what i can't do by myself is figure out how to actually heal and solve my problems, but i've heard that a lot of therapists will listen to someone like me lay out all their issues clearly in the first session and just say "well i don't know how to help you, you already know so much" so like,,,,,, what's after talk therapy? if you know?
This is true, talk therapy is essentially useful for most people, especially people who tend to be a part of my audience.
It's very difficult, trying to do this kind of healing from "scratch," but there are a few key points that, for me, actually seemed to make some kind of difference.
Looking into the Theory of Structural Dissociation, and related articles you can find linked in the page (You don't need to have D.I.D in order to find this information useful and helpful): https://did-research.org/origin/structural_dissociation/
I'd also recommend looking into autism, if you suspect you might have it or not, there are some extremely useful and "mind opening" articles that I've found written on this website that I feel like a lot of people, autistic or not, should spend time looking into: https://embrace-autism.com/
Then, in terms of actual therapy, the concepts and basics of IFS/parts work therapy actually did wonders for me, though it's a very unique process, for each individual, and you don't have to follow any "guidelines" and "rules" as though they're set in stone, but understanding how and why you do the things you do is necessary. I don't have a specific resource for this, I've found a lot of information myself scattered across the internet, maybe on Reddit.
The thing about IFS, though, is while it's possible, convenient, and realistic to do on your own, I WILL say that, personally, having a therapist (with a specialty in IFS) who can offer an "outside" and "fresh" perspective is extremely useful. Maybe, if not a therapist, then someone you trust could help partake, somehow, without, like, putting any kind of burden or expectations on them to carry the weight of your healing.
Lastly, I've also done EMDR therapy, which, personally, I attempted to do alone and nothing happened, but, with a therapist, it actually caused physical sensations and changes, like, being "released" from my body, and I'd never felt anything like it before.
I hope this is somewhat helpful, this is really the "formula" that worked for me, my own personal lifestyle and habits not included. Of course, everyone has different brain chemistry and psychological needs/demands, but, in my opinion, at the very, very end of the day, I think that what I was struggling with, am struggling with, can be described as "fracturing/splitting/merging/rearranging" conscious "versions" of me (not D.I.D. alters) that don't keep one distinct shape or identity, but, like, focusing on "empathizing" with all parts of me, seeing where they're coming from, even if it freaks me out, is what really started to bring out the healing.
Oh, and, actual last thing, it's super important to challenge yourself daily with small, seemingly insignificant things. Literally just doing any new or unusual thing each day, every day, really changed and improved my creativity and overall contentment with life. It can be as random as kicking a chair for no reason, or dropping a peace of trash you were holding, only to pick it back up and throw it away. Just, like, a "disruption" in routines and patterns.
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