and i'm so fuckin weak

lex / mid 20s / dyke

[agnes-nielsens]

multifandom/personal. header & pfp from this post

i don't tag suggestive text. i do my best to tag chain posts (#rb bait)/triggers/nudity

[strictlyquadrilateral]

i read an anecdote ages and ages ago from a gay person who grew up with gay parents, and struggled to find any kind of belonging in the gay community because everyone else there was bonding over having homophobic parents. everyone else was defining themselves by their suffering and oppression rather than by their sexuality, leaving this gay person to feel like they weren't really gay because they didn't have the right experiences. they wondered whether more gay people would feel this way as more children grew up with gay parents, if the gay community would leave them behind for not having suffered enough. i think about that anecdote a lot.

a lot of the current rhetoric around gender reminds me of that anecdote. a lot of people are willing to go "transgender people are oppressed for their gender presentation, therefore if you're not oppressed for your gender presentation, you're not trans." but i don't think we should be defining ourselves by our suffering and oppression. what will we do, in a few years, in a few decades, as there start to be, say, adults who were supported in their transition as children? what will we do when a stereotypical trans person can genuinely say they didn't suffer hardship for being trans?

i'm afraid i know the answer. i'm afraid that people are going to close ranks as they've already started closing ranks against intersex people, against nonbinary people, against double binary people, against closeted people. as some people have started closing ranks against people who transitioned in the opposite direction from them. as many people have closed ranks against people with edge case gender experiences. "i don't consider you to be oppressed, therefore you are not welcome to share in this community you might otherwise belong in."

i wish people would understand that we shouldn't do this. i wish people would understand that we benefit from a broader, more inclusive community more than we benefit from whatever purity testing oppression olympics it is that i keep running into.

[mochipuchi]

yiou can only reblog this post on july 17th dont reblog it on any other day or you will be boiled

[mochipuchi]

what the fuck

[0x4468c7a6a728]

you can't boil me it's july 17th

[mochipuchi]

:)

[0x4468c7a6a728]

it's july 17th again you can't boil me

[sadomiasochasm]

Don't jerk off in anger

[fairycosmos]

i would hate to be a big fish in a small pond because that’s uncomfortable and i would hate to be a small fish in a big pond because that’s scary. why can’t they just make a pond that’s proportionate to my size

[fairycosmos]

[the-least-undefinable-ordinal]

My beloved mutuals are turning my 0 note flop posts into 1 note cult classics

[anaahera-cervizia]

#LookingAtMyOwnBlog

[loveridden1999]

what if it all worked out in my favour

[heartpdf]

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

do you ever feel yourself fail a charisma check in real time

[vrtualjin]

[unalivejournal]

If you're a man and a showrunner first of all you need to kill yourself

[ndnbutch]

I get in theory why people complain about het ships or whatever, I get wanting to watch queer media I really do, but I guess where y’all lose me is like. I saw some asshole on a post about Sinners complaining it was “hetslop”—this person was specifically doing so while also claiming Remmick was a queer character and thus they were justified in caring more about him than the Black protagonists. which is a whole other disgusting can of worms that has been well addressed by others at this point. but even in the absence of that part of the argument, like, no, i actually don’t think that a hunger for queer stories is an especially good excuse to deride and dismiss a piece of landmark Black filmmaking, especially as a non-Black person. I have a post that’s been going around encouraging folks to engage with more Native stories and characters, and I had someone come onto that post saying in the tags that they’d need these stories to be queer in order to care. and I just think that, you know, sucks! like obviously as a queer Native I also want to see more of those stories too. but idk how else to put it other than to say that Black people and people of color shouldn’t have to be like you in order for you to care about our narratives and experiences. and I think some of y’all are using this disdain for heterosexuality as a cover for your unexamined racial biases. it’s not okay to be racist to people just because those people happen to be straight, and you continue to be white before you are queer.

[ndnbutch]

on an even more basic level than that, also, I simply just think some of y’all NEED to learn how to interact with media and storytelling without ships and fandom in mind. like if not being able to write fic about two men kissing is genuinely going to be a dealbreaker for you I think that’s actually something you need to work on within yourself because at that point I think you’re no longer really interacting with art and themes and narrative so much as just kind of playing with toys. which is, like, fine I guess. have fun. but it wouldn’t kill you to disengage from that from time to time. especially if would allow you to actually appreciate rich and deeply moving cultural stories from communities of color that you desperately need to learn how to see as human

[darkspaceboytoy]

I want to send a Hi out to the whole world

[detectivehole]

"why do you know that" i am curious about the world around me

[agnes-nielsens]

lost three followers today for some reasonnn

[agnes-nielsens]

so apparently I've been mispronouncing biopic my whole life