see, happiness takes effort, happiness takes caring, happiness takes motivation you gotta have a vision, you gotta make a decision, cause the ones who dont know where they going, they get lost see, i have so much wisdom, yet too lazy to take my own advice we all know whats good for us, but whats good isnt always enjoyable and easy and sometimes, sometimes we all just wanna catch our breath and say fuck it to everybodys expectations cause at the end of the day what is the good if you do all the right things if you arent happy? see, im shooting myself in the foot, shooting myself in the food, by exposing my own bullshit but hey, im flawed and not embarrassed to admit it, im working on it just like you lifes a journey, lifes a study where you grow in your knowledge, so why is everybody blaming everybody for their failures, when those failures essentially enlightens them? see, there cannot be success without failure see, do you see, yes it hurts, it hurts so bad to grow, to learn, to live, to exist sometimes its bliss, sometimes its magic, sometimes its torture but in the end, in the end, or on the road, we ride the wave we ride the wave of enlightenment though there isnt an end, just end of  chapters of books, movies, shows, but theres always more the story continues eternally why the pain? cause without the pain, no one would ever know happiness to be the greatest thing,cause it would be the only thing, like in the beggining, when everything went to shit cause everything goes to shit when we fail to value it, apprecaite it, be grateful for it, be amazed by it cause theres no amazement, no wonder, without duality and comparisons you see, theres never gonna be any greatness, without the opposition see, without the option we dont got a choice, we would be living in grey and not vivid color see, see, treasures inside, see, open your eyes to the greatness you wanna know the secret to greatness? it is to believe in what you want, to believe despite all reasons to doubt, to believe, to believe without doubt, to believe without hesitations, to have faith completely in yourself, and you will be the one praised, the one great, the one everybody calls the exception but truth is, the exceptions is the ones with faith in themselves and a relentless will we are gonna be dancing into the flashing beams of the disco light we are dancing into the future and those non believers, those who are distracted by negative and self pity, those distracted by negativity and cynicism, those are the ones the ones that is missing out missing out on paradise so, who are you? the one with faith or the non believer pulling yourself away from greatness cause you are living in fear and doubt? who are YOU?

[ellacalm]

[melisica]

[shelbytaylorexists]

JUST 👏 BECAUSE 👏 A 👏 WOMAN 👏 IS 👏 COMFORTABLE 👏ENOUGH 👏 IN 👏 HER 👏 OWN 👏 SKIN 👏 TO 👏 WEAR 👏 REVEALING 👏 OUTFITS 👏 DOESN’T 👏 GIVE 👏 ANYONE 👏 THE 👏 RIGHT 👏 TO 👏 SEXUALLY 👏 HARASS 👏 HER 👏 PASS 👏 IT 👏 ON 👏

[hallucin8]

✨🌙✨

[sexysoulfulwife]

[sheabutterbitch]

What I hate most about “someone always has it worse” rhetoric is that not only is it minimizing, it also promotes the act of using other people’s misfortune to feel better about your own situation. Instead of actually caring about the people who “have it worse,” you’d rather use their situations to say “Well, at least it’s not that bad.” I think that is such a hideous character trait and it’s very interesting that it is so often associated with good qualities like optimism and appreciation.

[delfinium97]

fuck yes... ive said this before, never got that many reblogs, so i never really knew if anyone related, but yes yes yes, im not the only one who thinks that!!

[usbdongle-deactivated20200531]

having parents that were really angry and petty and abusive when you were young is weird, because it makes part of you grow up to want to be kind, to generate good things, to be a source of peace and wellbeing for others; but it makes another part of you grow up to be quick, and sharp, and spiteful, and that’s always the part that shows itself first in a hard situation, so it’s a struggle between your hateful gut reactions and your wish to not add any more misery to the world. it’s a hard balance, and the people who really, really know me - i know they see that anger flash in my eyes before i quiet it, if i quiet it…i want to overcome years of conditioning, and with gentle, constant force, i know i’ll mellow it. it just takes time.